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It was a very stressful day, yet it was filled with laughter, heart-warming experiences, and a big surprise at the end.

I had scheduled several appointments in Los Angeles, hoping that the high gas prices would make people car pool and the traffic would not be as bad as usual, so I opted to drive.  

As I got on the freeway and hit a stand still almost immediately, I knew that this is going to be a long drive. Praising myself on always being punctual, I was stressing from the first moment I hit the brakes.  

I'll spare you the details of my huffing and puffing through four hours of traffic. All I can say is when I ran into my first meeting I was frustrated and tired. Los Angeles traffic will do that to you every time. After I finished the meeting that I didn't think was productive, I looked over at my blackberry and saw that I had 56 messages, 10 voice mails, and 6 bbm's- all blinking at the same time. Feeling my anxiety rise I made an adult decision. I stopped at Starbucks to get a muffin. Counting Weight Watchers points, and comprehending that this muffin is totaling my lunch and dinner points, I inhaled it before I could even thing of changing my mind as I sorted through my messages.

 friends  

I still had many meetings and calls to make, but I was looking to the evening ahead with my girlfriend. She said we were going to dine at a nice restaurant and catch up on much needed girlfriend time. When we spoke last week she told me she had a surprise for me and I was dying of anticipation.

Going through the messages I found out that one of my appointments was canceled, and I now had an hour and a half in between my meetings. Immediately regretting the muffin I had inhaled, I dialed my other girlfriends hoping to meet her for lunch, however she had a better idea. She had an appointment for a facial during that same time, and quickly explained to me how I need a facial more than she does.

Before I knew it, I was parking my car looking forward to seeing the same esthetician that I visited for the last 28 years. An hour and fifteen minutes later I left the spa glowing, however, I had a problem.  My hair was greasy from the oils during the facial and there was no way I could present myself for the next appointment.  

My mind was racing, my car seemed to be steering me at a certain direction, and my fingers were typing a text message to yet another girlfriend who lived in the area, and who's shower seemed to be the best idea of the day.

Less than a minute later, my friend called telling me that she arranged for her mom (who lives upstairs), to open the door and lay out some towels for me. Twenty minutes later I walked into my meeting showered, made up, and looking like the four-hour drive together with all other mishaps never happened.

When I walked out of the meeting and checked my messages, I found a text from the girlfriend I was dining with, who announced her surprise ... tickets to Tina Turner concert. I got all teary eyed... (but that's for the next blog)  

Once again I was overwhelmed with the feeling that regardless of problems, issues, hardships and daily mundane responsibilities, the power of girlfriends never stops to amaze me. No wonder that Girfriendology is one of my favorite sites.

Stay tuned for my next blog, "The Amazing Tina Turner".

All the best,

girls



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      Denis B wrote Oct 20, 2008
    • I don’t have many girlfriends, but I have two that I’ve been friends for the last 25 years, I have no clue what I would of done without their support.

      Thanks for the link, I just checked it out, what a cool idea.



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      Jude11 wrote Oct 20, 2008
    • This is great! Your day turned out to be a great one! I love my girlfriends as well and would die without them. It’s always nice to be able to just pick up the phone, type an email or a text regardless of when you last talked to them or saw them, and just pick up where you left off. I still have friends from my childhood that I am very close to and many many new friends since then. A spontaneous Spa day, does it get any better?
      Jude



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      Feathermaye wrote Oct 21, 2008
    • This was exactly what I needed to read this morning. I’ve had a couple of tumultuous days, too. I’ve been overcome by situations bigger than I am, and have felt small and insignificant in the midst of them.

      However, I’ve reached out for the support I always trust will be there, and found it instantly. Each friend has something a little different that they bring to the table; in the overall picture, I couldn’t be luckier.

      I’m glad your girlfriends helped to smooth the path of your day. And thanks for the link to Girlfriendology... I’m not familiar with it, but I sooo trust your recommendation!



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      Stephanie wrote Oct 21, 2008
    • Indeed you have proved that life is hectic and busy, but when you need something or are truly on a bumpy ride your true friends will be there for you. This is so important in every friendship. Can’t wait to read your next blog!



