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As I stated, chinadoll called me tonight and asked me to write this blog for her.  So out of my friendship for her I am doing this.

She wants to thank everyone for their cards, thoughts & prayers.
She bought a plain casket and bought markers and asked friends to decorate the coffin. She laughted as she told me this and said they all are having a great time doing it.
She said the viewing went well. She sang in the choir at the funeral. the church was packed. Her 1st husband was there, her parents, sister & brother-in-law, & aunt. Andy will be cremated, she has 10 days to this, she laughed as she told me this part “she could not find the right urn“. After the mass, they went to the restaurant where Andy worked for dinner, about 50 people showed up and the restaurant paid for the dinner. Which I think is just awesome. Her friend took a picture of Andy to have blown up and she explained the situation to the business and they too did it for free.
She said she grieved last week and is doing better. She laughed a few times while we talked on the phone.
She told me that she has more friends than strands of hair and she said “i have thick hair“. She said that she will always do back for her friends who did for her in this time of need. Like I told her, in times like this you find out who your friends are and who aren’t.
Friends and family have been leaving one by one. Her uncle from Hong Kong is coming next week.
Chinadoll wants everyone to know that she is thankful & the gratitude is overwhelming she is speechless.

From Chinadoll  “God bless you all”

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      Lazylola wrote Oct 29, 2009
    • Tiredmom, thanks for letting us know and posting this for Chinadoll, she is missed here.



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      Tiredmom wrote Oct 29, 2009
    • you are welcome!
      chinadoll is a beloved friend of mine and i would do anything for her.



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      Myrna Perez wrote Oct 29, 2009
    • Very nice—Thank you.



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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Oct 29, 2009
    • Thank you for updating us.



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      Owlmaria wrote Oct 29, 2009
    • Thanks tiredmom, for letting us know how CD is. As long as she knows we are still here for her.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Oct 29, 2009
    • Im sorry this has happened.  And at the same time I have to say....

      Are you serious???  She said she grieved last week and is doing better.  She laughed a few times while we talked on the phone.  ????   I dont mean to be judgemental but I just dont get it.



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      Tiredmom wrote Oct 29, 2009
    • YES I AM SERIOUS!
      I am doing what she asked me to do!
      I wrote it all down word for word what she said!



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      Tiredmom wrote Oct 29, 2009
    • and you are welcome to the others whom have thanked me for doing this



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      Frannie1964 wrote Oct 29, 2009
    • Thank you for the update Tiredmom. I really appriciate It, knowing how our dear Friend Cheria Is doing well and that she Is getting thru this with the help of friends and family by her. I am glad to know she at least laughed a little, It might seem strange to some people knowing she laughed, but sometimes It actually helps people to have a little laugh to get them thru the tuff times, even death. Please let her know that she Is missed and we are here for her. Thank you



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      Anne E wrote Oct 29, 2009
    • Thanks for the update.  Sometimes we laugh when we feel like crying.



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      Angell Villafañe wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Thanks for the update...China Doll will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Laughter is the best medicine and that may be what is helping her cope and get through this painful time. We all grieve in different ways. Tell her she is missed...she makes me laugh.happy



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      Mzd3 wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • I cannot imagine what she is going through. There cant be anything that hurts more than this. She is such a sweet person, I wish we could all be there for her.



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      Tiredmom wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • thank you to those of you who read this with an understanding mind.
      i have gone thru loses in my life and each individual grieves in his or her own way. she did the talking last night. i was so glad to hear her voice and know that she is doing as well as she can. i cant even imagine what she is going thru. its got to bo the most tragic situation in this world for a parent to go thru. but for her to know that there are friends out there that are willing to help out no matter at what cost is what is important at the end of the day. she doesnt need people being negative and second guessing or questioning her laughter or her sorrow.
      like i told cheria(chinadoll) at times like these you REALLY find out who your friends are and who are not.



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      Marie66 wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Tiredmom.. Thank you for the update.. Please let her know that we are all thinking of her & keeping her in our thoughts and prayers.. WE ARE ALL HERE FOR HER.. We miss her and she’s never alone.. Her fab friends are here..



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      Vikki Hall wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Thx for the update on CD. She will continue to be in my prayers.



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      Leeann wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • She is very lucky to have a friend like you .  Thanks for letting us know .



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      Mindy Wilson wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Thank you for the update, it was sweet of her to think of her online friends at this time. Wow~ I don’t think I could remember to swallow yet after what she’s been through. I can only imagine this pain. Thank you for taking time to write about her.



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      Tiredmom wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • you all are welcome1
      i love chinadoll she is a dear friend to me
      she helped me thru some tough times in my life and was always there with a cheerful voice and good advice.
      i would do this again for her if she needed it.
      after all, thats what friends are for!!!



