You have to applaud the Dove commercials for their contribution to the acceptance of natural body shapes and aging. It is high time we redefined beauty in our culture. Chasing the impossible illusion of beauty created by a photoshop-mad world is frustrating to say the least.

Self-loathing is all too common among women and for many their self-esteem takes a beating as they struggle with aging. We are constantly bombarded with images of sexy, svelte, lean, trim, YOUNG, perfect bodies everywhere. We watch as celebrities defy aging for as long as possible with the help of plastic surgery.

Some decide that they need to hide their aging bodies from their partners and sometimes even from them selves. Mirrors become the enemy. Be brave and embrace your sexuality. The majority of you have partners that find you attractive and sexy. Show off a little and enjoy the reaction.

You do not have to be the perfect shape, or perfect age to be sexy. But getting in shape can definitely boost those sexy feelings. Being physically active and fit boosts your self-esteem and tends to help you feel better about your body, both of which can lead to feeling sexier.

Even an old house looks better when it is painted. Grooming is essential. A woman of any age who is clean, well groomed, wearing a little make up and dressed in flattering clothes just looks better.

Self-acceptance is a huge part of aging sexily. Being comfortable with you body, yourself, and life can help you feel much more attractive. Confidence and self-acceptance can be very sexy on a woman.

To Age Sexily:

•Don’t dress like you are 16
•Don’t dress like you are 90
•Do choose clothes flattering to your body type
•Don’t wear clothes that are too tight or too baggy
•Throw or give away any clothes that make you look or feel frumpy
•Take care of your hair, skin and nails
•SMILE and enjoy life

Feeling sexy has less to do with how you look than it does with what is going on in your mind. If you want to age sexily begin by thinking of yourself as sexy.

Susan DerryProfessional Counselor & Life Coach

Co-author of Intimate Sex: Manual for Lovemaking, a sex manual for couples
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Co-creator of a Healthy Weight Loss System.
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