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When I was growing up, my family was not well off.  My parents were divorced and my mother did not work and had Multiple Sclerosis.  She had trouble walking and went from a cane to a walker and finally to a wheelchair.  She did not drive.

My mom did get some child support from my dad but I also remember she would sew me some clothes or get me clothes from the thrift stores.  During the holidays, we would get food baskets and toys from the Salvation Army.  I’m pretty sure we were on food stamps and welfare too.

We also moved around a lot to different apartments.  There were four of us.  My two brothers shared a bedroom and I shared a bedroom with my mom.  These weren’t the best apartments either...I remember one being infested with cockroaches and another one, where there was some domestic violence in the apartment below.  My mom never owned a house.  When I was a teen, one of my brothers bought a house and we lived with him.

Flash forward 30 years or so and I feel that my two boys are in a much better place thankfully.  They have both parents, we live in a house, and don’t lack food.  Everyone is healthy and I work.  My husband stays home with the kids to save on daycare.  Since my oldest was born 7 years ago, we’ve only moved once.  Both of our sons have their own rooms.  Yes, I feel that both of my sons have a pretty good life.  I still shop at thrift stores for them since you can find pretty good clothing at very inexpensive prices and money is pretty tight since we have only one income.  We rarely eat out...we just cook something at home.

This holiday season I’m thankful for our health, our home, my family, and their love.  Money can’t buy the most precious gifts like love, health, and happiness.

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      Vikki Hall wrote Dec 17, 2010
    • Diane that is so precious!



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      Lazylola wrote Dec 17, 2010
    • Diane, I can relate to your background...my oldest had a crazy childhood....as a single mom I moved that poor kid around so much, the younger too, just not as much or as often. You are doing a great job, and as parents that’s all we can do, give our kids the best we can.  

      I used to shop at thrift stores too, but now I find stuff cheaper at regular stores...I just try to hit the clearance racks.

      Merry Christmas to you and yours my friendheart



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      Mztracy wrote Dec 17, 2010
    • Diane, I do not know what to say. Your story touches me deeply, relating to your mom’s illness.  

      We do the best we can with what we’ve got! heartheart



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      Cathie Beck wrote Dec 17, 2010
    • I can relate, Diane, my mother suffered from depression. I’m 3rd oldest of the 10 kids she had, so I took care of my younger siblings, except the last born when I was 18 and on my own. I was working at 12 years old. I did inherit her artistic talents and I remind younger siblings of all the good things we had in our life from her. She passed away in March this year. She always rallied around for the holidays and Christmas was fun and memorable in
      spite of a low income and she made them special.  

      I’m glad you shared this with us so we could share back with you.  

      Merry Christmas!  

      Cathie



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      Diane17 wrote Dec 17, 2010
    • Thank you all for your kind words.  I honestly don’t know how my mom managed to raise 3 kids by herself, being sick with MS, no job, and not much of a support system.  All her family lived in Bolivia and she was here in United States alone.  She was a deeply religious woman and I really think that’s what helped her tremendously.

      Parenting is a difficult job even with both parents around and actively participating.  My hat’s off to all of you single parents out there.

      Merry Christmas!!



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      Anne E wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • You‘re doing a great job Dianne!  Your mom would be so proud! heartheart



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      Cheekymonkey wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • Dianne, your really giving your mother the best gift a child can. As parents we always want our children to do better than us and to remember and respect the job we did raising our children. You have done both. Thats a wonderful gift to give back.
      My mother also had ms and Im in utter awe of your mother. What strength she had. And she past that on to you which Im sure your passing on to your boys.
      You should be very proud of yourself!
      Thank you for sharing its inspirational and a great thing at Christmas.
      Merry Christmas to you and your family



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