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Discrimination comes in many forms. I know we have discussed this before. But I am curious as to why we discriminate. Is it because we don’t know the all the facts? Is it because we view the world with blinders on? Or is it because of how we were raised?
I can’t claim that I NEVER discriminate. I do! I am after all human. But my reasons for discriminating usually fall under 1 of 2 catagories.... lack of knowledge or lack of patience.
I am living in a city where the former mayor had an unwritten rule that was publicly well known and spoken of (even during the mayoral debates) about not hiring white people. Is this ok? Is it fair? Or was he really trying to give a hand up? I don’t know however I feel that I have been discriminated against. I know most of you have heard my tale of the car inspection and being denied. Well since I was denied because my windshield was cracked (passenger side) I have been paying attention to the other cars on the road, other cars that were in line at the vehicle inspection place. I seen cars with cracked windshields, mirrors taped on, donuts vs tires and all other kinds of things. How did they pass? And why didn’t I?
Well I’m not a dweller usually and can I really blame the former mayor for his being a product of his upbringing?
No I can’t! But it truly saddens me.
So what can we all do to help lessen discrimination? Not just racial or ethnic but all forms of discrimination? Do you believe that you as one person can have an impact?

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      Lazylola wrote Aug 28, 2009
    • I tend to navigate with the attitude that if it doesn’t affect me then I don’t worry about it....I think in all fairness many others live that way as well....can we as individuals make a change, certainly, if we make the effort we can change someone’s thinking. Vikki, I do get where you are coming from, I’ve seen it myself, it does make you wonder what is at the root of being treated differently...



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      Camy45 wrote Aug 28, 2009
    • Vicky, we all play a part in this  -it comes in all forms.  People need to be more accepting of others regardless of where they come from.  If you notice I did not use the word TOLERATE.

      I was raise to treat people the way I want to be treated.  Whether people believe it or not. IT STARTS AT HOME. If you are raised to respect and accept all people, the outside influences cannot break that which is embedded.  

      Our media, and some politicians play a big role in feeding this issue. We need to diffuse the hype and accept the type of people GOD gave us. We all have something to give to each other. The truth be told and it has already been proven by “science” for those that believe in that theory. WE ALL came from the same place and it has been traced back to AFRICA. My creator gave me breath to live the life i was meant to live. To bring joy to those who live in pain. I love and respect those who do the same to me.  

      Thank you for letting me say my “peace”

      Much love,

      Camilla



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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 28, 2009
    • MB I agree with you about needing to surround yourself with a variety of people. This should include race, religion, ethnicity, class, age and political views.
      Even tho I try to be that person who surrounds myself with variety I still have my moments of stupidity.



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      UK Girl wrote Aug 28, 2009
    • Lots of people just the book by the cover and don't get past that before they make a judgement call – silly really when later they have to reappraise their view



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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 28, 2009
    • Camilla I loved how you stated your ‘peace’ that is EXCELLENT!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 28, 2009
    • @UK you‘re so right! Many judge others before they gey to know them....



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      Camy45 wrote Aug 28, 2009
    • VIcky, thank you for the kind words!

      Stay well,

      Camilla



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 28, 2009
    • Camilla I loved the use of the word tolerate. When I think of that word for me it implies that we deal with something we don’t like but have little choice in the matter. I know that if I felt like I was being tolerated, it would hurt so I choose to not use that word. You made a very good point.

      I agree with everything that’s been said and Vikki, once again, a very fine and thought provoking blog.

      I was raised in a home that did not have bigotry or discrimination. We were taught to celebrate the differences in others, share them and learn from one another.

      It saddens me too, Vikki. It truly does. I often feel discriminated against living in Hawaii. I know I’m not treated the same as someone who grew up here. It’s not all the time, but enough to make me notice.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 29, 2009
    • Hey Term I think you‘re right about the words sometimes being over used. That’s probably part of the whole problem. I think there are real situations that involve discrimination (of any form) that are overlooked because others may have cried wolf.

      But can we as 1 individual make a change take place?



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      Coachmombabe wrote Aug 29, 2009
    • I have to agree with MB and Camilla on the basis of why we discriminate in general. I think we also are guilty of passing our own biases to the next generation, if even in very subtle ways.  

      Now I think it’s extremely difficult not to have biases, but one can be intentional about not treating others differently (discriminating) because of them. I prefer not to sit next to someone with a very strong odor (sorry, that’s my quirk). But I hope I would not discriminate against them because of it.

      Also, as Vicki said, when we take the time to get to know someone, often our bias and prejudice melts away.



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