These days, it seems that everyone’s jumping on the “work-life balance” bandwagon. Corporations wanting to appear concerned about their employees hire business coaches to run work-life balance “lunch-and-learn” seminars (and proudly announce the fact on their websites). Stress-management consultants talk about the need to find a balance between professional and personal life. Amazon.com just informed me of over 50 titles, in several different languages, for a subject search on “work-life balance.” Google’s response was over eight million page hits, starting with a lineup of seminars and workshops, self-assessments and quizzes, and even a membership organization devoted to the subject!

As a professional coach, of course I am concerned with how my clients integrate their lives. However — and this sounds somewhat contradictory — while I am firmly convinced that there is such a thing as work-life imbalance, I’m not so sure that there’s something that can specifically be pointed to on the flip side of the coin: “There. There it is. That’s work-life balance.”

For one thing, “balance” is a very personal concept. Everyone has a different viewpoint on what it takes to feel that life is in balance. It’s usually not so much a question of working fewer hours, for instance, as it is how productive you feel when you are working. While it seems likely that increased productivity would equate to fewer hours (though that could be a shaky assumption to make!), what’s really important in this case is the sense of gratification resulting from getting more done.

When we feel that undeniably painful sense of being out of balance, are we truly responding to a feeling of being on the low end of life’s see-saw, or are we responding to the fact that something else has gone awry? My experience, and that of my fellow coaches, leads me to believe that there’s usually something else going on. Imbalance issues actually range from frustrations around productivity to far more serious     concerns of whether our choices are supported by our personal (rather than corporate) values and ethics.

Ask yourself these questions about your sense of discomfort:

Do you know — really know — what your personal values are? It’s difficult to make choices and decisions in alignment with unclear values! Even psychopaths and axe murderers live according to certain standards and values, though perhaps not ones the rest of us would choose! Nonetheless, it’s my experience that most people are a little surprised — and often very pleased and proud — when they use a values-identification exercise to identify what truly speaks to them.          And it’s much easier to find your balance point if you understand what you’re staying in balance with!
 

Can you specify a particular trigger for your frustration? Is there one key or primary thing — a recurring event, for instance — that makes you feel particularly off-kilter? You will undoubtedly have multiple triggers; the goal is to identify the most irritating one first.
 

Can you give yourself permission to spend at least five minutes each morning considering your day and thinking about how you will retain your sense of balance as events progress? Ideally, this should be a time of quiet and reflection, perhaps with your calendar at hand to review upcoming meetings and deadlines. If that simply won’t work for you, then take your think-time while you brush your teeth!
Do you have answers to these questions? If you’re familiar with that out-of-balance feeling, then I challenge you to take some time — steal it from another activity if necessary! — to think and write about the thoughts that come to mind when you consider these three points. If you would like some help getting answers, see below for several options to understand your values and become a master at the art of balance.

 
In fact, since last month’s Challenge prize of a 20-minute laser coaching session was so popular, I’m offering it again this month! If you would like to explore your own personal values and learn more about how you can take control of your life and discover your balance point, email your answers to these three questions to me at gljudson@svahaconcepts.com, and I’ll contact you to set up an appointment for your 20-minute session.

“I believe that uncertainty is really my spirit’s way of whispering, ‘I’m in flux. I can’t decide for you. Something is off-balance here.’” Oprah Winfrey, American celebrity and philanthropist, 1954 – .

Grace L. Judson
gljudson@svahaconcepts.com
760.757.7660

Get Balanced!

In my years of coaching, I haven’t come across a product or program that I was even tempted to recommend to my readers. In fact, you’ve probably noticed — perhaps with a sigh of relief! — that I simply don’t promote other people’s work. That’s because there hasn’t been anything — up till now — that I felt comfortable promoting!

Having said that, I’m very pleased to tell you about my fellow coach Sherry Essig’s six-session The Art of Balance coaching program starting in September. I’m proud to say that Sherry is a friend as well as a fellow coach; her program is brilliant in its effectiveness and simple design, and truly has the potential to change your life (if you implement it!).

To read more and sign up, visit her website at The Art of Balance. I suggest you act quickly; the program is limited to eight women (my apologies, gentlemen; if you’re interested, contact Sherry through her web page and demand equal rights!), and I believe she’s offering discounted registration.

And don’t forget to send me your answers to the three questions above to receive your 20-minute coaching session!