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It was bound to happen.  It seems that being a part of social networks is a hobby of mine.  There are 3 networks where i am most active and recently i’ve reconnected with many people from my past...specifically, high school.

High School wasn’t always a fun place for me.  I had friends in all the different circles; jocks, preps, brainiacs, partiers, etc.  I didn’t stick too tightly to any one particular group but migrated from circle to circle depending on my mood.  The caste system of high school is so obvious and so clearly defined when you‘re NOT one of the popular kids.  But, as i have learned over the years, popularity is largely perception.

As I mentioned in my “Classmate Search” blog, i’ve been working on updating contact info in preparation for the reunion committee.  I posted on my FB status last weekend that i’d like any members of my class to send me their updated info and on Monday evening, while banging around Facebook, a chat box appeared on my screen.  It was from a guy who graduated a year ahead of me.  He opened the conversation with, “You‘re a sweetheart!”  I haven’t spoken one word to this guy since before he graduated and this is how he begins a chat?  Okay...i’ll bite.  “Thank you for that nice compliment but why do you say i’m a sweetheart?”  He then begins to tell me how sweet it is that i’d work so hard on the class reunion stuff, etc...all the while tossing “sweetie“, “hon” and other endearments my way.  ICK!  He then asked if i remembered him.  I told him i did and he said, “You remember walking by me in the halls.”  Terrific...this guy is looking for 30-year-old validation.  I responded with, “I remember playing cards with you in SAC.”  I was hoping that would diffuse whatever he thought he was brewing...but NOOOOOO...he’s quicker on the slimy uptake than i am on the smoothing over. He said, “I probably lost to you.  I always lose to the pretty girls...still do.”  Ugh!  I’m so uninterested in this back-and-forth AND i’m beginning to feel like i need a shower!  So, in an effort to pull the plug on this icky conversation, i said i needed to rescue my daughter from an over-zealous ex-boyfriend.  His response?  “Or rescue yourself from an over-zealous ex-classmate.”  I didn’t respond...just closed Facebook.  When i signed back on to FB later, i IMMEDIATELY received a chatbox from him with this message: “Scared you off, huh?”

I didn’t respond to that comment, either but that conversation has been on my mind a lot.  Did i do the appropriate thing?  Should i have handled it differently?  Was he looking for some apology from me?  I don’t recall doing anything bad to this guy but i do recall thinking he was a little strange.  From where i sit today, i think i had it right even back then!


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