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      Max0125 wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Thanks for the wonderful blog. I am so happy that she was able to laugh. I lost my sister suddenly over ten years ago and I agree, laughter is the best medicine. I continue to keep chinadoll in my thoughts and prayers.



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      Mztracy wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • thanks so much for the update!!



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      Tiredmom wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • yes it does anon!
      at least i’m not scared to put myself out there like you



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Yes, Chinadoll finds humors in everything:

      First I found my son on a rope.  I was screaming and cut off the rope and he dropped on the exercise bar and then on the floor.  In my mind I said “Ding it, if you don’t die from the rope, you would have died from brain tremor from mama” while I was talking to 911.

      Then the kids (hid friends) decorated the coffin and we had so much fun in doing that.  I will post pictures.

      Then I requested them to shave his head after the viewing and OMG, the kids said “Andy will come and haunt you for sure!”  I look forward to that part.  I miss my son.

      Faith has saved me... If I don’t trust my Lord is merciful, loving and compassion, then I am in a wrong religious.

      I will post picture and thank you for Tiredmom to post for me.  You are all my great friends.... cheers to all the loving friendships to each other!!! Muah!



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      Owlmaria wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Good to hear from you love. Take care. We are w/ you if only in spirit. Love to you.  Maria



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      Tiredmom wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • i am appalled that someone has to post anon on here exspecially when this was done for cheria not for you.
      cheria is my friend and always will be.
      if you do not like the way she is handling this that is not for you to decide.  we all have our own ways of handling things.  should not judge or condemn someone for how they handle their grief.



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      Max0125 wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • CD, You are a true inspiration!I thought that it was awesome that you decorated your sons casket with his friends. What a great way to honor him. When I went through my sister’s and father’s death, I concentrated on celebrating their life rather than their death. I honestly believe that they, just like your son, are in a place far better than planet earth. That said, I still do have my “misty eye” moments, but it does get better. If anyone takes issue with that, just honor that that is where they are at mentally since they are thinking in fear and not faith. We love you CD and we are here to support you.



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      Mztracy wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Dang Annie, ditto again.



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      Janet Wooley wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Thanks Tiredmom and I was so happy to see CD reply, we all love & miss you here. You are awesome CD and an inspiration to me, peace to you my friend. And never worry about what or how you handle anything because no matter what it is no one has ever walked in your shoes. There is NO WRONG way to greive we all just gotta get thru it some how any how we can. BOO!! to the one who critisizes you for doing what your heart tells you. I for one need to laugh, I think of the good times the funny things and so it helps me to move forward. Love & prayers honey.
      Janet



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Tired Mom thanks for posting and send Cheria our well wishes.  Im sad to see the coffin of her son, I hate to hear that his head was shaven, is it a China tradition ?  Im sure everyone had a wonderful time shaving his head and painting his coffin, it would not be what I could bear to do, as I know Id be a walking dead person.  Cheria has been very strong to even be able to blog during this entire ordeal, again, Id be the living dead.  Im glad she sent her wishes and pray her son is in a better place.



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      L J wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • you tell cheria to keep smiling or laughing ,as long as it takes to keep her standing tall!!!!!!!!!
      all my love to ya, cheria!!!!

      LJ



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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Oct 30, 2009
    • Tiredmom,
      thank you for the update. I was terrified from the event and scared for Cheria. I am glad she is o‘k and is able to smile.
      Cheria, it is showing now that you are on line.  I am glad you are, because you need all the support you can get.

        I am here for you, as I said to you before.

      Hugs,



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Oct 31, 2009
    • ditto Bobbi.....ditto



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      Poollady3 wrote Nov 1, 2009
    • I’m very sorry you lost your son.  

      No disrepect intended but I can’t fathom the thought of having fun decorating a coffin. And didn’t I read that he is being cremated? I’m sorry, I just don’t understand. Is veiwing a body that’s going to be cremated a Chinese custom? I’ve just not ever heard of that in the States. Didn’t he have rope marks around his neck? And why in the world did you shave his head if he wouldn’t like it?

      I certainly hope you change your mind on posting public pictures. I doubt I’m the only one that really does not care to see them. If you do, can you post them privately somehow so they don’t end up on the homepage?

      Like I said, I mean no disrespect. Chinadoll just seems very open to speaking about this. I’m just trying to understand and the only way I know to do that is ask questions.



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • Excuse me? What is the deal here? This lady lost her son! Why wouldn’t she come here and share this with her friends?
      If I’m not mistaken, it states above that decorating ones casket and shaving the hair before laying them to rest is a Chinese Tradition.
      I should hope that if I lost my child, I would be able to come here and find comfort in my friends.
      Again, am I missing something here?



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