Top 10 reasons why Middle Aged Men do not find Middle Aged Women Attractive.
Wednesday, December 20, 2006By Beverly Mahone
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Baby, Baby, Where Did Our Love Go?
When was the last time your mate swept you off your feet with a totally romantic weekend or evening? How often does he shower you with gifts for no reason at all? Who gets more of his attention---you, his job or his friends? Have you been wondering if the spark has gone out of your relationship?
While it may be easy to point the blame at your mate for what’s wrong in the relationship, have you considered your role in the breakdown? Out of curiosity, I wanted to know what men felt was needed to keep the home fires burning, so in a totally unscientific online survey I invited them to share their thoughts on the state of romance at midlife. Out of more than a hundred responses, the following is a list of the Top 10 Reasons why middle-aged men say they don’t find middle-aged women attractive:
10. We nag too much--if you have to tell him to do something more than twice, just do it yourself.
9. We complain too much—constant complaining can lead to ailments like high blood pressure and stress. If he’s not listening, let it go. It’s not going to change anything.
8. We don’t know when to shut up—don’t you ever get tired of hearing yourself talk?
7. We‘re trying to wear the "pants" and we know they‘re "too big" (tie)—-You‘re a woman so act like one.
6. We’ve forgotten how to dress We‘re either wearing clothes that are TOO TIGHT or TOO LOOSE . Dress your age not your shoe size—and certainly don’t wear an outfit that makes you look like a whale!
5. We’ve forgotten what it’s like to have fun—-do you remember what it was like to let your hair down before you chopped it all off and decided to wear some "pants"
4. We want too much romance—if you make more money, give him all the romance he wants. And if he doesn’t want any, you save in the end.
3. We want too much foreplay—-how much hugging and kissing do you expect him to do before what goes up has come down?
2. We‘re overweight and overfed—try sending some of your food to a poor underdeveloped nation. Remember the story your mother used to tell you when you were a kid about the poor, starving children over there?
1. We take our mood swings out on EVERYBODY—Menopause is no excuse to be rude.
We stopped enjoying SEX!—-Now you wonder why he’s cheating on you?
In addition to being a Featured Writer for Fabulously40.com, Beverly Mahone is also the author of “Whatever! A Baby Boomer’s Journey Into Middle Age.” She has appeared as a baby boomer expert on a number of media programs including MSNBC and has been featured in the New York Times. To learn more about Beverly, visit her website: http://www.enjoyyourmenopause.com .
Member Comments
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jmagnoliaSilverOffline
My guy happens to love the confident, fearless way I’m living my 40’s. And we’ve been together for 20 years!
This article is something my mother would have shown me after she advised me to put on something frilly before serving supper..
If this is how this site thinks 40+ women want to be talked to, I won’t be back!
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Good grief, what an odd slant in that article! If a man doesn’t do a chore you ask, after asking twice, do it yourself?? Then he’d never do anything. Ridiculous. You might as well say bow down and be a doormat, dressed in sexy attire.
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Seriously, I do not find that most men in their early or mid 40’s view women of their age. Yes, there will always be a few who prove the rule, but moreso, I think men who are confident with themselves enjoy being with a woman who is smart, confident and not afraid to say what she means and ask for what she wants. The men surveyed for this little snippet sound like a bunch of spoiled 25 year olds. Ugh. And if they are men who are ACTUALLY in their forties, then they’ve been too busy trying to recapture their youth to notice all the wonderful ways in which they could be enlivening the romance in their relationship instead!
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totally makes sense. We have to stay young, pretty , in good mood and shape.
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SilverOffline
This article is a not accurate whatsoever. And jmagnolia, I’ve been on this site for a while and it in no way portrays what we Fabulously40 women are about.
Yes, with time, things lose their excitement. Do your 7 year olds get excited about the Wiggles like they did when they were 4??? No!!! So of course you have to use your imagination to keep the spark in a relationship. Because otherwise, with time it too can get ‘boring.’
But these top 10 reasons are nonsense. So immature…
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Since I am the writer of this article, let my clarify a couple of things. First, the survey was about what men wanted women to do to entice romance. The responses came back to the contrary. They offered the things that turned them OFF when it came to their mates. The ages of the respondents ranged from 41 to 62.
Their responses are, in no way, a reflection of the women here at Fabulously 40 (unless your husband was one of the respondents).
I think what is interesting is the fact that there are men who really think like this and sad that they have wives who must condone their attitudes and behavior.
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