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A girl I work with has confided to me and a couple of other women at work that her husband will not allow for child care in their budget. They have a child in school and a 18 mos old baby at home. She works days, he works nights and the baby is left in his bed during the day while she is at work and he is in bed sleeping. When the school age child is home on breaks from school,she has to watch her sibling and she is way too young to be babysitting. I feel bad for that baby being in the bed all day with no one to feed or change or play with him. Someone finally called CPS but it was over the lack of cleanliness in their house and the case worker didn’t even ask them if they had proper child care, also the case was dismissed because they cleaned up before she got there. I have told this girl that she needs to put those kids in day care, especially the baby. She just keeps saying her husband won’t let her. I wonder if calling CPS myself would do any good? I don’t know where they live and they are not listed in the phone directory. I don’t like reporting someone but if anything happened to the baby I would never forgive myself. I would appreciate any comments any one may have?




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 15, 2011
    • When it comes to the safety and welfare of a child, all bets are off in my book. I’d call. And it sounds to me like her husband rules the house. She should stand up to him and put her foot down about the child care.



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      Tuliplady wrote Dec 16, 2011
    • A call to CPS will do no more good than the first call did.  It’s up to this woman to stand up to her husband on her own.  And things may not be as bad as she actually makes them sound.  She’s probably just venting at work because it’s the only place she can.



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      Denise Richardson wrote Dec 16, 2011
    • I beg to differ Tulip if they knew that the baby was being left home alone while they are at work its likely they will remove the child from the home, and that wouldn’t be fair to the mother seeing she does care but seems to be afraid of the husband, I say call as well.



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      Mztracy wrote Dec 16, 2011
    • I agree with Cynthia.

      Even though the dad is home it sounds like he ignores the baby. And their other child is in no way old enough to care for the baby.

      What state is this in? Being that it is [will be] the second call, they will listen. Ask for a supervisor as well.



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      Sandils1962 wrote Dec 19, 2011
    • Sometimes calling CPS doesn’t do any good.  I tried getting my ex for child abuse but when the social worker showed up, he gave them a line of Bull shit.  They took his word that everything was okay and they didn’t do anything about it.

      This woman needs to stand up to her husband.



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      Marya1961 wrote Dec 21, 2011
    • This sounds like a scary situation to me.  I wonder if the woman is afraid of her husband, could he be abusive?  An 18 month old can do major harm to him/her self if left unattended..OMG!..what is wrong with some people..if there is a lack of cleanliness, then what else could be going on?

      You can call CPS, but then again, hopefully both children will not be taken away...does this woman have any family who can help out in any way?



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      Jc2222 wrote Dec 21, 2011
    • She has family support and yes she has admitted to being afraid of him. He has all sorts of weapons in the house and even a silencer for one of his guns. Unfortunately her family has told CPS that they are helping with the daycare situation. Supposedly, he is going to be switching to second shift so they will only need someone to watch the kids for a few hours till she gets home in the afternoon. Her sister has volunteered to watch them, because she lives just down the road. I feel bad for the kids but there is not much more I can do. Thanks for all the comments. I didn’t call, another co worker did.



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      Mzd3 wrote Aug 10, 2012
    • Just wondering what happened in this situation?



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