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I came home yesterday and in my front room was my son and his girlfriend in a huge blow up.  As I walked through the door she stormed passed me and my son was heading behind her.  I realised he was really upset so I locked the door and asked him what happen.  He said he was outside attending to the lawn and he left her inside watching tv in the front room next thing she came out and started blurting out things to him only to find out she went into his draws, searced every draw, his desk and all his papers.  He was levid.  Their was a picture she saw of a High School girlfriend he onced liked and a picture of his cousin living in NY.  She did not have her car so he dropped her home and told her it is over.

He told me just last week she went through his phone and he cannot deal with the insecurities of her.  She called me today to apologise for acting a fool yesterday. I used the opportunity to talk to her and let her know u cannot go to someone’s house and search their stuff.  Asked what did it accomplish and why she did it.  She admitted that she is still dealing with a lot of hurt and past issues.  I asked her if he ever give her reason for her to donot trust him, her answer was no.

I am telling you sometimes some past hurts really hinders our future.  My son is done and through with her.  They were dating 5 months and he really seemed to want to make it work.  He did put off dating for his last year of college and now he has his first encounter is with her.  I guess it is better now than later.   I did not like what she did either but he has to fight his own battles.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Well good for your son for not putting up with that behavior! You apparently have raised your son to know his worth.  Good for you!!!!



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      Brimstone1968 wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Thanks Vikki.  It was shocking for him and he was appalled because in our house we donot that, we respect each other privacy.



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      LaTosha Brown wrote Apr 7, 2011
    • Yes..she deserves that title “Disrespectful Girlfriend“.



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      Mysticalpatterns wrote Apr 8, 2011
    • Sometimes having unsettling experiences in early relationships allows us to be stronger & healthier in our future relationships.  This may have been a blessing in disguise for your son offering him an opportunity to learn what qualities to be aware of when choosing a mate in the future.  

      As you said it is truly amazing how our past can shape our reaction in the future and although from the girlfriends side of things that wasn’t necessarily a positive for your son it can be.  When we are aware enough to identify what we didn’t enjoy about a situation to avoid it next time we become more evolved emotionally thus have healthier relationships in the future.

      Sending blessings to you & your son.  Love & Light heart



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      Positivepris wrote May 5, 2011
    • Awww, sorry to hear this, because I use to be one of those womens after I was hurt in my marriage and after the divorce and I then got back in the dateing game ,I had a good man and mess up our relationship because I didn’t trust any man and I would just look for thing ,like going thru his phone and his papers when he was not in my eyesite, so it best that your son found out because sometimes it don’t get better.



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