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Interracial Dating

By David Butler

Dating someone from a different race or ethnic background, known as interracial dating, is still an uncomfortable subject in many quarters.  However, the barriers are coming down quickly, as witnessed by the growing number interracial dating sites worldwide. Leading the way are single Christians.  

While Christian interracial dating or married couples can live peacefully in most urban societies of the world, they may still be stigmatized in rural areas, and sadly even within the confines of their own church and family.  

Therefore, any single Christian thinking about interracial dating should prepare for success by asking themselves the following questions:  

What would your family and friends say if you told them you were dating someone from a different race or ethnicity?  

    

If family and friends react negatively to interracial dating, what would be your response?    

How will you and your interracial date respond to societal disapproval and outright racism?    

Prejudices could come in forms ranging from staring at a restaurant or church, to ostracizing and outright physical threats.Have you and your interracial dating partner openly discussed cultural differences, and their implications if the dating relationship were to culminate in marriage?

Openly and honestly go over the above questions first by yourself, and then together with your interracial dating interest. This excercise will give you an indication of whether or not this interracial dating relationship could be successful.

The longest lasting interracial dating relationships and marriages are those which are able to weave the best of both cultures into unison with each other.

Finally, despite the increase in the number of interracial dating singles, many find it difficult to meet others in their everyday walk of life.This one of the several reasons why online interacial dating sites and services have become popular.  

David Butler, the author of this article, is a minister to singles, and has a website, Christian Dating Service PLUS!, geared toward meeting their needs.


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      Marie Hempsey wrote Nov 21, 2008
    • I never got the “interracial ” word. Aren’t we all one race...The Human Race??
      I just don’t get prejudices at all. I do not get hate at all.
      We are the world, love makes the world go around and variety is the spice of life.

       What else needs to be said???
      I just don’t get peoples hang ups about this.



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      Coachmombabe wrote Nov 21, 2008
    • Color is beautiful!



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      Leadinladytracy wrote Nov 21, 2008
    • I hate that we still have racial issues in this country. However I have noticed a difference with the older generation (my parents age) and the younger generation. If our younger generation continue on the path they are going, it will just be called dating a person you like instead of interracial dating.  

      We all bleed the same color blood, we are all a member of the human race and I will be so happy when race is no longer an issue!



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 21, 2008
    • I’m white and I’m married to a black man. I don’t see color in him. Honestly, I can’t think of a time where we’ve seen prejudice. Well, my aunt from Michigan - wanted to find a way to keep us from getting married - but that’s it.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 21, 2008
    • These are great answers! It is my hope that our society continues to mature on this issue. It shouldn’t have mattered years ago, that will always be a shameful aspect of our world, and it shouldn’t matter now.

      My grand daughter is a mix of so many different ethnicities I call her my beautiful little rainbow.



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      Roxanne wrote Mar 12, 2009
    • I am presently dating a gentleman from Africa. I dont see color, I see a man I love. I believe it takes people who think outside the box and who have a sense of humor to truly appreciate a multi-cultural relationship. It is women like us who can pave the way for an unbiased world. We need not judge others, but educate, and recognize that a world cannot change overnight but with patience, one person at a time can change there attitude toward multiculturalism! I am very blessed to have this wonderful man. We will together, be blessed in leading the future for others to follow.



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      Cynthia Mayfield wrote Mar 23, 2009
    • My fiance is White.  Jimmy is one of the greatest guys that I’ve ever known. I’ve had a lot of relationships with Black and White guys, but no one has been so attentive than he has been with me.  The way he treats me is so much more important than his race.



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      Mochadoll wrote Apr 13, 2009
    • My family would be just happy that I found someone to share my dreams with.  Someone to share my hopes with.  Someone to help me deal with the pressures in my life with my depression about the loss of my son (2004) and my mother (1999).

      Good luck to everyone out there and God bless and keep you.

