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How many of you ladies out there had a freind she claimed she loved you. She needed you, she would not know what to do without you. She ranted, and raved, on what a good person you are. That you will be friends for ever, and ever. She offered you a part time job/commission, and you did it for a while. A couple of months, Then you say to yourself wait a minute, Im here running around for her business, not making any real money from her. Lets say 15 or 20 dollars a week, and you ignore your own business. So when you tell her Im sorry I don’t really want to do this,its not for me,she dumps you like a hot potatoe. Now all of a sudden she is to busy, to get together, she does not call you anymore, she does not email you anymore. Now mind you she is not working that business at all. She tells you that you are to needy, and that well you don’t work, and I do. But she had all the time before. HONEST OPINION IS THAT A TRUE FRIEND. Now mind you, you have knowen this person for only a few months.



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      Feathermaye wrote Oct 10, 2008
    • It’s funny... I’d like to think I am very guarded with my heart as I’ve been burnt in friendship and love, but then I find myself being played the fool all over again.

      I just have to remind myself that people float in and out of our lives for reasons we may never know.  

      I also believe that if we can learn something from a bad situation or a bad decision we made, then we don’t have to chalk it up as a mistake.

      I’m sorry someone you trusted did this to you.



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      Ms-kay wrote Oct 10, 2008
    • I define friendship as a relationship between two people based on mutual respect, affection and admiration.

      And your friend ended your relationship without telling you why and if you’d like to maintain the friendship you need to try to uncover the reasons the friendship is over.

      Write a letter to your friend. Express your feelings about the friendship. Tell your friend how you feel – be vulnerable – without accusing or complaining.

      But don’t push for communication (ie, don't stalk your friend). When a friendship is over, let it be over.



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      Deb Link wrote Oct 10, 2008
    • My best friend(former best friend).  Actually I’m not sure where we stand.  Anyway, she introduced me to my Love of my Life back in 2001.  In 2002 Matt and I moved in together.  The day we were moving in together Matt was on the computer and got an “instant message” from “my friend“.  She was coming onto him BIG TIME.  I was furious.  I confronted both of them.  She tried to say that he “started” it.  But I saw the whole exchange on the message.  I still haven’t forgive her.  We still exchange e-mails but I keep backing out of any invites she suggests for a get together.  It hurt me trememdously.  I know that I’ll never trust her again around Matt.  I don’t know what to do.  She is moving close to my area again.  I think maybe we should just remain e-mail buddies.
      Aaaargh!!!
      So....yes I do know what it feels like to have a friend claim that they loved you and that you were their best friend and then it all goes to sh*t.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Oct 10, 2008
    • self centered. Not a true friend. Kind and caring people, like you and so many others, find themselves in this situation. I’ve found that the most important thing when I find myself there is to never, under any circumstances, cease being a kind and caring person. I just turn my kindness elsewhere. I see it as an opportunity for learning but then smile and say hello to the next person who crosses my path.

      I’m sorry this happened to you. I hope she allows some kind words of explanation.

      Cynthia



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      Sbajger wrote Oct 10, 2008
    • Well guy’s Thank You for your kind words. My husband thinks that since I was not going to make her any money I was of know use to her. As a matter of fact I went into her hair salon on thursday, and she appeared very cold. She was doing foils on someone and looked like she was almost done. In the past she would have said to sit down, and wait so we can talk. I also experienced a very bad feeling I needed to get out of there. It was like a whole load of bad bad energy. It was like something out of a movie that said GET OUT, GET OUT, GET OUT. I was so uncomfortable I was crawling out of my skin. She said a few months ago that I was making her feel guilty for not being there for me. Now there is no return I have tried twice to give her an opportunity to talk, and she does not want too so guy’s I guess thats it, she was not a real friend plus she needed alot of emotional help that I tried to give her and she did not want. Plus the fact that she does not walk with the LORD. I could not really talk with her about that either she was not intrested.

      Sara



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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Oct 12, 2008
    • Sara,
      I have to ask if you were in a network marketing business together? It is people who act like that who give network marketing a bad name! There are always money hungry people who are in it for themselves, and not to help people. I am sorry this happened to you. Don’t let her behavior make you quit. Find something that you love, with a system that works, and people you like to work with.  

      Sharing Hope,

      Dee Dee



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Oct 12, 2008
    • Your being tested by life.  This woman will use your energy as her own. Best to break ties, I know its hard but you need your own energy, you dont need to feed someone elses.

      Do you feel drained with her or around her ?? If the answer is yes. Break ties.  It will be best for you in the long run.  Its unfortunate that some people are draining to others, so if anyone drains you, emotionally, phsycially, or otherwise, no matter how much you like them. Limit contact and converstations.



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