When was the last time you shared the intimate details of your sex life with a friend? Maybe the better question is, do you have anything going on in your bedroom WORTH sharing?

Depending on whom you ask, the conversation regarding your sex life at midlife and beyond may vary. Some people think it’s a no-no to discuss what goes on in their bedroom while others like to have bragging rights.

We are the baby boomers who grew up with drugs, sex and rock-n-roll. Woodstock gave many free thinkers the opportunity to express themselves with their bodies. So what’s wrong with those of us who still have a healthy appetite for sex?

According to a survey conducted by Harris Interactive(R) of 2,000 married baby boomer men and women between the ages of 40-70, physical intimacy was determined to be as important now as it’s ever been. As a matter of fact, 84 percent of baby boomers rank physical intimacy as being important or very important. The number of boomers in the survey who rank physical intimacy as important to a successful relationship is higher than having enough money (72 percent) or even good health (78 percent).

The survey also found that only half (50 percent) of boomers surveyed are satisfied with the physical intimacy in their relationship, and 41 percent of men and 43 percent of women desire more emotional intimacy in their relationships.

Those of us who enjoy intimacy understand that great sex is the result of an excellent relationship, not the cause of it. Both women and men know being a good lover is not a matter of having extra-large physical equipment, knowing the “correct” technique, or being able to last all night. It’s a matter of knowing, understanding and caring for your partner. It’s the tenderness and caressing. It’s also a matter of communication. Letting your partner know what turns you on and guiding him/her to your pleasure spots goes a long way in keeping the flames of passion well lit.

In addition to being a Featured Writer for Fabulously40.com, Beverly Mahone is also the author of “Whatever! A Baby Boomer’s Journey Into Middle Age.” She has appeared as a baby boomer expert on a number of media programs including MSNBC and has been featured in the New York Times. To learn more about Beverly, visit her website: www.boomerdivanation.com