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Reading this articlemade me think of all the guy friends I have, and how much I love them. In High School girls were mean, and bonding with guys was so much easier. Then I grew up and started dating.
Several of the guys that I dated are still my very close friends. There is this bond that formed early on, and even though our dating didn't work out, our friendship continued to flourish.



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      UK Girl wrote Jan 25, 2009
    • My best friend in all the world is a guy ... we have worked together for over 35 years - we speak around 11 times a day.

      My husband couldn’t cope .... said there was always three people in the marriage plus I know it detered lots of other guys - but hey their problem not ours .....



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      Linni wrote Jan 25, 2009
    • Hi Yana!

      yes, i believe in platonic relationships! i have ALOT of male friends! and never have i wanted anything more then friendship!

      i have no idea on the part on the partner having a problem as i am single.. BUT i can tell you this:

      no man will stand in the way of my friendships, be it men, or women!



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      Owlmaria wrote Jan 25, 2009
    • YES, my dearest friends of the past were men. To this day my Bestest Budddy in the world is in TN, my husband is my best friend now. He has no problem w/ my male friends, he knows how I feel about loyalty to your mate, no infidelity here.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jan 25, 2009
    • I have male friends, too, and I really enjoy the interraction with them. None of them are ex boyfriends. My husband would not be ok with that. He gets very jealous.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jan 25, 2009
    • I love male friends. Sometimes they are just soo much easier to be friends with (no offense Ladies).

      Sadly tho my husband is not so cool on the subject. I have not lost touch with my male pals however I don’t stay as in touch out of respect for my husband.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Jan 25, 2009
    • I certainly do.  But ask my husband and he will give you a totally different answer!!! tongue out



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      Tuliplady wrote Jan 25, 2009
    • I have a ton of guy friends.  My husband is not a jealous man and he trusts me, so we don’t have any problems.  Friday night I went out for a few beers with my neighbor guy who is 26 and a really really good friend.  I probably only have 3 girlfriends around here, the rest are guys.  

      Joining Fab 40 is a huge step for me because I have just never been much into hanging out with the girls.  I love this site and have met so many really awesome people here, and I’ve learned it can be really fun to be with just girls.



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      Saylor101 wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • If you ask a man he’ll tell you that even if they are only friends with a women they have still thought about sex with them.  Perhaps that is true.  I don’t know.  

      I do know that the company of a dear freind, male or female is awesome.  Growing up I had several male freinds, NO ONE I dated was EVER good enough!  They were indeed my big brothers!

      As an adult i’ve had a few, mostly “bosses” i became very close to - - from all those hours of covering their ass at their job I suppose!  But men just seem to tell me things that are NOT my business.  Stories about partners, business deals, their girlfreinds/wives.  Sort of odd - Always feel like a cross between a daughter and best friend with them.

      Have a youngone a “hired hand” of one of my dearest freinds, & we have become close through these months of my seperation he’s been very comfortable to talk with he’s sorto of like one of us girls - it’s nice, it had been along whilie since I had a guy to talk to that I didn’t work for or with.



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      Robinesque wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • I don’t believe in it.  That sexual tension is always there.



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      Jenz ~ wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • I have very close friends that are guys. Not a problem.



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      Tuliplady wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • Well said Berrnadette.  You are much more articulate than I, but I had very similar thoughts.

      Robinesque, there is some sexual tension between a couple of my guy friends and me, but that doesn’t make them any less a friend.  They and I know that part of it isn’t going anywhere so we‘re all good.



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      Robinesque wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • The devil is always the third person in the room.  (think about it).



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      Tuliplady wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • Meaning temptation is always present?



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      Robinesque wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • Exactly, tuliplady.



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      Rene' Grandon wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • Yes, in high school I had a best friend who was a guy.
      Now as a adult only guy friends are gay guys.
      I love Trevor too death, he is just like a great girlfriend.



