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Chinadoll put in a request, so I thought I would comply,
I am not good at rhyming, this you can’t deny.
That being said, I’ll write about my life,
here on the farm can be filled with strife.
We love one another, but life can be crazy,
some of us work hard while others are lazy.

Okay, so enough of that. LOL
I have wondered before if I should blog about my life. I wasn’t sure why I hadn’t gotten all the ubiquitous questions that come with having a small army of children. Was it because people were afraid to ask? Don’t want to know? Or see me as ‘the health nut’ and not as a mom of twelve. I suppose since we buried Joshua at such an early age, I am not qualified to answer whether they are really cheaper by the dozen. Even if I was, I think I’d prefer not to do the math. :P
When we are out and about, the questions fly. Most of the time they are well meaning, even though they aren't always well thought out. By far the most common question is, "Are they all yours?" Followed by, "YOU had them ALL?" Then the conversation can usually go one way or another. People who realize they have stepped across the line in the sand will usually reply, "Well bless your heart honey." to which I always reply, "We feel very blessed, thank you."(Keep in mind, I live in the south. There are nice people, and then there are red-necks.) Others who weren't paying attention to the line clearly labeled 'it's none of your business' will then, with voice slightly raised, ask, "With the same man?" or "Do they all have the same daddy?" It is at this point that I used to get perturbed. I have learned (didn't I tell ya'll that 40 liberates you?!?) to have a little fun. My favorite question to answer is, "Don't you know what causes that?" hehehe I'll let you imagine my answer to that. Depends on how mischievous I am feeling. I have also learn to extend a little grace. Truly most people are just wanting to strike up a conversation, and well, my kids do draw attention.  

Now I have to brag just a tiny bit, although it might come back to bite me. My kids rarely misbehave in public. That's not to say they don't fuss and fight. This week has been the ultimate test for me because Daddy isn't here to 'lay down the law.' But we have rehearsed how to behave. When we go out to eat, we always get compliments on how quiet the childen are. From the time they were tiny we taught them that everything we say at a restaurant is a secret. It works like a charm! When we go in a store we rehearse before getting out why we are there, what they can and can not expect to get, and what the consequences are if they whine or beg. (They won't be allowed to have anything.) I don't nag or scold. We just put it back. It only has to happen once, and the lesson is learned. I do have to admit that I rarely take everybody out for shopping at the same time anymore. That stopped after number #8 I think.  

All that rambling, and I still haven’t answered the question that no one has asked. Why do we have so many children? Simply put, we are of a quiver full philosophy. We feel led to let God be in control. We believe he is sovereign over all things, and so we don’t use bc. Another very common question is, “are you Catholic.” We are not. I think it is a personal calling, and sometimes I wonder if God picked the right person. In my weakness He is strong!  

Originally I intended for this blog to be more of a glimpse into our lives. I realize now that I’ll have to do that in small increments. I actually think Chinadoll was more interested in hearing about all the animals. Currently we have 4 horses, 3 ponies, 9 dairy/show goats, 3 LGD-livestock guard dogs (a Great Pyrenees, a Maremma, and one of their pups), 4 cats, and a coop full of chickens. There are pictures at [Link Removed] but you’ll have to dig through the archives. There is also a picture of our house there.  

So, even though I didn’t answer all your questions,
I hoped you learned some lesson.
Of what it is like with so many,
the work on our farm is plenty.
We wake, do chores, school and eat,
play outside and get dirty feet.
Our reward is not money but love & laughter.
Hopefully soon in Denver ever after.

haha, hows that? I’m not a poet, and I know it!


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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 21, 2008
    • Thank you, yo Happymomma.
      You rhyming is good and you can now sing Hallelujah!
      I thought you have mistaken me
      for you keep talking about your kids
      I thought I asked for animals
      and you think your kids were fit into that category
      Later I read and see you truly understand me
      thanks for sharing and now I want to know more about the sheep!



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 21, 2008
    • Wow HappyMomma, I had not idea you had Eleven children and one lost.  My father is one of 11 and one lost too.  It is a wonderful thing and he loves all his brothers and sisters.. I have soo many cousins and i wouldnt have it any other way.. My thanksgiving is going to be with over 80 people and we all cook ... so its wonderful.

      Have a wonderful Holiday Happymoma and how wonderful.. for you and your husband and your children.  Your very blessed.

