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One of the biggest problems today is that too many people are not happy. We look for external stimuli to make us happy. We expect our significant other to make us happy and divorce him when he doesn't. We expect our children to fulfill our dreams and are disappointed in them when they do not. We expect money to solve all our problems and make us happy, then, we can't understand why it doesn't once we have it.

How many times have you heard someone say, "I will be happy when..."?

I will be happy, when I start making more money in my business.

I will be happy, once I am married.

I will be happy, when I get a promotion.

I will be happy, when my children are grown and I have more time for myself.

Pages and pages of examples could be given.

Another way to view this statement is, "I will do this, when that happens." Have you ever made that type of statement?

Happiness is not an external thing. Even once you have something external, the happiness it brings you is short-lived.

For example: You have waited for that special relationship. The significant other is great, but you still have a negative attitude. You were happy during the initial stages, but now it seems routine.

You have always known that a promotion would get that new home for which you and your spouse have been waiting. You got the promotion, the money is great, and you buy that home. After the beginning excitement wears off, things go back to the same routine, just in a different house. Your happiness falls back to your previous feeling before the promotion.

The Secret?  Determine yourself to be happy!   That's right, happiness is a simply a choice.  And the good news is, you are the one who gets to decide.

*It's an internal process.*  

True happiness that lasts is an internal process. Nothing from outside you can make you happy or unhappy. As in any situation, your reaction determines whether the event is stressful for you or not. It is the same with happiness.

So, make your determination every morning. Intend to be happy. Tape affirmations that say, "I am happy today" all over your home and at work. Say it aloud to yourself often throughout the day, especially on those days with many stressors. Continue to say it, until you believe it.  Act as if.

Then, put a smile on your face and confront the outside world. When you are happy, you have the world in your hands!


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