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I didnt want to write this on the comming new year but my female cousin died of Aids complications on Christmas Eve.  The last I saw her was ten years ago before she contracted the disease and she was a beautiful strawberry blonde with blue eyes and beautiful skin.  She was twenty four years old and was going to college and working at the Hospital in Galveston in administration, she told me I was her idol and she wanted to be just like me, independent and strong.  She told me she wanted a boyfriend and or a husband, as she was raised in the church and it was expected she would marry and have children at her age.  I didnt see her after that and I sent her many cards and one day got a call from her to do a case on a man that she said had wronged her, and I did and had it ready but her mother called and told me she was sick and didnt know what she was talking about.  Then I heard she had aids and was hidden away by her family.  I dont know if it was to protect her or from embarassment but I do know they loved her.  She was only 34 and was burried yesterday.  No friends, only about 12 family members came to the small chappel hidden in Santa Fe.  Our family pastor came and only three family members got up to say they didnt know her very well but they knew she was loved.  Her biggest accomplishment in life was that she rescued animals and did so vigorously, and her life was short, she just wanted love and a husband, or a boyfriend.  All the things we take for granted, a kiss, a hug, intimacy.  All were stollen from her by this disease called Aids.  Its not a Gay disease its a disease that robs people of lives, love and health.  

Her mother told me she was better dead, as she was no longer in pain.  

I think back at all the lives Ive lived all the chapters and all the loves, all the accomplishments and my cousin only lived to rescue lost animals, and died because she wanted to be loved.  

I pray this new year they find a cure for Aids.  She was a good soul only 34 years old and suffered for ten years.

I found this out after my family cruise she died while we were away, and Ive been in shock over the loss of a such a young life and that a mother had to bury her daughter and that my young beautiful cousin never really had a chance to live.  

I pray for a cure this new year as no one deserves to die from a disease that robs you of love.

Happy New Year everyone.  May this year bring great peace, happiness, love and beauty to you all.  

Dare to make a difference.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • All my hugs and kisses as well as deepest condolences and prayers.



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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Bobbi, again, I do convey my condolences...



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      Darla5 wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Bobbi ,  

      I am so sorry for your lose. I lost my cousin to complications with Aids last year. Yes he was Gay and yes YOU  are right it is not a gay disease. Your story really hits home.

      This is one area where I feel there is so must judgement from others and in the church. I have heard people say, ” This is God’s punishment. How cruel to say to the family and friends.

      I want to share a story with you. My cousin said that he gave his life to the Lord about a year before he died. He said he felt like he was that penny on the ground that people always passed over and did not pick up.  But, one day the Lord picked him up and put him in his pocket and for the first time he felt like he belong. So every time he ever saw a penny on the ground he picked it up and saved it in a big jar in his home. He said he always said a prayer everytime he picked one up. When his home was packed up after his passing  you cannot imagine the jar of prayers that was in his home.

      There was person after person that got up and talked about things Rodney did for them that none of us never knew. Gay and Straight, the recovering alcoholic and the people at church all spoke. He never wanted to be in the spotlight.

      I have kept a penny by my dresser every day since his funeral. I can never pass a penny without picking it up and thinking of my cousin Rodney.

      So from my family member dying of Aids to you beautiful family member let us remind people how special they were and never allow this disease to take away from their memory.

      May the Lord be with you and your family and I pray that God surrounds you and comforts you.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Thanks jacquie and Chinadoll.  Happy New Year ladies.. Time to live.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • I’m so sorry, Bobbi that this horrible disease has taken a member of your family. I, too,pray that a cure is found soon so the suffering can finally end.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • My sympathy and prayers for you and your family Bobbi.



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      UK Girl wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Bobbi I’m sorry this has happened to you and your family at this time of the year please accept my condolences



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      Inakika wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Bobbi, we love you and we are here for you. So sorry for your loss.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Darla Im so moved by what you wrote, I just dont feel enough is being done for Aids your right its not a Gay / Straight disease, and I think her family was ashamed of what she died from and hid her away, from those of us that would have given her sympathy and understanding.  Im with you Darla.. its a disease that must be eliminated.  

      Inakika, UKgirl, Doreen, Chocolate, ladies.. I love you all and thank you for your sympathy.. Now go and live.. Life and celebrate this new year 2009 and live like there will be no tommorro as life is short.

      Love you all, Bobbi



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Thanks Mrs Lorid and your a wonderful person too.. Happy New Year.



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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Bobbi,
      I am so sorry. I love how you are looking for the positive, and telling us all to go and live - like there is no tomorrow. If we could all wipe away the wrongs from our past and live as if today was our first AND remember how short life is and live it as if it were our last... I think we would live a life with no regrets.
      My heart goes out to you, and your family. As a mother who has buried a child, I can empathize. Moving past the pain of death, and turning it into a passion to live is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. I pray for your aunt that she can do that. For me, it has become my driving passion to educate people about health and to help people have a better quality of life. It is as if Joshua’s memory lives through me as I help other people. I hope your aunt can channel her pain into something meaningful. It helps to be able to “connect the dots” and weave the memories into a tapestry that carries us forward in life.
      May your 2009 be filled with joy and peace. You have been through so much this year with your family! Hopefully you will get some closure and justice.



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      Mztracy wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • (((bobbi))) I am so very sorry!! ♥

      one of my dearest friends found out she had aids when her son was 4 mos old. My isaac will be 9 on the 18th of january.  

      When they figured out what was wrong he died 3 times on the operating table.

      She is a single mom of 4 and well i have to say one of the best moms ever.  

      I first me isaac when he was 1 and he never cried or fussed. He smiles all the time and is a joy. He gave me my nickname for the fam of aunty momo.
      The only time he ever fussed was when the shunt in his tummy hurt him.

      I want a cure for aids and i want it now!!
      I pray all the time for my lil hero isaac and his mom heidi.
      They are true heros!!



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Happymomma and MzTracy I love you both.. your such an inspiration to all women and I love you both for it.  I went and rang in the New Year in Texas and it was beautiful.. I did it for my cousin.... Im living each and every day because she wanted to live so badly and Im here and Im going to live every day.. like there is no tommorro and help others along the way.  God Bless you all and Happy 2009.



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