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Your Wardrobe and You

By Staff

There comes a time in every woman's life when mini skirts, spaghetti strapped tank tops, daisy dukes and low rise jeans are not viable options.  

There are two things that in life that can curtail your closet in such a way:  

1. Becoming a mother
2. Turning 40.  

As much as our society likes to push the idea that age is nothing but a mental construct used to evaluate our relative time on earth, you can't deny that there's something to be said for this very statement of fact.  There is time and place for everything.

 

The do's and don't's of wardrobe maintenance

women over 401. Do not, I repeat DO NOT shop in the junior's department  

At any stores, not as long as you're shopping for yourself.  To put it plainly, this section is designated over all others in the store, to be for teenagers and very young adults only.  It's understandable that you don't want to become matronly once you have kids and or hit 40, but going in the opposite direction will give you a different kind of undesirable look.  Low rise jeans and sparkly screen print T's aren't going to give you a youthful, hip look—they're going to make you look ridiculous.  

2. Less is more.

This rule applies to makeup, ostentatious and revealing clothing, and formalwear.  Let's tackle makeup: the more you put on, the more years you add as well.  Remember that weird aunt who you mistook for a clown at a family reunion when you were 6?  I guarantee you it was because she packed on the foundation, blush and eye makeup.  Don't make a spectacle out of yourself.  If that little memory doesn't hit it home, then think about how little makeup you wore as a younger woman.  Youth is beauty, it's been said, but maybe a more accurate statement is: the appearance of youth is beautiful.

3. As for flashy attire

Casual and formal, you don't want to stick out like a neon thumb.  For formal dinners, banquets etc., stick with classic colors like black, brown and champagne.  Avoid strapless and spaghetti-strapped gowns; despite what your intuition says, this style ages you.  

The next tips are just for moms.

1. No pajamas outside of the house.

No bathrobes, underwear, lack or underwear etc.  When you take your kids to school in the morning, it's early, and chances are you didn't get a full cup of coffee before hustling out the door.  Frantic morning are no excuse not to get dressed, or at least put on sweats instead of pajamas.  

2. Don't borrow your daughter's clothes.

You're a full grown adult, remember?  Your teenage daughter is entitled to her set of fashion rules, and you should stick to yours.  If fun clothes are what you want, try asking a sale's associate at a department store for some pointers.  You can look young and with it without having to plunder your daughter's closet.

3. Though not necessarily exclusive to moms, please wear bras.  

After kids, your girls aren't in the condition they once were and going outside without a bra just isn't appropriate, or flattering.  If anything, more supportive bras will give you your old figure back without the expense of surgery.


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      Marsha Hallet wrote Nov 7, 2009
    • At [Link Removed] we have styles for the executive woman who wants to look age appropriate and stylish.  Our use of optical illusion in the design flatters your figure and makes you appear 5 lbs thinner.   Take advantage of our 40% off sale going on now.

      Thank you,
      Marsha


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      Doreen XoXo wrote Nov 7, 2009
    • NO truer words were ever spoken!!

      xoxo



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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 7, 2009
    • Excellent advice! I need to print this and discreetly leave it at the post office for one of the counter postal workers.
      EEEEEEWWWWWW! Everytime I go in she is there and bra less. And she isn’t sportin little itty bittys either.....YUCK!



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      Marya1961 wrote Nov 21, 2009
    • great ideas...my only question is what if you are petite and the women’s petite clothing just doesn’t suit your taste..any suggestions?



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      Doradali wrote Jan 12, 2010
    • My Best advice would be to tailor your clothes to fit.. Find yourself a good tailor and have them size the clothing down.. may be pricey but definitely worth it!



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      Pvj4853 wrote Jan 18, 2010
    • I love my low rise pants!



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      Darnie1 wrote Jan 23, 2010
    • If your clothes aren’t looking as good on you as they used to and you need an instant self esteem BOOST. Please check out the BODY MAGIC.  I swear by them,and I wear one everyday. They give you an instant hour glass figure.  They are comfortable and it has me feeling so good about the way my clothes look and fit.  You can actually drop 2-3 dress sizes in ten minutes. heart  Please check out the before and after pictures on www.BodyMagicGarments.com to see what I mean.  They even have T-Shirts for men.  My hubby loves the Mens Abdomen T-Shirt.  He looks like he has a six pack with it on too. happy



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      Msj wrote Feb 12, 2010
    • LOL to Vikki! that is hilarious



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      Margiescuties wrote Apr 13, 2010
    • Me too! I hate pants to my waist. LOL! I do get some clothes at the Juniors Department, but I have my Mom (who is a professional seamstress) do the proper alterations to fit them properly or change a couple features. The result is awesome. My profile pic shows an outfit purchased ALL at the Juniors Department and, of course, with the proper alterations done my my Mom (who is 67, size 8, wears the same type of clothes, and receives all kind of compliments by the opposite sex) happy



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      Suzann wrote Apr 15, 2010
    • Excellent advice. I’m just 5-feet tall, so there’s a lot of alterations that constantly need doing. I can do hems myself, but the rest is fairly expensive.

