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A Funny Thing Happened In My Forties

By Charlene Mercadante

A funny thing happened to me in my forties.

I started to become more concerned with pleasing myself rather than everyone else around me.  I am no longer willing to squeeze myself into a pair of jeans, and give up my glass of wine or favorite margarita to do so. I am no longer willing to wrestle myself into a bra that itches like crazy but hikes the girls up under my chin (where they never were anyway), because that is the latest fashion.  

I am no longer willing to do anything that is uncomfortable for me.

I have come to understand the word surrender.  I am okay with the fact that I will not be a size 4 no matter how many starvation diets I put myself on.  I am a size 6/8/10 and have 3 sets of clothes in my closet to prove it.  

I have decided that having a few girlfriends who understand a real friendship and are always there for me, is so much better than having a group of women who pursue a one sided relationships with me and don't really care.  

A funny thing happened to me in my forties,turning 40

I've learned to say no when asked to work too many projects at my son's school, and I've learned to consider my feelings first and not feel guilty for doing it.  

I have finally realized that being comfortable is an attitude.  It's no accident, that in my forties I began my association with Jockey Person to Person, the 4th division of Jockey International. They too believe, that no matter what size you are- extra small or extra large, you can look beautiful and be comfortable.

Ladies, take comfort in your forties, fifties, and sixties- be yourself and be relaxed.

About the Author

Charlene Mercadante  is a Pathfinder Team Leader with Jockey Person to Person. She is 46 and lives in Belmont, CA with her husband of 15 years and two boys, ages 13 and 11.  She can be reached at

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