On this side of forty life looks and feels extremely different.  I could have never imagined that my life would have taken the direction it has twenty years ago.  Nevertheless, I wouldn’t change one iota about the experiences I have had rather good or bad.

My children have been such a blessing to me.  I’m not quite certain where I would be if my children never were. Even though I bore them contrary to the way my parents and others preferred, they have stuck it out with me, they’ve hung in there with me throug all of my emotional highs and lows.

Today, the eve of Valetines my daughter Cherish shared with me from her facebook page just how much she appreciates me.  She wrote  “friends and some family have come and gone but my mommy has never left me even though I didn’t treat her very good at times.  I will always love my mommy because of who she is and just what she means to means.”

I was absolutely floored!!!! Cherish is my child who shoves the envelope every opportunity she gets. We disagree on so many things.  She is the child I often have to extend tough love to. Not only did she express her appreciation but she graded me above her grandparents whom I was certain were the center of her affection.

I’m feeling like the fruits of my labor as a parent are now manifesting.  I love each one of them so much.  Each one holds a very special place in my heart.  I so admire each one for their unique style and personality.

Cherish’s note on Facebook was the best act of love I’ve ever experienced I will always remember Valentines 2009 whether it gives the traditional gifts or not none could ever surpass the gift she has given me.