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      Jacquie6363 wrote Oct 21, 2008
    • Wow, what a wonderful end to a crappy beginning and all with the help of those girls who pledged, some silently, some verbally and some with some type of secret handshake, touch, etc., girlfriends.  Boy we gotta love them.  At 47, one of my dear and trusted friend, I have known for 44 of those years.  It is not often that comes around and I feel very blessed to have her.  Another friend I have known for almost 30 years and she is such a blessing also.  Our love and friendship, just gets better as the years go by.  And of course, how can a girl forget the friend she has with her mom.  Mom always have my back, no matter what.  Love ya mom.



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      Linni wrote Oct 21, 2008
    • what a great day for you!
      things turned out good, and im glad for you! :)
      enjoy the rest of your evening my friend!



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      Mara wrote Oct 22, 2008
    • Girlfriends are the best!

      Mara
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      Mara, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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      Nikki W wrote Oct 23, 2008
    • You lead a very hectic life...slow down girlfriend happy

      I love my girlfriends. They know me so well that if I don’t call for a month or more they never judge me and are always pleased to hear from me. My very best friend is the nicest woman on the planet and the only thing that makes me sad is the fact that we now live many miles from each other. The next time I will see her is New Years Eve...yipeeeeee!!!!

      For my birthday last week my husband surprised me with a spa day that he had arranged with one of my girlfriends. She and I spent a glorious day relaxing and being pampered...I think she needed to relax even more than I did as she has four children and runs her own business!  

      We need girlfriend time to ground us and help us to sort out our priorities. Much love xxxx



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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Oct 23, 2008
    • Wonderful post! I am not much of a “girlfriend” girl. Never really bonded well with other women because I just don’t do the bash your husband over lunch bonding that so many women I met seemed to do. However, my BEST friend in the world is this fabulous women I met thru work several years ago. I can’t say enough about her....plus I am late for physical therapy right now and I have zero time to write. She is the person who is making this week’s prize—the seaglass mirror. She is talented, beautiful, funny and we “get” each other. More on that when I have 2 seconds to write a blog.

      Your post hits home. Days are crazy, life is stressful. Good friends are hard to come by.



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Oct 23, 2008
    • I nice ‘Uplift’ yana...thanks for sharing...Makes me wish I had girlfriends like that....BTW...Love the adult decision you make about eating a muffin...(smile)



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      Marie Hempsey wrote Oct 23, 2008
    • Such a great ending ! Thanks for sharing this with us!
      Have a nice day,
      Ree



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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Oct 23, 2008
    • I love my girlfriends and tell them so!  I listen to them, cry on their shoulder when I need to and well, life wouldnt be the same with out my gals!  And another tip, you cant have too many!!!  vicky



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      Julie Graves wrote Oct 25, 2008
    • Yanna,  

      Your story made me think about my girls. Oh aren’t they the best thing God ever created. Growing up I had a difficult time connecting with girls and then in high school I met the one that has stuck with me ever since (26 years), Gina.  She’s my confidante, the one who knows me the best, the one who straightens me out and sees through my stuff and calls me on it, She keeps me authentic and celebrates who I am and if I’m feeling down on myself she’s always there to lift me up with compliments and praise and I believe everything she tells me about myself.  

      But, she was it for a long time and I found it really challenging to connect with other women. I experienced a lot of jealousy and ‘mean girl’ attitude until the last couple of years. Gina felt the same kind of judgement and we talked about it a lot and wondered what we we did to provoke such a strong negative reaction in other women.  What we really wanted was to break through so we could have more relationships with other women without down playing our own accomplishments or beauty (inner and outer). I think just talking about it helped us understand the plight of women, beginning with girlhood: the insecurities about our bodies and outside appearance, the need to belong to a group but desire to remain independent, figuring out where you fit in the grand scheme of things is really hard for a lot of girls and women. I’ve become more sensitive to the difficulties and it’s made me fell compassion toward women who shun me (I live in a New England and God Love them they are not always open and warm).

      Anyway, as a result of seeing the others point of view it’s helped me be a better a woman, less judgemental and more compassionate and therefore someone who other women want to be friends with. I’ve learned over the years that supporting ‘sisters’ is up there with taking care of children and husbands or partners. Now, I have a long list of amazing women who I love and adore who have my back and who continuously remind me that being a girl comes with many benefits; having great girlfriends, spa days and eating muffins without guilt.  

      Thanks for you post. I love this site. Julie



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      Janie Emaus wrote Oct 25, 2008
    • Not a days go by when I don’t share a laugh, a cry, or a hug with my girlfriends.



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