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Didn’t exactly know where to put this,,, Love, Lifestyle,,, HELP.
My 26 year old son is an alcoholic. Can’t live here, anymore. Been out on his own, kinda, and is losing his place to live, not his fault. Calls me, I call his biological sperm donor. This is going NO WHERE. Of, course I love him, but I am the one that kicked him out in the first place.
I know all about the Tough Love thing, been to Al-Anon, because of my first husband, but now, since I told son, that everything will be alright, he seems to think that I can still provide him with comfort and a place to live. Anyone had this experience? What did you do? I need your advice. Thanks in advance.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jun 3, 2009
    • Dear P

      I have never been where you are. I can’t imagine what you are going thru with your child. I can’t imagine the feeling of helplessness.

      I am however the daughter of an alcoholic father. He is deceased now. As a child growing up in that environment was hard. My older sisters remember him when he wasn’t an alcoholic. But I don’t. That was forever the basis of our relationship after my parents divorced. I thank God my mom had the strength to go thru with that divorce otherwise she wouldn’t have been able to teach me to walk away. Walk away from unhealthy relationships. She knew she deserved better. She knew I deserved better.
      I know people say the alcoholism is a disease. I would disagree. Seeing that I was on the receiving end of that disease. I believe it’s a choice. And I believe some people live behind it as an excuse to hide from responsibility. I believe they are selfish.
      I apparently have no tolerance for this type of ‘disease’ so please don’t be upset by the comments of a woman who remembers those feelings of a child.
      I don’t know your story but I can guess at some of it. Being that it’s your child makes it harder since we are wired to nurture.
      I wish you luck and I am here if you ever need a shoulder...



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      J Knapp wrote Jun 4, 2009
    • This would be so hard to go through. I hope he will get help.  My birth mother has been in and out of re-hab for the past 20 yrs and finally has stayed sober for some time now.

      Hang in there.
      When it’s your own child it sure hurts I am sure. My thoughts are with you.



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