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I have never met my biological maternal grandfather. He remarried and had seven children (my half aunts and uncles) and who knows how many children they all had (my half 1st cousins).

I’ve always been interested in connecting with this side of my family.

Well, I know my grandfather is deceased and I found his 2nd wife through ancestry.com. I called her the other day and she verified who she was but wasn’t interested in telling me anything over the phone.

I want to write to her in the hopes that she will pass my information along to her children and my hope is that they will have interest in connecting with me.

If you were told that your dad had a 1st wife that produced a grandchild who is interested in connecting with you would you pursue a meeting with them?



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      Feathermaye wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • I would probably say yes, because that may be a connection I need in my life. But I wouldn’t take it personally if there is little or no response.

      You are in a place (from what I can tell) where you‘re open to the idea of sharing your life and your heart with your extended family. Your extended family may not be in that same place, though.

      I would so go for it, as long as you‘re sure you could handle whichever outcome (or a mixture of both, perhaps).

      Please keep us posted!



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      Marie Hempsey wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • Absolutely! I think it is great what you are trying to do. Let us know what happens with this. I will pray for a favorable response for you!
      Friends,
      Ree



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • I wouldn't pursue it myself. I have such little contact with the cousins I did grow up, I am not interested in adding more relatives to not keep in touch with. But that is just me. My mom's side of the family is really well researched, and I know just enough about my dad's.

      Now if I had a sibling that would be a whole 'nother story!



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      Jenz ~ wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • I completely know how you feel to a point. I’m adopted & have unanswered questions.
      If you get the chance to get yours answered, go for it!!!



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      Inakika wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • I grew up not knowing my father and his side of the family. In my 20’s I was able to re-connect with him and I found out I have 2 sisters and a brother as well.
      I have visited him and my siblings (they live in Atlanta) but I have distanced myself from them. As weird as it may sound, I have not been able to let go of feelings of abandonment from the past. Especially since my parents both grew up in Pensacola and my grandmother still lives in the same house, there was no reason that he could not have reached out to me all these years (yes, he knew about me).

      It seems that although she is not interested, she should at least give her kids the opportunity to decide for themselves if they want to know you or not.
      Good luck to you, I hope all goes well.



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • Vigirl, I would certainly go for it! I have been searching for some of my Mothers family for years and have not had any luck so far.
      To me, it’s just so exciting to find long lost family members.



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Dec 7, 2008
    • Thank you all for the thoughts and prayers. I am definitely going to extend myself and we’ll see if she even gives my information to any of her kids. I don’t know if they ever told their kids that their dad had a child with someone else. I will definitely keep you all posted.



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