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I heard that song this morning and it made me really sad.  

My dad died nine years ago - two weeks before my wedding day. I missed out on having him walk me down the aisle and having the father/daughter dance. I also missed seeing his reaction to seeing me on my wedding day. I know he was very proud of me. You know - daddy’s little girl all grown up and leaving.

I am unable to this day to stick around at someone’s wedding when the father/daughter dance comes up. It always makes me cry and I have to leave the room every time.

We were really close and I really miss him today.



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      Almostfive0 wrote Nov 20, 2008
    • Michelle I am so sorry to here about your father.
      Although he wasn’t there at your wedding in the physical sense I’m sure he did walk with you down the isle, he raised your veil and gently kissed your forehead when asked who gives this woman, and he was there to dance with you at the reception.
      you carry him your heart and will always be there.



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 20, 2008
    • almost50 Thank you for the sweet words. I believe he was there with me too. We had a lit candle and a picture of him by the altar to represent that he was there.



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      Almostfive0 wrote Nov 20, 2008
    • That was a wonderful idea. Whenever you‘re at home and feeling sad or thinking of him light a special candle in his honor.
      He’ll be there.
      Take care
      Carol



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 20, 2008
    • vigirl...we did the same thing for John’s mom, she had her own table at the wedding and reception...He lost her when he was 11, and he misses her so much...and now the baby looks just like her side of the family and we think she plays with him at night when he stares up at the ceiling and giggles and kicks his little feet..His daddy tells him to say hello to his mom for him....



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 20, 2008
    • I love that song, too, Michelle and I still cry when I hear it. My dad’s been gone 16 years and my heart will never stop aching for his presence.

      Denise, I love that story about your husband’s mom. That is so precious.

      I never thought of making a candle for my dad and now I’m going to.  

      Thank you girls for sharing. I know that not all women have beautiful memories of their fathers. I know that you and I all feel so blessed that we do.



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 20, 2008
    • I think the holidays suck in this aspect. I typically become more sad during this time. Both of my parents are gone and they are so missed all year long and especially this time of year. That story about your baby, soulful, is adorable. I can picture it in my mind. I really believe those we lost are always with us. Some people may think it strange - but I never go to the cemetery unless my brother is visiting. I don’t believe they are there and I get nothing from being there.



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      Almostfive0 wrote Nov 20, 2008
    • Holidays are bittersweet for me as well. My father passed away when I was seventeen. In January it will be thirteen years for my mother which is especially hard for me. Loosing a parent leaves a hole in your heart that is never filled. And loosing both parents, no matter how old you are makes you feel off balance somehow. But it does get easier with time.



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 20, 2008
    • vigirl...John prefers not to go to the cemetary either...we went a few days before we got married, just so that I could see where she was laid to rest. But he only goes if his brothers come to town and they request to go...I really believe her spirit is settled now that her son is happy and I feel her presence around us in our home..she’s at peace now...



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 26, 2008
    • Vanessa, you know your daddy is watching over you and beaming with absolute pride every day. He loved you so much. Through the tragedy of us losing our daddies, we found each other. I love you girl.



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