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Hi gals.

As some of you know, I’ve been single for the past 2 years. This has become subject to change in the not too distant future. I’m pretty happy/excited/etc about it. Ill get into more detail about him a lil later.
What is on my mind is, how wierd, in a way, it is to me to be starting all over again like this at this age. So many people have their marriages and relationships so established at this point in life.. homes, families etc etc, tons of stuff together.
Silly fears are on my mind. What if this.. What if that.. Have I forgotten how to ‘be’ with a man? Am I being silly?
Probably.. lol
Have any of you started over again in your 4o’s? Were you nervous a little? estatic  

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      Jenz ~ wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • lol~ Im the only one then? Wow



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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • Lol!  

      I know plenty who have started over in their 40’s. The key is to be your own person and be with someone who is also their own person.  

      To be able to be independent but together!



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      Jenz ~ wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • estatic
      Totally.
      I always say that too. ‘You have your own thing, He has his own thing and then there is the 2 of you together.’
      Balance like that is so important.



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      Tuliplady wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • I was 35 and hubby was over 40 when we got together.  It takes a little getting used to and yes, it’s a little weird.  But so totally worth it!  By your forties you are both very much your own person, so you have to work a little harder on the being together part I think.  

      Hubby and i are pretty good at him doing his thing and me doing my thing and being ok with each other doing that.  Sometimes we forget to do “us” things, but we make it all work out.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • I met Joe when I was 42. We married 7 months later. I think for us it was hard to compromise on things. We‘re both set in our ways. But the companionship is nice.



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      Suzann wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • Jenz, go for it, sweetie. There’s no age limit on people needing relationships, someone to wake up with (besides the cat), and someone to share a rainy evening watching Netflix with. To share secrets and support each other? There’s no age limit, and if anyone puts you down for it, just send them love and forget about them.



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      Jenz ~ wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • Thanks galz! I knew Id find some wisdom here, as always. estatic
      I suppose its not entirely the age.. Its combo of things Im thinking of.
      Happy nervousness? Maybe. haha Not letting HIM see that! lol



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      Tuliplady wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • Happy nervousness is totally ok Jen.  He’s probably a bit nervous too.  Cynthia made a good point about being set in our ways.  I think the older we get, the harder it is to compromise, but it really is worth it in the long run.

      Keep us posted. happy heart



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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • Happy nervousness could lead to happy bliss!



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      Jenz ~ wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • Yes! And its long overdue.
      This potentially amazing man did mention last night when we were talking that he has seen the difference in people he could date and it wouldnt go anywhere and someone like me who he could really care about [his words].
      Tlked about his reasons for approaching me slowly, discussed being respectful, etc. Was pretty enjoyable..



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      Suzann wrote Nov 21, 2010
    • Ooo, Jenz, it sounds like a wonderful beginning.



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      Denise Richardson wrote Nov 22, 2010
    • Jenz, take a deep breath and exhale honey, its ok to be a bit nervous in starting over at this rate. Yes I started over after being divorced for over 12 years from my first hubby and it was scary not knowing I was 41 when my current hubby and I got together. Its not as bad as some people say its all about the mindset of the individuals and what you want and expect out of the relationship andeach other, you need to be open and honest with yourself as well as each other not going in with games nor expecting the world from one another there is and never will be a perfect relationship but there is a thing called "HARD WORK" its takes all of that to make a relationship work out, nothing worth having comea by easy you must work at it to make it what you want it to be but both people must want it, the relationship and want to work together to make it happy and lasting best of luck to you my friend.hearthearthappy



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      Jenz ~ wrote Nov 22, 2010
    • Id ‘swim to France’ for the right man. Hard work- bring it on! estatic

      I appreciate all of you! Hugs! I will definitely keep you posted! estatic

      heartheartheartheartheart



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