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Hi Ladies,
I am very new to the site, although I have been reading through a lot of the blogs. And I should be ashamed of myself because I should be reading my philosophy homework instead of surfing the web, but oh well. The nice thing about going back to school at my age is your parents can’t ground you for not doing homework.
I have got to say, you women are incredibly cool and I am both awed and inspired. The humor, intelligence and love that comes through the words in your posts is overwhelming, and a balm to my soul right now.
2008-2009 has been one of “those” years. You know the kind, the ones that you look to the sky and yell “uncle.” And normally, I have a moment or 2 of feeling sorry for myself, but then count my blessings - my girls & my parents - and pick myself up by the ‘ole boot straps and keep going. But this time I just can’t seem to do it. I feel defeated. And although I am inspired by your words and your achievements, I can’t find the energy or will to even look for my boot straps. I don’t know, maybe I came to my fork in the road, made the wrong turn and now I’m a shell person. (Can you tell Under The Tuscan Sun is one of my favorite movies)
My parents introduced me to a man, a wonderfully kind and caring man. I know he liked me, but he did the strangest thing, I got introduced to all the important people in his life very quickly. And apparently someone voted NAY, because we had a date, he stood me up and I didn’t hear from him until I finally tricked him into answering his phone by calling from a different number then my own. I got the old, “just going to call, been so busy, when things calm down I’ll call you.” And I guess it could have been I’m not pretty enough, smart enough, thin enough, something enough, I mean I’m not, but I don’t think so. He just walked away. So I guess my question has been, so what’s the point? What’s the point in caring or trying?



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote May 7, 2009
    • Keep logging on. You will find support and encouragement here. So many of us are in various stages of exactly what you are feeling. When we come together in understanding and caring we lift one another up and help with the forward steps.

      I’m sorry you are going through this time. I know it’s difficult. And I know sometimes it just helps to say it outloud.

      Best to you. I hope this passes soon.



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      Marie66 wrote May 7, 2009
    • Your not alone in this alone, all these wonderful ladies have been there at one time or the other and know that when you need to vent out your more then welcome to do so here..

      I hope that you continue to log on daily and know that we will be here to listen..

      Sorry that your going thru this..Hope you have a good day..Talk to you soon

      Marie



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 7, 2009
    • you wrote: I have got to say, you women are incredibly cool and I am both awed and inspired.  The humor, intelligence and love that comes through the words in your posts is overwhelming, and a balm to my soul right now.

      I felt the same way when came here a little over a month ago. Keep logging in, this is a wonderful place as the other ladies said.



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      Mztracy wrote May 7, 2009
    • First off and to the point...that man is not worthy of you!! If, in fact, someone said nay and he listened, he is a follower and a coward. You so do not need that.  

      Sorry for my lil rant, but i do try and get to the point.

      Welcome to this place and i hope to see you more often in here!!

      Under the Tuscan sun is my fav feel good movie!! as for the boot straps...just bend a tad more and pull! u can do it!!



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote May 7, 2009
    • I agree totally with Tracy, if a grown person is still listening to others' opinion (unless of course the person in question is abusive) then to hell with him! If he can't chart his own course, what would being with him be like! You'd always be running the show, and that gets oooooooold.

      Welcome!



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      Robinesque wrote May 7, 2009
    • Yeah!  Da bum!



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      Laurie Zieber wrote May 7, 2009
    • Welcome to our house.  estatic



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      Vikki Hall wrote May 7, 2009
    • It’s ok if you don’t feel like looking for your bootstraps to pull yourself up. Just log on and read what’s going on here. You will find you are not alone in any of your struggles. And even if you are there is always someone here who cares. Actually a lot that care.
      Alot will share what’s going on in their lives so make some friends and follow the conversation and leave it at that.
      I don’t know you but I do know that guy was not worthy!!!!



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      Kandycakes wrote May 8, 2009
    • THANK YOU LADIES!!!
      Really and truly thank you!! You guys had me thinking awwww, then laughing...and laughing some more.
      Thank you for welcoming me and including me as a friend. And Tracy, I LOVE the saying at the bottom of your posts. I hope you don’t mind, but I wrote it on a post-it and stuck it to my computer. Last weekend I sat on my couch with a container of ice cream and Under The Tuscan Sun on my tv. But I’m thinking this weekend, with “hope” whispering, you ladies encouraging and my daughters badgering maybe it’s time to feel around for my bootstraps.
      ((((((HUGS))))))) Thank you again!!!



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      UK Girl wrote May 8, 2009
    • Kandycakes - if you have logged on here that makes you smart and bright and your also doing extra studies ......

      So more fool him and also he doesn’t deserve you at all .. so have some down time on here and re energise yourself and then you’ll be ready for the right one who is worthy of you



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      Carolnphil wrote May 8, 2009
    • He isn’t worth the time thinking about what you might have done wrong because OBVIOUSLY it wasn’t YOU it was HIM!



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      Holly Beck wrote May 8, 2009
    • Yes, don’t let a man devestate (how the heck do you spell that?!?) you. Yeah, I know - easier said than done. You will find someone else. Try to focus on loving yourself and your daughters. No man is worth your tears! Especially a lying coward like him! He could have at least TOLD you if he didn’t want to see you again - what a creep!!!



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      Foxfire5822 wrote May 8, 2009
    • Well Kandycakes If we all haven’t been there at some point recently we likely will in the future. Come on over and blog, rant, rave.. there will be many who can relate!
      Hope this site brings you some peace and encouragement.

      When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.  

       ~Ralph Waldo Emerson



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