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Girls, I desperately have to vent.

Today is my parents 50th wedding anniversary.  We are not having a huge get together, just a rather small close family and friends supper.

My mom has been looking forward to my brother and his family being here this weekend.  They couldn't possibly be here for the family reunion last month because there was something going on in her hometown.   They couldn't possibly be here for mom and dad's 40th when I did have a big do for them.

Let’s face it, this self centered pig has not once in ten years brough this kids home to see their grandparents.  NOT ONCE!  But he told mom he’d be here for this.

and now the gutless wonder backs out at the last minute.  Oh, he didn’t call mom and tell her he couldn’t make it.  Oh no.  The miserable pig e-mailed his mother to tell her he couldn’t make it due to “medical issues“.  So now besides being twenty kinds of disappointed that he’s not coming, she’s a massive ball of worry about who is having medical issues and how bad they are.  He’s not answering his home phone, nor his cell phone.  

I’m beside myself livid.  I was upset that he didn’t come home when dad had a heart attack and quadruple bypass surgery.  I was upset he wouldn’t come help me fix mom and dad’s roof.  I was not surprised when he didn’t come for dad’s 70th birthday.  I was a little surprised when he didn’t come for mom’s 70th birthday party.

I’m beyond sad and hurt and upset.  I’m in a red rage to the point if he set foot in this state I’d shoot on sight.

My patience and understand have hit a wall.  He is now officially dead to me.  I have no siblings and will live the rest of my life as if I never have had.  Thank God I have cousins on my mom’s side of the family.

If you’ve read this far, thanks for listening.



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      Joanmarie wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • I’m so sorry that you have to deal with this. I also feel bad that your parents, after raising your brother, are being treated this way.
      Do you think it’s him or his wife?
      I ask this because my brother changed into a mean sob after marrying his current wife.
      I hope you can enjoy the party despite this.
      Glad you can enjoy your parents and bless them.
      Someday he will feel guilty.
      Congratulations to your parents!!!!



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      Marya1961 wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • First off, many congrats to your parents!  Yes, I know too well how a sibling can be a detriment to the family..and he is in the form of my mom’s brother, who is dead to the family.  

      I say forget him, he apparently has no respect for his parents, you or anyone but himself and I am sorry you have to go through this..as my hub always says, you cannot pick your family or neighbors, only your friends.

      Have a wonderful supper with those who matter!

      heart



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      Tuliplady wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • Thanks.heart
      We are going to have an awesome evening.  My daughter and BFF and I have the community room all decorated.  Lovely pork loin in the crock pot and we‘re going to have FUN!  My favorite aunt (my mom’s sister) came from Denver.  And I’m going to smile and have fun.



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      Butterflyrose wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • You are so blessed that both of your parents are living. Luxuriate in that fact.heart Congratulations to your parents for a marriage of 50 years.
      Applaud yourself for being the daughter God has called you to be.happy I’m sure it’s not easy when you have a brother who could share in important family matters.
      Your brother is missing out. Family is everything! I hope he sees the error of his ways real soon.
      Now,Take a DEEP BREATH! and....
      Celebrate and dance like there is no tommorrow! You deserve it for a job well done.

                            Butterflyrose

                An act of kindness is a gift given



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      UK Girl wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • enjoy the party with those who are meant to be there as in those who want to be there and have fun with your parents - ignore him and his wife etc;

      But in a months time I would write him a long letter and vent your spleen you will feel better for doing it and then rip it up - in their hearts your parents must know he is a gutless wonder but at their age they will also ignore it .......

      enjoy heart



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      Lazylola wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • Great advice from the ladies, enjoy your parents and those who make it to celebrate with you. Congrats to them. {{{heart}}}



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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • Congratulations to your parents!!!
      Enjoy the party, have fun!
      You need to let go your dissappontment for your own sake.
      I am really sorry you are going through this with your brother and I knoe exactly how it feels. You are not relying on him anyway.
      Have a nice time!
      Hugs,



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      Cathie Beck wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • Congratulations to your parents on their 50th wedding anniversary!  

      It’s a sorry shame your brother didn’t call your mom & dad to talk to them about not being there, and instead sent that email that worries them. You may feel like the only child, but they know they have 2 children and one is always there for them while the other chicken shits out and doesn’t even call in person. I’m sorry for all of you that this is the way it is. I hope now that you’ve vented you can enjoy the celebration dinner. The pork loin sounds so Good, btw!  

      Hugs,
      Cathie



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • heartbreak Jerk

      You‘re a wonderful daughter and I’m sure in my heart your parents know this. Doesn’t excuse your brother one iota for his lack of consideration. I don’t blame you  a bit for your feelings. We love you, Tulip, you can vent with us any day of the weekheart



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      Tuliplady wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • heartheartheart
      You guys are the best.  Thanks for the moral support!

      I did feel better after I vented and I went and managed to throw one hell of a nice party and even enjoyed it.  And mom and dad for all that they kept telling me “don’t go to a bunch of trouble and expense” really thoroughly enjoyed themselves.
      happyhappy



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      Diane17 wrote Aug 27, 2011
    • Congrats to your parents on their 50th wedding anniversary!!

      I’m glad that the party was a success and that your parents enjoyed themselves.  You are a sweet daughter.  

      estaticestatic



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      Cathie Beck wrote Aug 28, 2011
    • That’s great, Tulip! I hope there’s lots of pictures for all the family. (I’m a little nutty about having family pictures.)  ;oD  

      Cathie



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      Cc-u wrote Aug 28, 2011
    • Simply put, he’s being an ass.  One day, it’s going to come around to him that he’ll need family & no one will be there.  

      I’ll say one thing:  the fact that you‘re being an awesome daughter at least tells your parents that the way your brother is, is not their fault.



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      Joanmarie wrote Aug 28, 2011
    • Glad you had a great party! estatic



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      Mztracy wrote Aug 28, 2011
    • Glad you had a gr8 time.
      He wasn’t needed anyways. In the end he is the one missing out!!
      heartheart



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      Anne E wrote Aug 28, 2011
    • Tulip- So glad you had a great party!  Daughters are often more considerate than sons.  Sorry your brother is such a loser.



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