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I received a text message from my brother today.  He is very good at staying in touch since he moved to Arizona in March...heck, he stayed in touch via text messages even before he moved.  While i’m always happy to see my phone light up with my brother’s name, i’ve come to learn that i need to approach with caution.  My brother has this nasty habit of providing life-changing information via text!  His news today was medical and, while i’m glad he keeps me informed, i’m pretty annoyed with the method he chose to use...again.  

My brother has always been a non-confrontation individual who doesn’t like to show too much emotion.  He isn’t easily rattled and is what i would describe as pragmatic...one of the few personality traits we share.  We are our father’s children...so much of who we are comes directly from Dad, but my brother’s proclivity for indirect communication is NOT something he acquired from our father.  My father would look you in the eye when he delivered important information.

Anyway, i’m not responding to my brother’s text message just now.  Last week he sent me an earth-shaking text and it took me two days to cool off before i contacted him with a text of my own, “Are you up?”  He called immediately and we had a nice conversation.  Today, i’m sitting on it...maybe i’ll make him wait or maybe i’ll call him tomorrow...i don’t know right now.

Am i missing something?  In my view, texting is for a quick casual message...not a primary method of communication.  I’ve been concerned for my children and our youth in general...we‘re raising a generation of socially inept individuals.  It appears that texting, instant messaging, myspace comments and facebook walls are taking the place of knocking on a friend’s door or calling a friend on the phone.  

When was the last time you texted someone?  

 DAD: 8/13/35-12/18/03



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Dec 18, 2008
    • Daphne, I personally do not text. But, everyone around me does. It’s crazy!
      It is very easy to be misunderstood texting, just my personal opinion.



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Dec 18, 2008
    • estaticDaphne, your dad was very handsome. You look alot like him. I’m sure this has been a tough day for you, but know that I’m thinking of you



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      Jenz ~ wrote Dec 18, 2008
    • I just stopped dating a guy for texting too much. (We only went out 3 times~no sparks anyway)lol
      I’m not a fan of it since my ex used to blow my phone up with that alot. Annoying.
      In general, it’s much too easy to misconstrue something. Voice is better & much more personable.
      I have no desire to have a relationship with my cell phone. Want to talk to me? Call.
      Gracias! lol lol



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      Raysa Santana wrote Dec 18, 2008
    • I agree with you.  I use texting for a quick message to my husband or 1 of the kids when I know they might not be able to pick up the phoe and have a conversation.  However, my youngest son has a 3 hour conversation via text with his friends.  I tell him I don’t understand why they just don’t pick up the phone and talk.  He says he hates talking on the telephone.  I just don’t get it.



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      Inakika wrote Dec 18, 2008
    • Oh, I so agree with you ladies. Texting for me is also a quick message thing, not for having a lengthy conversation. My youngest son (20) only texts. When someone calls, he always has an excuse why he can’t talk. Yet he will text like crazy.
      What annoys me is not only that our kids are socially inept, but that we have kids that are forgetting how to spell. Sure, I use shorthand (LOL, OMG, WTF) but I use them sparingly. Some of the texts I have seen look like something out of a spy movie, a language I don’t understand. Sad.
      Bless you, Daphne. What a beautiful angel.....



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      Mz. Queen wrote Dec 18, 2008
    • I personally use text messaging with my college son, he’s a master at it, usually he texts me when he’s in a keep quiet place like class and he calls me when he can.

        My daughter texts me when she can’t reach me with a phone call or I’m in a quiet place, like class or church.

        Now my middle son he text me more often than he calls and I think he’s like Daphne’s brother.

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      Linni wrote Dec 18, 2008
    • i too use text for quick messages to my family in Michigan.. and thats it!  

      i have a friend who im upset with because i call her and call her, and she only texts back! she says its because her free minutes start after 9pm..well when i call after 9, shes never by her phone.. i will get a text the next morning saying ” sorry went to bed early.. will call you later ”

      somethings need to be spoke of in person, or on the phone, NOT by texting! i agree with you Daphne !



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      Linni wrote Dec 19, 2008
    • i forgot to say, that when i had called my friend about something important, she TEXT me back like 4 hours later with the information she had already given me! so i text back ” yes, i know that.. you already gave me that info.. i NEEDED to TALK about it, NOT text!”



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      Jomi wrote Dec 19, 2008
    • I agree that texting is for short messages. I did'nt have texting until August. We put it on my phone because our kids don't answer if you call but they will text you back. They are all in college though and may be in class or the library when I try to get in touch.
      I prefer to talk, talk, talk, talk!



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      Peejay64 wrote Dec 19, 2008
    • Well....I’m a texter w/ certain people, an emailer with others, an IM-er with some, and talk by phone only when I have to.  But there are times when the voice of a treasured friend, even if only for a few moments, is such a treat!



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      Leadinladytracy wrote Dec 19, 2008
    • Texting is for quick messages. Like asking the kids where are they and etc. For my friends we use it for quick stuff, like call me when you are free. This way we are respecting each other’s time. Otherwise, I prefer the phone.  

      I even like gettting together for lunch or dinner better!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Dec 19, 2008
    • I use all forms of communication. My oldest daughter will call and text me a thousand times a day. I can never catch my youngest to talk to so she gets texted to death until she responds to all my questions. I have former employees who still text me with questions. Texting is great for those “I want it NOW” types. And I am one of those sometimes. But to receive earth shattering news....no not thru text, email or IM. In person is the best or on the phone.



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