      And a Healthnut.. Ha.. just kidding.. no we all should be so blessed.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 21, 2008
    • Thank you Dee Dee for letting us in and giving us a glimpse of your life. From the first time I read your posts I knew there was something special about you. Your commitment to your life, your family, your God. And you always, without fail, allow that delightful sense of humor to show through. I can hear the life in your voice as your words hit the screen. I’m so glad you‘re here.

      Cynthia



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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Nov 21, 2008
    • LOL Chinadoll, I can see that the first thing to discuss is sheep vs goats. But I don’t guess that comes close to rhyming with ‘me’ does it? hehe And my goats are earless - go check ‘em out.  

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      How would you like to milk one of those? ;)

      Thanks Bobbi. My kids have envisioned what it will be like when we all gather and they have families of their own. I’m going to need that farm I posted on the luxury item question!

      Cynthia,
      You’ve done it again. :) Always you find just the right words to warm my heart and make me smile. Thank you for seeing humor and not sarcasm. I have learned to laugh at things that used to irk me. But I do love to see people blush when I tell them “oh yes, can’t you tell how much we enjoy it!” when they ask me if I know what causes ‘that‘. My mom thinks I am wicked. I do try to be careful, and really listen to the intent and not the questions. And I always smile, and never speak with a rude or annoyed tone.


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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Nov 22, 2008
    • Thanks Annie.
      Bfly the oldest turns 20 at the end of the month, then 18,17,15,13,11,10(Joshua),9,7,5,3,18mo
      There are a few that are closer in age, but the average is 20 months. I am thinking that I have arrived! :) We may end up with a ‘surprise’ but my body is telling me that baby days are over. I am hoping that I will see mine grow closer too. The two oldests have moved out, and are headed in very different directions from one another. Time will tell!

      BTW, we are not organized. We live in controlled chaos - tyranny of the urgent. LOL



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      Coachmombabe wrote Nov 22, 2008
    • Dee Dee, I know a few large families. Our pastor’s wife’s brother has 12 and they also home-school. You must be ultra organized! I only have 3 and home-schooled, and most days we were a mess!

      I love big families. My dad is one of 9, I’m one of 7, hubby is one of 5. I’d have had a passel myself, but hubby wasn’t much help with the kids when they were young. I decided when the youngest was about 3 that I couldn’t handle any more. But I do admire those who can!  

      In a different vein, Dee Dee, I have a friend who shares your philosophy of however many God gives them. She is expecting their 7th child. The issue is income. They are burdened under some debt, too. Do you have home based income ideas for her? For surely it wouldn’t pay for her to work outside the home!

      Blessings,
      Cindy



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 22, 2008
    • Happymommy: you are a true living testimony of “Practice makes perfect” I wonder what is in your night stand drawer!!!((hugs))



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 22, 2008
    • Dear Bfly:

      Thank you for your constant recognition
      It was truly a 16 hours flight from Hong Kong
      to U.S., quite a distance
      So I took a real long trip to be a Trip
      just to be here to complete my earthly mission.



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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Nov 22, 2008
    • You guys crack me up. Chinadoll, my nightstand drawer is full of junk. :) I went to visit Angela’s pure romance site and learned of things that I didn’t even know existed. I was alone, and still embarassed! LOL

      Cindy,
      I am very happy with my home based business. There are several other large families involved with my company. They are an openly, outwardly, unapologetically, Christian based company although there are people from all faiths involved.
      I’d love to share more with you/her if you think she might be interested in a wellness/fitness, natural health solutions type company where you get the opportunity to impact and improve the quality of life of others as well as your own. My checks are a side benefit, and they help our family greatly to support the lifestyle we have chosen.  

      However, I'd do what I do just for the gratification of knowing that I have helped someone improve their quality of life. (And I actually do do that all the time. I educate people and coach/encourage them whether or not they purchase from me. It is just who I am. It is what God has called me to do.  

      Also as a side note - I have a ton of children’s clothes that I am just going to end up giving to Goodwill. If your Group Home could use them (or maternity clothes) I would love to donate them.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 22, 2008
    • OH well, my dear, perhaps you don't really need anything in your nightstand drawer After ALL!



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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Nov 22, 2008
    • I think we need to go back to talking about goats Chinadoll. LOL I am blushing!



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