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I have been seeing a man for about  a half a year that I met through friends. Recently we broke up, but after a month of being apart we started to see each other again and give us another chance. During the time we were apart, he was dating other women from a dating site which I knew he was going to do. But here is the thing, for his birthday a few months back prior to us breaking up, I bought him a very nice bottle of wine. I saw the empty bottle in his house and was hurt by the fact he obviously shared what I bought him with another woman while we were apart. I realize I had no right to chose what he did with that gift as we were apart during that time, but for some reason I feel it was a heartless thing to do. I know he would have thought of me as he grabbed that bottle of wine but disregarded that to entertain his date. I put myself in his shoes and if I had any feelings at all for the person who gave me that bottle of wine as a gift, I could not have shared that with another man without feeling bad.  

Am I over reacting or does anyone else think the same way I do? I guess I am just trying to validate my feelings. What concerns me the most is the coldness of it all, should I be worried about his motivation to be back with me?




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    • +1 votes vote up vote up

      Cc-u wrote May 29, 2012
    • I see where you‘re coming from, but I have to ask:  when you broke up, did you 2 know you were going to get back together?  Also I find that men aren’t as sentimentally attached to things as we are.
      That being said, it’s not how he treats the bottle of wine, it’s how he treats YOU.  If he treats you well, is honest with you & respects your individuality, I wouldn’t sweat it.



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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Vikki Hall wrote May 29, 2012
    • Macy I don’t think ou are over reacting. Actually I think you are UNDER reacting and wasting your time on the loser. Anyone with such little regard is not worthy of you heartbreak



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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Marya1961 wrote May 30, 2012
    • He sounds a bit indifferent to your feelings, that bottle of wine may be your clue as to how he could be in the future.



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