      I agree with you about the Junior Department. I used to try to shop there because of my height, but you‘re so right, it’s just not designed for grown women. Besides, all the stuff is short waisted.

      Namaste,
      Suzann
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      Daisy85 wrote May 3, 2010
    • Very true.  I could not agree more with the “less is more” rule.  Elegant and understated...



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      Tawnya McVicker wrote Jun 5, 2010
    • I totally agree with the less is more, and the junior department shopping.  My problem is that I am thick in the middle and can either get jeans to fit in the butt and bulge over the top or fit the waist and sag in the butt.  I am also old enough not to buy jeans without a tiny bit of lycra



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      Bren61 wrote Sep 3, 2010
    • There is a huge difference between high waisted mom jeans and low rise jeans.  Go for the midrise.  I’m 5‘3“, 105 pounds, wear 00 or 0 and I’m 48 years old.  I can easily wear clothes in the juniors department but they are very immature and silly looking.  I wear midrise jeans, t-shirts, beautiful sweaters, boots, jewelry, etc and always try to look age appropriate.  I’m in Texas where the summers are very hot but short shorts on over 40 legs are just not appropriate.  Mine have a 7 inch inseam (or a little longer) which is still comfortably short but not silly looking.



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      Alina Bartell wrote Jan 7, 2011
    • Great article. It does get bit more tricky when you pettite and slim because you can get away with more. I like winter because I can get shorter skirts with leggings or over the knee socks  and shorter boots without looking too silly. Stylish and elegant is good but on casual days one needs to add some fun, too. My rule is to add just one item that is a bit more funky or whimsy, not more.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Feb 1, 2011
    • Eddykahlyre I too think you should dress for your body type vs age. I hope I don’t look matronly in my black. I also won’t wear some of the stuff my kids wear.....

      And bras are always a must!



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      Karen M wrote Feb 13, 2011
    • I usually only shop in the junior dept. Misses sizes have a bagginess on me. A juniors 7/8 or 9 fits me the best. Though I like the ANA collection at JcPenney.

       I like low and mid rise jeans. I get compliments on my outfits alot, I don’t dress ridiculous, like I don’t wear silly graphic tshirts or short mini’s but I think a nice pair of midrise jeans and a babydoll top and a shrug is cute. I have long blonde hair and have read that I should be wearing it shorter, bit again, I keep my hair in good condition and think it looks good like it is; I don’t think all the dressing rules are so so black and white.



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      Denise Richardson wrote Apr 12, 2011
    • hearthappyI’m so glad to see someone else thinks the same as I do for those of us 40+.estatic



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      Cathie Beck wrote Apr 12, 2011
    • I don’t think dressing rules should be so black and white either. I’m not going to dress up in “old lady clothes” because of my age number (62). I won’t be going braless or wear mini skirts and skin tight T-shirts, and I like shorter boots because they actually make my legs look longer in my skinny jeans (that aren’t skin tight).  

      I have mirrors to make sure I look good and I’m a harsh, realistic critic. ;oD  

      Cathie



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      Saylor101 wrote Sep 1, 2011
    • i’m also 5 ft 2, 110 lbs and wear a Juniors size 3. Some 2’s are okay and 4’s are always too big.  

      I believe that “nice” “appropriate” styles can be found in ANY section...it all comes down to being realistic about your body type and the situation you are dressing for happy

      Turning 47 this year - I did find myself re-evaluating some of my “play” clothes from the previous years...

      I like fun playful clothes for around the house or cook-outs, but have plenty of classic, classy, appropriate things for weddings, theater, dinner parties etc....

      Dress for the situation, dress for your body type, but age. . . well - - I’m just not 47 in mind, body or spirit!



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      Sonya Yount wrote Sep 11, 2011
    • I live the smokey eye look, but with age, the way I am used to doing it looks too dramatic on me at my age. What is your advice?

      Sonya the clown, lol



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      Sonya Yount wrote Sep 11, 2011
    • Love not live...iPod woopsies

      Sonya



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      Elliekat wrote Sep 13, 2011
    • As I read this I am dressed from head to toe in my 16 year old daughters clothes.  Ironically, she wore the new sweater and tee shirt I recently bought for myself today.  I suppose we are both no-nos.  estatic



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      Happygirl71 wrote Nov 1, 2011
    • That’s why I felt I need a change in me as I turned 40.... hate to admit but it is...frown



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      Katrinastorm wrote Aug 20, 2016
    • I'm beg to differ.  I'm 43 & still look fabulous in clothes I've owned for 17 years.  if your site but allow me to upload a photo I certainly would!!!



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