      K



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      Kandi wrote Apr 21, 2009
    • I was married to an African-American/ Native-American man. Although the marriage didn’t go well, it was certainly not due to racial issues. I did get two beautiful daughters which are the joys of my life.  

      I get very angry about some people’s hangups about interracial relationships. I feel sorry for the people who are so small-minded about it. I received some hurtful comments about my daughters over the years. In my family I have nephews and nieces who are part Japanese, Mexican, and Native American. We are a family and our combination of ethnicities are beautiful!
      When my daughter gets asked what race she is she replies :I’m of the human race! I think it is a concept that needs to be embraced!



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      Maryet37 wrote May 30, 2009
    • Kandi,

      Your daughters are beautiful.  I know you know this :)
      You are blessed!!!



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      Codequeen wrote May 30, 2009
    • I have mixed girls too. I call myself the ‘International Qween” My oldest is black, my middle is white , and my baby is mexican. BMW. Love is Love there is no color.



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      Jillianne02 wrote Jun 11, 2009
    • WOW  Ladies!  I have enjoyed the comments here so much!  I am new here but am already reaping so much.  

      I am 56 and loving life so much more now!  And I have the love and admiration of several men in my life.  The most important to me is a young African man from Ghana - 30 years younger in age, but hard years, life is hard in Africa, and he seems so much older. We are so bonded and share so much laughter and love it even freaks me out sometimes. We started out as pen pals almost 3 years ago and have talked every day all this time.  He calls me 2 times a day and we spend time on webcam a little every day also.  

      He wanted to know about what life is really like here in the USA. Since then we have shared so much about GOD, Life, our different cultures, music, food, everything.  He is drop dead handsome, a real hunk, intelligent, so funny and truly a praying man.  If I were younger I would count it all joy to bear his children, all 12 of them.  Well maybe not 12, atleast 2 or 3. hahahahaha  

      Truly God in Him has changed my heart! I have never been happier in my whole life as I am now...and that is saying a lot!  

      So I will echo also that  LOVE, REAL LOVE, SEES NO COLOR, KNOWS NO BOUNDARIES, AND KNOWS NO AGE.  hahahaha  It is so funny that the greatest love in my life comes just when I thought life was coming to an end and I certainly did not want or need a man in my life. God must surely be laughing at this unorthodox relationship.  I have broken all the rules of my somewhat puritanical upbringing.  

      It is being with someone who makes you feel alive, who stimulates you spiritually, mentally, and physically, and makes you bless GOD every morning you wake up that someone like Isaac loves you with such passion! In a few months I will spend time with him in Africa, and I am so excited.    

      At 56 my advice is allow life to happen, allow love to overwhelm you, and go against the tide of expectations, and even swim upstream in cold water, if it makes you happy and hurts no one else.   There will always be those who will judge you, but as they judge you, so they will be judged.

      “There is Joy in the Journey, Peace at All times, and Love Profound!”



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      Jmarie wrote Apr 5, 2010
    • LOVE is beyond color........... Love is an emotion of all colors........



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      Melanie Morgan wrote Jan 7, 2011
    • I think in the U.S., which is supposedly the freest country in the world, is the most uptight or racist sometimes.  I do not mean to generalize, but it seems that way.  I have dated different races and unfortunately on my side of the family, there were some racist relatives. It did not rub off on me and I am proud of that.



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      Shawn Keith-Bashelor wrote Feb 19, 2012
    • I don’t mean to sound crude, I haven’t heard of any surveys on dating, but I notice a lot more dating between the races with military service people. When I met my husband, we were not saved, I’m a pastor’s daughter too.
      I met him in Texas at Ft.Hood. I did date a few service men, but they were not for me. If you truly have an interest in another person, by all means, ask them out and don’t worry about what the whole world thinks. Racists are EVERYWHERE. I am an african american(W/caucasin-w/cherokee indian mixed)My husband is caucasin and we have been together 22 years and married 20 years. And when I met my husband, I wasn’t even looking to date anyone just trying to get rid of my puppy. Good Luck to all and God Bless.



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