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Over the years I have learned a lot from the guys I play with.

No, I don't run off to pee in the trees, nor do I put as much on the line in the money games like they do.  But I have had some great times out there being the only girl in the group.

When my now hubby and his best friend invited me out to play in the weekly game, there was only one requirement.  They didn't want it publicized because while one woman was ok, they didn't want it to become "Couples Day".  I think that was because I take the game seriously and scoring in the 80's doesn't hurt.

Once while vacationing in Door County, Wisconsin with three other couples, the women wanted to go shopping and guess what I wanted to do. That's right.  The guys were playing golf and I was invited to go along.  Even though my presence created a fivesome, we got the okay from the pro shop and headed to the first tee.

It was a spectacular October day and the fall colors at their peak. Even the best sales at the hottest boutiques couldn't tempt me from spending this day on the course.  My favorite part of the day came on a slightly down hill par 3.  One of the guys said, "Buck for closest to the hole."

Each guy took his turn on the tee and most had good shots, three of four on the green.  Then it was my turn.  I stepped up.....

Now I have to say, there was a time when feeling the eyes of four men on me as I attempted to get on a par 3 would have paralyzed me and I would have either shanked or topped the shot.  

When my game was improving, I wanted my husband at the time to see how well I was doing.  I was taking lessons and practicing nearly everyday.  I fell hook, line and sinker for this game and couldn't get enough of it!

The trouble was, every time we played together, my nerves and my desire to perform blew me apart on the course. That is when I started to read books about the Inner Game of Golf.  I scoured the golf psychology world and learned to calm myself and to access peak performance at will.  I created a new goal.  I wanted to USE my nerves with my husband to practice the techniques I learned.

Flipping my target from scoring well to maintaining my calm focus worked and my index fell from 33 to 7 within three short years.  Woohoo!  And now....back to the story.

I stepped up to the tee and calmly hit my ball three feet from the hole. Truthfully, I always felt a deep sense of relief and personal achievement when I pulled off a shot like this.....I still do.  

When I turned around to face the stunned guys, they all took their dollar bills out, wadded them up and threw them at me....even my hubby.  I was grinning from ear to ear!

The icing on the cake?  When we got to the green I realized there was another spectator.  The greens keeper was sitting on a mower at the green.  He made a big deal of complimenting  

me and teasing the guys.  Like I said, I love being the only girl in the group!


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