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It doesn’t particulalry hit a nerve what society thinks or how they treat me. Its my family that appears to be accepting but aren’t. If that makes any since. Im getting married soon. My parents have backed out on helping in any means, claiming they had some financial things come up. Which I understand. But my mom is controlling my father into not participating in the bachelor festivities. Which is merely the guys going to the Bass Pro Shop. My dads passion mind you. My brother doesn’t even want to talk to me about the wedding or hear anything about it. He has persuaded my parents thinking and is now working on my sisters and his older children. This hurts deeply. Its difficult to not harbor or build any kind of wall against them. I know that every time a new family member marries into the family they all are pretty hard on them. And in the end, are accepting. But the damage thats being done now is very very damaging. My sister’s daughter, my neice is suppose to be in the wedding and I know w/o a doubt that at the last minute she’s going to backout. I know on his side his nephews little boy is also suppose to be in the wedding and am sure he’s going to do the same thing.  I just seem to be getting from all around and don’t feel like anyone wants to see us get married. Its frustrating and painful to not have anyone happy for you. Any suggestions and or prayers, please email me at [Link Removed]


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      Paris Mano wrote Dec 4, 2009
    • Seems like you mention that your family always reacts this way but ends up accepting the person. Maybe you are overreacting and overly sensitive to the situation. My advice would be to just have a marriage at the Justice of the Peace. This would prevent the hurt and pain. My father didn’t come to my first wedding and he was just 1/2 mile away. If you are happy, then that is what matters. JMHO



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      Karyn Olson wrote Dec 4, 2009
    • Speaking of racism in general being of a minority I have to deal with it in one way or another every day...it’s sad as racism is a learned behavior and kind of makes you wonder where and how this has come about...I had taught my girls at a young age that we are all the same no matter what...and to this day I am proud of them for accepting people for who they are and not what they are...
      Being native can be hard at times as my people have a bad reputation to start with...and I admit at times this can be very annoying...I hate going into a store to shop only to have the salesperson follow me around...and so obvious at that...but I usually turn to them and ask “Can I help you” or “Is anything wrong?” this usually makes them red in the face and run off...kind of funny at times...lol

      As far as the wedding goes...follow your heart...I think your love for each other can withstand the ignorance of others and perhaps your family will eventually come around...happy



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      Venus 7000 wrote Dec 4, 2009
    • Its your wedding and you SOULD be happy.  Is it too late to have a private ceremony at some exotic place with perhaps one or two of your closest friends who  want to celebrate with you?    If people are not willing to participate in the wedding you must be willing to replace them. Your bridal party does not have to be immediate family, it can be your friends.  

      You can’t force your families to be accepting but over time people’s attitudes change and acceptance becomes easier.  

      Congrats on your wedding!!



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      Iceangel66 wrote Dec 5, 2009
    • Prayers are forever appreciated.



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      Iceangel66 wrote Dec 5, 2009
    • That is a wonderful idea...I wish I would of thought about that sooner. Just been holding out that everything is going to get better. But the closer to the wedding the more its obvious. With everything already paid for I don’t know that I could get my money back. Im not going to rule that out at this point though.



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