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At 7:00 this morning my phone rang. No one ever calls before nine so was concerned.
The call I received was a very disturbing call.
I have been friends with this person since my children were small.
The call was from jail. She wanted me to hear from her and not someone else that she had been arrested.
From what I have pieced together, she had been wanted for sometime. Last night she was involved in a high speed police chase. Crashed her car, thank God her children weren’t in it, and no one was hurt. And was arrested.
She was charged with possesion and sales of an illegal substance.
How could I not have known you might ask. I truly did not have the slightest idea. She has been to my home numerous times in the past 6 months. I didn’t notice any difference. Though now I know that she had been in my home while being wanted. That in itself scares me. She had no regards for my families saftey!
Back to why she has called....She has 3 children 17,14 and 7months. She wants my husband and I to take care of them if she ends up going to prison. Am I wrong for not wanting to get involved. All 3 children have different fathers. she doesn’t want them seperated. Her parents will take all 3 children.
I keep thinking why!
Why did you not care enough to keep this out of your childrens lives?
Why did you jepordize everyone around you for drugs?
Why did I not notice anything?
Why do I feel guilty about not wanting to raise her children?
Why would a Mother want to destroy a child, either with them using drugs or their parents using drugs?
Why????



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 23, 2009
    • I think you are smart.  Stay out.  Family services will get involved and take care of those children.  She has to think it through.  Bailing her out is a quick fix and won’t work.  I feel for the kids.  

      My son’s friend’s mother was that way.  I foster cared the kids and had the family services and the judicial system did not get involved, it would be even worse.

      You need not feel obligated.  Do within your limits and that’s all.  Don’t push over that.  You need to take care of you and your family first.



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Feb 23, 2009
    • You should not feel guilty in the least. How in the world could she put herself and kids in that situation? You can’t suddenly care for your kids’ welfare because you may go to jail. If her parents will take them, that’s where they should be. Jeez, I hope you won’t beat yourself up. You did/are doing nothing wrong.



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      Rystmom wrote Feb 24, 2009
    • Well my Hubby and I had a long talk last night after I got off puter.
      We both agree that her children need to go to her parents. These children will be in well taken care of,
      As for the friendship I am putting that away! To know she could hide a sisde of herself so convincingly makes me loose all trust in the relationship we had.
      I wish her the best I hope she gets the help she needs. But I can’t and won’t be apart of her life anymore.
      At this moment that is all I can do!



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 24, 2009
    • Great decision!  All we can do is to pray for her.  Way to go!



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