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When you were in high school, chances are you spent a lot of time with your friends. You probably talked on the phone with them regularly, discussing everything from that killer biology exam to your latest crush. Maybe you went shopping together on the weekends, or went to the pool once a week in the summer.
Now that high school is behind you, do you still spend time with your female friends? If you do, that’s wonderful. But many of us stay so busy with our families and careers that maintaining friendships gets pushed to the side. Maybe we’ve grown apart from our old friends, or maybe we’ve moved far away and not made any new ones.
While our families can success at work are fulfilling, we need the support of our peers. Why? Here are a few reasons:
1. Sometimes we need a shoulder to cry on. No matter how great things are with your family and job, no one’s life is perfect. When things go wrong, it’s good for us to have someone to talk to about it. Our female friends can give us advice, or they can just lend a sympathetic ear.
2. Our family members and significant others do not always share our interests. Having friends that we have interests in common with can give us the opportunity to discuss them without their eyes glazing over.
3. You can be yourself with your friends. As wives, mothers, careerwomen, or any combination of those three, women tend to get caught up in the needs of others and forget about the things that make them unique. Friends give us the incentive to revisit the things we’ve been missing.
Connecting With Old Friends and Making New Ones
Old friends that you’ve lost touch with are great for helping you rediscover forgotten interests. You can also reminisce about good times you had in the “old days” with them. So pick up the phone and give them a call, or email them. If you don’t have their current contact information, their families or mutual friends might be able to help.
Making new friends is also good for you. Getting out and meeting new people can really boost your morale. Some good places to make friends include playgroups for the kids, church functions, and PTA meetings.
Even those of us who can’t seem to find the time to leave the house can connect with others, thanks to the Internet. There are lots of online communities where we can go to find women with similar interests. Finding a good group can provide us with peer support that we can access at our convenience.
In today’s impersonal world, it’s more important than ever for women to stick together. Whether it’s in person or via email, connecting with other women can enrich our lives in many ways. So call up an old friend, or make an effort to make some new ones. You’ll be glad you did.
Anita Leverington is the resident editor of Relationships Information at http://www.Schmoozins.com - an online magazine for women that gives all women a voice. Join us as a contributor, schmoozer or just hang out a while.
Don’t let it be only because we have a common cause that we stick together. Be like the first day of kindergarten when it was so easy to be friends.
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I wish I had a real true girlfriend that I could stick close to and share my most inner secrets with but I don’t.
"Be naked in the splendor of the truth of who you are"
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My mom was always that person for me....I told her everything....not that she would tell me everything but I knew she would listen like a friend vs my mom. I find that too many women want to one up you so it makes it hard to share.... I have many dear and close friends but those deep inner thoughts are now only shared with my husband or with God.
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I have a BFF (best friend forever) and I love her to death. She is like a sister to me and I thank God for her every day. We have been friends for the last 12 years.
Every woman needs a BFF. It helps to have someone who can tell you when you are being self-centered. We all need someone to keep us grounded and we do that for each other.
Apart from my mom, I have two very close and dear friends, one I have know for 43 of my 47 years and the other I have known for about 27 years. Both these women thought we live not just miles but hours and hours apart, one overseas have proven to be my pillars and I have been a pillar for them in return. We don’t take each other for granted and might at times have to show each other some tough love, but we are there for each other and it is a beautiful union.
I have also had friends that I just had to walk away from, they harboured too much negativity and self righteousness. Such relationships were stifling and oppressive
Unfortunately my best friend is in England..so we don’t get to communicate as much as we’d like...She has her ‘gurls’ and I’m developing mine..But we know that our bond is a strong one..It’s survived 26 years of us not being around each other...
Now I have a new ‘bestie’ and some other good friends that I have met on here..and I so look forward to learning more about these special and wonderful women that I’ve had the pleasure of knowing...We all need to have one, or two, or five good friends who can tell you like it is..and still survive...lol
I have a friend who I love and cherish (sorry lovesheart for calling you out) but I want everyone to know what a blessing you are. She has been there for me when I needed someone the most and I thank God for her everyday.
I love her dearly and I will always have her back. Through thick and thin. Friendships are hard to find and keep, so when you‘re blessed with one or maybe two, nourish and water it and it will grow into something strong and lasting.
May God bless you all and Happy Holidays!!
I'm very lucky I've three very old friends who I adore and are like diamonds in a hard sky. They were my rock during the worst of my illness and made my life so positive – I can't tell you how much they have given to me.
I also have a new friend who came into my life unexpectedly and has been a huge ray of light and has made me cry with laughter most nights – she has the most giving personality and best of all she just is unique.....
I feel very blessed in this area and appreciate them all the time for their love, friendship and warmth and most of all for being them.
I have many great girl friends but they live far away, because I have moved to a new country to marry the man of my dreams. Not being able to work has limited the amount of people I can meet, and I have become very lonely.
After spending most of my life surrounded by family and friends, I now realize that I truly took them for granted.
My best friend and I talk at least 3 times a week but it is not the same as having someone to share a day together just doing stuff together, shopping, lunch, etc
How do we as fab over 40’s meet new friends..
my husband says I need to get out and just meet people, I think going door to door is out of the question. LOL
Love this post and love connecting with new friends! Thanks for Fabulously40 forum, Yana.
I am like most women - my long term friends aren’t local so we chat via e-mail, text and phone. I have gals I work with but it is hard to connect when we can’t get past the job and their lifestyles are way different - too much drama so here I am.
Yana - thank you for making this place for us to find women who know our joy and pain, laughter and tears. I look forward to being friends with many of you here.
I’m a brand new member, and was “exploring” the site when I ran across this discussion....so I’m jumping right in!
I am divorced, and have no further interest in dating, but my life is far from lonely. I have a group of the most wonderful friends anyone could ever hope for, and they help fill my life with laughter, friendship and support.
My very best friend, Yoly, has been with me all my life. She is my dear sister, and my most devoted friend. We are as one, and can count on each other for anything, and (besides, we also have FUN together 
). I consider myself the luckiest woman ever to have her in my life!
I also have a number of long time friends, some of whom I’ve had since High School (and that, ladies, was a loooong time ago!). These “girls” are the best! I think it’s the shared history and values we share that help keep us close, but whatever it is,we make time to get together often, and always have a great time.
And, last, but certainly not least, I have my newer, but equally special girlfriends. These are girls I’ve met more recently, but who are all terrific!
Between my friends and my wonderful family, I don’t get bored very often! I can always call on a girlfriend to talk, share a laugh or shed a tear.
I hope to make more friends on this site. Girlfriends are the best!
What a great topic! Definitely worthy of re-discussing! And after reviewing my answer from way back then. I still miss my mom and she is still my closest confidant. However the women on here have made me rethink the other women friendships and the one up ness (is that a word?).
Vikki
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I am very thankful for Fab40 as I consider many women here my friends..it means a lot to me!
I have lost touch with past friends, for many reasons, but this article may encourage me to re-connect. As of this time, I have one very sweet friend who lives down the street..everyone else in my life is an acquaintance.
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