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My son just turned age 18 this past summer, and my daughter is 21.  She called and told me a boy she went to High School had died in the war in Iraq, and he was only 19.  

She said, mom, do you realize that he never even was old enought to have a drink, and he died.  She was right, here was a young man, that died with out even begining his life, not old enought to even to buy a beer or wine.  Yet, he died for our great nation.

My question is, do you think age 18 is too young for our men and women to die for our country ?

I think that since 21 is the legal drinking age, it should be age 21 that men and women should be able to inlist in the war, by then they surely should know what they are signing up for.. most kids just out of high school, have no idea.

What are your thoughts.



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      Darla5 wrote Oct 31, 2008
    • Bobbi,  

      I do think 18 is to young. Here is Alabama 19 is considered an adult.  21  is the  legal drinking age. There were alot of recruiters that came to my sons high school. They spoke about the freedom that you would have and the traveling you would do.  

      My son has always said he was going to join the Military from an early age. He grew up seeing my Ex’s family being in the military. All siblings but my ex who needed the discipline the most, but that is another blog.

      Anyway, I asked my son to please wait until he is 21 and see if he feels the same. He is now 21. He has a great job as a contractor. Great money and benefits. He mentioned to me last week about going to the Navy.

      My heart sank. I am so scared with the way our country is right now. I know it is his life and his decision. I am sitting on the side lines wondering what or when...

      But, he does know to some degree more than he did at 18. With that freedom and travel comes great sacrifice and danger. I know it also has it’s positives, discipline and respect but I am a Mom and he is my only son.



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      Feathermaye wrote Oct 31, 2008
    • I think any age is too young to have to die for your country.

      However, and especially since my 18 year old son is (as of today!) enlisting in the Army, I have to respect that he is old enough to make this decision for himself.

      Just like with anything else, I don’t have to agree with it or like it. But I love my son and respect his willingness to do a job with such a high risk.

      On a side note: many people are of the opinion/belief that if it is “your time to go“, you’ll go no matter where you are or what you‘re doing.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Oct 31, 2008
    • Darla, Feather, my heart goes out to you.. Id be so frightned, I know men want to serve but It will never stop a mothers heart from hurting.



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      Feathermaye wrote Oct 31, 2008
    • I’ve been looking at some numbers this morning (I’m a research geek!) and was stunned to discover:

      According to the 2005 statistics, there were over 7000 driving-related deaths of our 15 - 20 year old’s.

      That’s more than twice the number of TOTAL deaths of ALL age groups of our soldiers in the Gulf War.

      I’m not commenting that one is any safer than the other, because both stats suck, but wow!



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      Lisa Kochevar wrote Oct 31, 2008
    • My oldest son is 22 and just left for his 2nd tour of duty in Iraq.  In his case the boy has been a soldier (at least in his head) since the age of 3.  That’s all he ever wanted to do.  Having all those years to prepare for it made it a bit easier on me when the time came for him to actually leave but it still scares the hell out of me.  

      Our soldiers are doing a very dangerous job in a very dangerous place and they work every day, every hour, to make those cities and villages safe for people to just LIVE.  They have the right to go to school without the fear of being shot down in the street.  Put aside the oil fields, religion and everything else everyone says we‘re over there fighting for.  When it comes down to it, day by day, minute by minute these soldiers are fighting evil.  Check out YouTube.com and look up “IED blast“.  While most of the videos were taken by UN forces some of them are videos shot by the bad guys killing OUR soldiers.  They then show these over and over again on every television station they control.  Evil.  

      When my nine year old asked me why the bad guys are trying to kill our soldiers it was difficult for me to provide an answer.  I told him that for unknown reasons some people just enjoy hurting other people.  I told him that throughout the history of man people have been willing to kill and be killed simply because they disagree on religion, land ownership, color of skin, sexual orientation and just about anything else you can think of.  His response was that he thought that was “total rubbish” (big Harry Potter fan).  I can’t help but agree with him.



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      Darla5 wrote Oct 31, 2008
    • LisaMarie,

      May God be with your son. I know as a Mom you pray that daily. I just showed a house to a soldier that has just finished 2 tours in Iraq. He said it is just crazy over there. He told  me that he  is so thankful to look up at the beautiful blue  sky and so thankful to be on American ground.

      Something so many of us take for granted. Through much blood shed we have our freedom.

      We should say prayers daily for our soldiers.  

      Our local news showed a clip some time back of soldiers walking throught the airport and everybody around them started clapping for them. Some of the soldiers had tears in their eyes.

      Oh  what a  precious thing... Our Freedom...



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Oct 31, 2008
    • Lisa, I agree with Darla, our prayers.  I think if we have to wait till 21 to drink and be responsible, that it should be the age fo responsibilty.  Not 18 for some things and 21 for others, it should be consistant.



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      Raysa Santana wrote Oct 31, 2008
    • As the mother of 3 adult children currently serving in the military, I believe that it is a personal decision for each person.  Some kids are very mature at 18 and others are still inmature at 26.  I have experienced both scenarios.  My only daughter and one of my boys signed there papers with their parents consent at 17 and left as soon as they turned 18.  My other son joined at 23 (he’s currently 26 yrs old) and is in his 1st tour of duty in Iraq.  Although the army has helped him mature in many ways in the 3 years that he’s been in, there are still times when we wonder when he’s finally going to fully mature.

      Needless to say we do a lot of praying in our home, not only for our children but for all of the members of our military.  May God Bless them all and keep them safe.



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