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I feel like rampaging today.  Another mumble jumbo in Chinglish.  

Anyways... how many times I give myself benefit of the doubts and be gentle to myself.  We all say to each other “Don’t be too hard on yourself.” “Give yourself a break.” “Take it easy.”  

After awhile, I give myself too much lead way.  I start to look for excuses.  “Because I am sick” “Because my husband is ill” “Because I have a teenage son” “Because we are living in a bad economy” “Because.....

You see, self pity is good bandage for a little while.  However, when our wounds are healed, we better take off the bandage and let the wound breath fresh air.  Otherwise, guess what, it keeps rotten further.  The bandage turns from a solution, a fix, a cure into the problem itself.

So I am here to say “Ding It” “Take ownership of our problems.  Take charge.  Own it.  Face it.  Solve it.  Give ourselves a big kick.”

Do not blame on others.  Do not blame ourselves.  Do not blame the world.  Do not blame period.  We have the power within us.  Once we know how to find it and channel it, it will come easy.  

We are forty and plus.  If we live to 80, 1/2 of our life has gone.  Are we still waiting for prince charming?  Are we still waiting for our world to just turn around us?  Are we doing the same thing over and over again and expect the different result?  

Take ownership - we are dynamite.


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