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In 2004 I had the great privilege of meeting one of the most wonderful couples I have ever met.  I was afforded the opportunity to care for Ethel as she had Alzheimers.  I cared for her for 1 year.  In 2005 I was pregnant, had a bad pregnancy, coupled with a surgery so I was out of work for 2005.  In 2006 I cared for her for 6 months and then her husband had to put her in a Nursing Home.  Even though she was placed their her husband Ben drove to visit her every single morning to have breakfast with her, push her in her wheelchair out in the garden, stayed with her until lunch time and left when she was put down for an afternoon nap.  In the evening around 6 o‘clock he will call the Nursing Home to see how her evening had gone.  Ben did that for 1 1/2 years until he got in an accident and was no longer able to drive.  Now that did not stop Ben from going to that Nursing Home every single day.  He got one of those small mini white transportation buses to pick him up and continued with his visits.  Even though at the Nursing Home and I was no longer her Aide I would go and visit her and she had the most beautiful well shaped fingers and nails.  I would massage her hands and polish her nails for her.  In 2008 she passed away at 90.  I still continued to visit Ben at his Retirment Facility, whenever he was hospitalized or at Rehab.  Their marriage spoke volumes to me.  They were married for 70 years, have three sons and all are still alive.  He said he first realised his wife had a problem when she did not want to write the cheques and pay the bills anymore.  He knew something was wrong because in all of their marriage she handled all the finances, paid and organised the vacations.  He always stressed to me to TRUST yourself and you will be able to trust your husband.  If one have to lie about something to satifsy one of their actions then they will lie about anythingelse.

My friend Ben has passed away and will be buried today, he was 94 years.  I feel bless to have known a couple so loving, caring and warm.  They felt the pain of each other, finished each other sentences and in the final stages of his wife’s life the touching they did was a way of speaking to each other, it was so beautiful.  I am so glad I was able to witness their love.

May Ben rest in peace, I am sure he is happy to meet with Ethel.

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