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Divorce is not an option
Sometimes I feel so defeated, beat down by the turbulence of marriage and just want to give in to the idea that situations are temporary. I'm loosing courage and strength to withstand the dismay that I seem to face day to day, only finding confusion in my choice of spouse, wanting not to go home or to another but to just go: these are devastating feelings for me as I always wanted nothing more in my life than to be loved and to give love in return. But I awake to discomfort and frustration, feeling I have nothing left to compromise but my morals and that too seem to be fading what do I do when I seek a way out of darkness and all I find is more darkness as my knees ache and my vioce strained its leaving me heartbroken that I don't know what else to do.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 29, 2009
    • My heart is breaking for you. Have you tried talking to him?



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      Stephanie Lawrence wrote Mar 29, 2009
    • I am very sorry for what you are going through. But maybe you need to sit down and discuss everything with your spouse, maybe he doesn’t know how you feel.Don’t give up on the marriage just yet(he might surprise you)Keep your head up and if you really need to talk to someone, you’ve got us FABULOUS girls.
      KEEP YOUR HEAD UP



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      Angieuwood wrote Mar 30, 2009
    • What’s going on with you that you really feel this way about your marriage, your man?  Has he done something to make you feel this way?  I know sometimes when it comes to marriage alot of times, we get married for the wrong reasons.  I know I had a friend who got married in March 08 and was seperated and going through divorce 3mths later.  She just felt that who she thought she was marrying was the right person for her.  But turned not to be.  

      And even I went through the same thing.  My case was, my husband was not appreciative of me and always trying to verbally/mentally beat me down.  I tried talking to him about his attitude towards me and found it was pointless.  After a while I couldn’t take no more and it was at that moment.  I said it’s time for me to leave or something bad is gonna happen.  And here I am 1 year later after leaving and going through divorce, that I’ve survived.  

      But if you can talk it out I say, work it out.  And if there’s misery in going home and not wanting to be there.  Then you have to do some real heart felt searching on what it is you do want.  And remember, no choices are bad ones.  Only the ones that you end up regreting because you didn’t.   Here for you if you wanna vent!!estatic



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      Kelly Robertson wrote Mar 30, 2009
    • I feel your pain, sister, and my heart is with you.  

      I changed my marriage by adopting the Priciples of Abraham Hicks and the LOA. I wrote (journaled) AND envisioned my Positive Affirmations of what I wanted my reality TO BE and it worked, almost overnight. Now, 9 months later, my marriage is mending, healing and full of PEACE. Ahhh...

      Note: No addictions, infidelity or physical abuse. If that was the case, I’m sorry, but I’d probably be GONE. Having to set the positive example to my children, I wouldn’t want them to learn that any of that was okay. My dad was an abusive drunk and that’s the exact type of man I married and more than once. Why? Because that’s what I learned. Now I know better.  

      I love you. ox kelly



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      Cmrobert wrote Mar 30, 2009
    • Sister,
      Your words pain my heart.  Please know that I am praying that God’s will be done in and of your life.  The FAB sisters have offered you some sound advice (as always) weigh you options and do what you feel is best for you.

      Always,
      Cheryl~



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      Jenni0811 wrote Mar 30, 2009
    • You are a strong Fabulous woman. It is unfortunate that you are experiencing these feelings, questions and negative emotions. We are here for you to “let it out“.  Without knowing more of your personal situation, my first suggestion of guidance would be to seek counseling, either as a couple or even individually to help you sort out your emotions and have some who is objective assess your situation.



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      UK Girl wrote Mar 30, 2009
    • Oh honey I know the feeling of not wanting to go home and feeling so lonely .....

      Why is divorce not an option if your so unhappy honey - you should be enjoying every day and living life to the full.

      Be strong honey xx



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      Wmos wrote Nov 4, 2009
    • The Divorce is FInNAL!



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