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Building a Bridge to Confidence and Success

By Veronica Bromes

Confident people feel good about themselves, build better personal relationships and are more successful at work. They are confident when interacting with others, whether speaking in front of a group, over the telephone or at a job interview.

Self-confidence is a reflection of your self-esteem and when you lack confidence, you shy away from interacting with people. At work as well as in your personal life, low self-confidence impedes progress and denies you many opportunities. Confidence is a necessary skill in any interview situation, including making a presentation at an Assessment Centre. In interviews, your level of confidence will be obvious to interviewers and could influence how they perceive you and how they assess your credibility.

The Self Confidence Quiz

Take the short quiz below and find out how much further you need to travel to increase your confidence.


1) Introverted nature, shy. (YES/ NO)

2) Realize you need to change from feeling battered emotionally, demoralized or indulging in a ‘self-pity party‘. (YES/ NO)

3) Feeling inadequate because you lack social skills. (YES/ NO)

4) Do not think skills in child rearing have any relevance in the workplace. (YES/ NO)

5) Feeling you’ve lost out on learning new skills because you were out of work for several years (YES/ NO)

6) Conscious that you are projecting a poor image of yourself. (YES/ NO)

7) Afraid to move outside your comfort zone - stepping off your turf. (YES/ NO)

8) Feeling so overwhelmed by inadequacies that inaction seems the best response. (YES/ NO)

How Did You Score?
Read on to find out what your responses suggest.

  • Seven or eight NO responses. You have a high level of self-confidence. You present yourself well and interact easily with others and will become an asset to your employers and a valuable team member.
  • Four to six NO responses. You would benefit from spending some time on self-evaluation and analysis. Challenge yourself to move beyond your comfort zone and invest in some short-term courses in personal development and effective communication.
  • Less than 4 NO responses. You need to take action immediately. Invest now in your personal development -and it does not always require a financial outlay, but your time. Find a career or personal development coach/mentor. Someone who can help you find answers to troubling questions and source solutions to assist you on the journey from tired and uncertain job seeking Mom to confident and employable you.

10 Tips To Overcome Low Self-Confidence

1. Step out of your comfort zone and attempt new tasks. Create novel strategies for action, meet new people and visit new places.

2. Develop your knowledge and stay current. Keeping informed will give you confidence. Extend the breadth of your information gathering so you are current and share up-to-date rather than outdated information.

3. Recognize and value the importance of continuing to learn -lifelong learning. It does not have to be a formal course, as we learn in different ways and from various experiences -our own, those of our families and friends and, sometimes, even from strangers.

4. Develop strong thinking skills. Being a Mom and responding to numerous questions from your child has prepared you for this, so show how much you have learned. You will have more successful outcomes when you are able to think quickly when on your feet or seat in an interview and respond well to questions asked by interviewers.

5. When you cannot find a suitable response, ask for time to address it later, before the end of the interview. This shows you are thinking and prepared to do your best.

Building a Bridge to Confidence and Success

6. Don’t let setbacks get you down. Identify what you have learned from each situation and ensure you don’t repeat the actions that caused them.

7. Learn to express your ideas - fluently and in a way that engages people. Hone your skills by signing up to a public speaking or presentation skills course or get advice from a Trainer or Speaker who appears confident and demonstrates the skills of speech craft.

8. Model the behavior of confident people you encounter, especially those people with whom you interact regularly.

9. Visualize yourself in situations where you were comfortable and felt confident. Now remember how you felt and retain that feeling of pleasure for a few seconds. If you can recreate that feeling you’ll find that you can actually change the way you feel right now. This technique is known as ‘anchoring‘. Use this anchoring technique when you feel the need to boost your self-confidence.

10. Recognize your own abilities and experience, do not undervalue them. If you can mentally ‘pat yourself on the back’ about what you know already, your self-esteem and confidence will increase. Give yourself that boost!

For more useful free tips on public speaking, visit Veronica Broomeswho shares numerous useful tips and quotations, or sign up to her blog 

Full citation: © 2008 Veronica Broomes

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