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I absolutely love my iPhone!heart  

I am so addicted to my smart phone that I take it everywhere I go.  I sleep with it on my night stand right beside my bed.  I take it with me around the house wherever I go.  I check my messages first thing in the morning as I head to the bathroom. I am even so obsessive about keeping it charged that I have bought at least 7 portable chargers in the past two months.  

Because of the nature of my work I travel a lot and  talk on my cell phone at least 8-10 hours a day (literally).  So its fair to say that I spend more time with my iPhone then any particular person in my life .....including myself.

My iphone is such a great gadget. It allows me to multi-task for work, organize information, take pictures, work in the airport, talk while I surf the internet, conference-in several calls, update my Facebook, check my messages, and check my calendar! But are these the reasons why I am addicted?

For the past two days I have been on a mini vacation and decided to (YIKES!) actually leave my cell phone downstairs.  In  the first four hours of the day I felt like I was having withdrawal issues, more specifically I felt like I was missing something. * I felt  disconnected from the world.*  I thought to myself. "Why isn't my phone ringing? Why isn't anybody calling me? Oh why I guess I did tell people that I was on vacation." However, just at that moment my phone rang and I felt a sense of relief.  It was a very short call from work but immediately after hanging up I thought to myself, "_Why does my cell phone bring me so much comfort? Am I addicted? Why am I addicted to my cell phone?"._  

Then to put the icing on the cake.... I posted on Facebook that I was cutting my phone off for the rest of the day.  Family members and friends immediately responded by saying  that they didn’t believe I could do it. I immediately posted a response that I was officially offline and the phone was being turned off.  But in that moment that I realized that there was something unhealthy about my overuse and over-reliance on the cell phone.   I was convicted about being addicted to my cell phone?

So today (Day 2 of my vacation) I woke up and decided to really think about the reasons and source of my phone addiction.  After hours of silence (without my cell phone) this is what I discovered:

*1. I DON"T LIKE THE SILENCE    It's hard for me to admit this but it's true.  I don't like the silence because noise drowns out the inner voice that is telling me it's time to completely let someone go that I dearly love.

2. I FEEL DISCONNECTED My cell phone has brought a false sense of comfort to make me feel like I am connected to the world.  In fact, I am only participating in a surface level of communication. The real problem is that I am not taking the time to connect to my own spirit within. I am not connecting to the ultimate source--God.

3. I AM AFRAID OF BEING ALONE  Talking on the phone disguises my feeling of aloneness.  If I can talk with someone constantly on the other end then I don't have to deal with the fact that I am alone... nor that I desire a mate, partner and/or husband.  

4. I FEEL INSECURE There is obviously something inside me that feels validated when I am on the phone. Why? Because my constant phone calls make me feel needed. It gives me a false sense of security. It send me a mental message, "Somebody needs me out there!" Then I don't have to think about the fact that I don't feel needed at home.  

All of these observations really disturbed me but I have accepted the revelation that I need to turn the cell phone off and plug into the real source—-the God within. I have decided to turn off my phone for the next few days and start limiting my usage from this day forward.  

I am no longer spending more time with a iPhone than I do with myself!

I am no longer spending more time talking than I do listening to God!

I am no longer banking on others needing me when in fact I need to be fully present in my moments alone!  

I hope this message blesses another cell phone addict.  

Turn ‘em off and be still.  

Peace and Blessings, LaTosha
latoshalove.blogspot.com

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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • I love it!

      I can’t say that I am addicted but I do find some of your reasons why I continue to invest in the latest and greatest phone (android EVO for me).

      For me because I moved away from all that I love and know a few years ago to a place where I knew no one and nothing. It was a way to stay connected with those I know and love.

      And now I NEED it because I use it for navigation purposes.

      I do disconnect usually every night from the cell and internet about 9ish and focus on me, me, me!



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      LaTosha Brown wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • Vikki,

      That’s great to hear.  Seems like you have balance in your life.

       I have always been a cell phone Queen but I know it’s gotten out-of-hand.  In some ways, it’s been a running joke in my circles.  But it has gotten progressively worst n the past few months.

      Trust me like you I also use it to connect to family, friends and business interests.  However, the problem that I identified is how dependent I have become without it and how empty I feel when I am not talking.  

      Thanks for your thoughts.  Hopefully, I will take this addiction down to “when I need it” only purposes.estatic

      latoshalove.blogspot.com



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      Diane17 wrote Apr 6, 2011
    • I am defintely not a cell phone addict.  There are days that go by and I don’t use my cell phone.  I also don’t get good cell phone reception where I live despite what carrier I have and I have a job where I can’t bring my cell phone in.

      I should mention that I have a regular cell phone, not a smart phone.  Perhaps if I had one of those, I might spend more time with it. estatic



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      Denise Richardson wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • No I’m not a cell phone addict thank goodness for that! LOL.



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      LaTosha Brown wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Annie,

      Thanks for your comment.  I direct a philanthropy in the gulf coast region.  I actually work in about 6 states and I travel consistently throughout the country. Yesterday my calls were very limited and I felt so good.  I think the hundreds of emails and phone calls and starting to wear me down.  Taking a break these past few days have given me the opportunity to slow down and reflect.  

      I am feeling great this morning.  What are your interests since leaving your job?

      Thanks for commenting.  I love comments.happy



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      LaTosha Brown wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Denise,

      That’s a great thing!! They can get you caught up.(smile)  Glad to see you are feeling better and very active on the site.  I appreciate your blog post.



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      LaTosha Brown wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Thanks Eva,

      Three years is a loooong time.  I would probably need cell phone withdrawal therapy.(LOL)  At any rate, I have identified the source so I am making the necessary adjustments.  Today I am going to float free like a butterfly without my cell phone.(smile)



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      LaTosha Brown wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Annie,

      Mothering (if that is a word) is one of the most rewarding jobs that anyone can have.  It has great benefits and the pay-off is long-term and  remarkable!(smile)



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      Allinet48 wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Having 3 daughters scattered all over CA,my cell phone is a must to stay in touch. I don’t sleep with it on nightstand-but I do get late calls occasionally from my 2 nightowl daughters. We all have free long distance-that helps too.



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • thankfully noooooooo



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      Msj wrote May 16, 2011
    • I was a cell phone addict. Until my fiance lost his job and could not pay the bill. So, I thought i could NOT live without it.  

       I found not only could I live without it, I actually found out there is time in the day for peace. I now spend more time with my plants (they might scream (NOT ENOUGH!)  

      I spend my mornings listening to a favorite teacher on the radio instead of talking on the ear piece (I know ARGHHH!)

      Anyway I do miss the GPS, hey I get lost in my own neighborhood if I turn around twice (ok maybe not quite that bad) now ....
      My name is Tammy and I am
      A FAB 40 ADDICT



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      LaTosha Brown wrote May 16, 2011
    • @Tammy I think I am starting to be at Fab40 addict too!estatic



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      Vikki Hall wrote May 16, 2011
    • Lol! Thankfully it’s a good habit!!!



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