There isn’t a day or a moment when you cannot be a Lover. You may be numb to Love but there will come a time when that numbness begins to unfreeze. It will pain you. It is like blood returning to a frostbitten finger. It can hurt like hell. Life will have you open your heart. Your essence is the timeless experience of Love. You can join this dance of forever but you cannot leave it. Most of us who are living in this world identified solely with time and space have forgotten this.

Why not learn to fall in Love with who you are.

Many of us feel very unloved and unloveable. Written deep into the tissues and cells of our body and mind is a script that repeats the same old messages. Only this is not the real message except that you give it all your attention. This gets you lost in time. As Mister Eckhart the great German mystic tells us, “Time is the one thing that keeps us from God,” which is another way of saying time is the one thing that keeps us from knowing what it is to be Love. We have forgotten the timeless that is the source from which we are all created and have our being in.

On Valentines Day pour yourself a luxurious bath; buy some candles and aromatherapy oils. Make your home a place that smells sensational. Get a movie that will make you laugh out loud. Telephone a friend who is in doubt or who is struggling at this time. Buy yourself the ingredients to make your favourite meal. When you cook it pour yourself into it slowly while not thinking about the past or the future.

Get some inspirational poetry or music to play on your DVD or CD player. Do something, anything that is an expression of gratitude for the life that you are given in this moment. Not the next moment, or tomorrow but right now. Do it now as a gift to yourself so that you begin to do it in the next moment. In this way you become the habit of Love which is paradoxically ever new.

Gratitude is the simplest but most profound practice.

It is one of my favourite practices because you can do it at anytime and for a long time. You can even live it forever. It allows you to expand and raise your vibrational rate so that you can receive what you want. To begin with it may feel awkward and unnatural. It is unnatural because each of us has made it so in our own lives. Lovers are not ungrateful. They are dancers of thankfulness. They say thank you for the being that they are that is not just the personality each of us identifies with and protects from harm.

Want a Valentine in your life then commit to being who you are.

Commit to Love as an inside job. This is the only place where you’ll find it that will give you any real sense of security. Then when you find it give it away without reward. This is what it is to be a Lover. All real Lovers are not beggars. They are simply like a flute that allows the music of the spheres, the music that is the resonance of Love to play through them. This is a practice. It is a risk that you have to take until you become the knowing of Love. In that knowing there is no risk at all. Until you are that knowing Love is always risky.

Risk making a fool of yourself for Love.

Risk taking time to be tender with the sweetest part of yourself. If you do not know how to be in touch with that start finding out. Do what it takes to find out. It certainly isn’t out in the world where all is change. As Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Want to be in love then be a Lover. Learn to be what you truly are. This is what it means to become as a little child.

So on this coming Valentines Day why not go beyond.

Spend time in deep awareness. Do not rush. Lovers do not rush. There is nowhere to go, nothing to do except be with what is. Be still and know that you are Love. This stillness can enter all your activities if you would practice being at the centre of who you are. This is the work of Love and it begins in the homeplace of your own heart. Begin now. Begin to be the main attraction in your life beyond your life situation. To be is to be Love. To know this is to have enough and to be enough unto your self.

This is he Blessing and you are already it.

Tony Cuckson is a Storyteller, and Anamcara. This Celtic term means “Soul Friend.” He specializes in providing insight for the spiritual journey and writes a FREE weekly ezine entitled Blessings for YOU. Visitors to Irish Blessings Matter website get the opportunity to develop a purpose driven life through articles, newsletters and other programs.

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