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I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions.

Instead of resolutions, i decide upon a theme to adopt for the year.  This year’s theme is inspired by a dear friend of mine who has been going through a personal hell the past few years.  She seeks my input and advice and i freely give it...knowing that, in the end, she will do what she believes she needs to do.  Her sense of obligation and duty is crippling her and it’s breaking my heart.  Our last few converstaions have had a common theme as i have been begging her to be true to herself, to stop living her life fulfilling the needs and desires of others at the expense of herself.  She has so many people pulling her in so many directions and she KNOWS what she SHOULD do, yet she won’t because it may upset one of these people.  I’ve promised her that if she continues to allow this to happen, she will become old quickly (and probably even a little crazy).

New Year’s Themes from previous years have included: Joy, Integrity, Honor, Warmth, Committment.

My theme for 2012 is: Be True to Yourself.  (or in the words of Polonius in Hamlet , "This, above all: to thine own self be true.").

I’ve decided that Being True to Oneself looks like this: when what you THINK, what you SAY and how you ACT are all in alignment with one another.  Being true to yourself isn’t selfish or hurtful to others.  The decision to do (or not do) something because it is in YOUR best interest isn’t a unilateral decision.  The decision is made through careful consideration of all possible factors and outcomes and one’s willingness to deal with the fallout.  Often times, any fallout is worth it IF the decision is made from a place of genuine truth.  

Don’t fight against who you are.  Accept yourself and be the best you that you can be.

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