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      Jean Walter wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • I have a LOT of guy friends! I can open up and be myself with them and plus I love getting a "guys" perspective on some things!
      Downfall I have an extremely jealous husband and even though most of my guy friends are his friends too, he is very uncomfortable with how easy I get along with them and has no problem with telling me so...and making me feel like I am doing something wrong.
      I agree there can be sexual tension but as long as their are boundaries and no one crosses the line... all is good!

      jealousy is evil



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      Robinesque wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • Yeah, I would love a gay guy friend.  But, it would have to be on the sly.  Hubby don’t play that!



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      Jacquie6363 wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • I enjoy my guy friends, unfortunately, my husband has a jealous streak and really don’t care for me having guy friends, but I am who I am.  I do not disrespect him, but refuse to allow him to change me into someone that I am not, so he has to live with the fact that these guys are my friends and that’s it.  He has female friends and I am not one bit jealous of his relationship with them.  My husband even got jealous of the close relationship between me and my uncles, we come from two different worlds and many times our world clashes.  My husband grew up in a life where it was every man for himself, I grew up in a life where everyone helped each other.

      Yes, I agree, the desire to sin is within each and everyone of us, but we also have the choice to choose righteousness or evil and I chose righteousness.  If one of my guy friends were to hit on me, I would nip it in the bud.  

      My best guy friend is Ricky, unfortunately, he lives in NJ and our only contact is phone/email.  My mom has adopted him as her son, he is such a caring and giving person.  If I were to fall victim to every jealous streak he exhibit, I would be cutoff even from my family.



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      Karyn Olson wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • Yes I do believe in having close male friends...as long as that is all it is...once you cross the line it changes everything...and not always for the good...I would not want to risk that for anything...I have in the past and have since regretted it....my policy now is no hanky panky with my guy friends...happy



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      Cheryl Guy wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • One of my very best friends is a guy that I have known since high school. In fact, he is flying to Phoenix to see me on Thursday. I have never dated him & have never wanted anything sexual with him. My husband gets along with him & is not jealous at all.



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      Yana Berlin wrote Jan 26, 2009
    • I think that any husband will be just a bit jealous if your guy friend is gorgeous.  

      That’s why gals, chose your guy friends wisely, it’s those geeks that turn out to be loyal life time friends, and if they grow into being a good looking man in twenty years, no one will even notice....



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      Desi~lu wrote Jan 27, 2009
    • I have a question to all of you with guy friends ~
      Do you allow your husbands the same?  How would you feel if he had strictly platonic girl friends?  How would you know if it was strictly platonic?

      I have guy friends I speak with by e-mail or in passing, but don’t hang out with them out of respect for my husband.  He doesn’t have any girlfriends.

      Just cursious how you all feel!



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      Robinesque wrote Jan 27, 2009
    • Good point, desi~lu.



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      Cheryl Guy wrote Jan 27, 2009
    • My husband has a female friend that he has known for a long time. It does not bother me at all. He has never been romantically involved with her just like I never have been with my guy friend. I would never meet a man now that I am married and expect my husband to let me hang out alone with him nor would I accept my husband making a new female friend & wanting to spend time with her without me being there. There is a great difference between friends that you have had for almost a life time before even meeting your husband & friends that you are meeting while you are married. What kind of friend would I be if I told Mark (my best guy friend) that I could not see him without my husband being there? And what would that show about my marriage? That my husband has trust issues, is insecure, jealous, etc.? Mark is not just a “guy friend” he is a GREAT FRIEND.



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      Yana Berlin wrote Jan 27, 2009
    • desi~lu great question.  

      In all honesty I wouldn’t be to happy if my husband all of sudden became friends with a woman, however, he has several girl-friends from 30 years ago that I have become friends with, he also has business associates that he became close with over the years, am I jealous no, it’s only fair.....BUT, let’s put things in perspective. If ANY of them looked like Cindy Crowford or Demi Moore and flirted with him I would change my opinion in a heart beat.

       estatic



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      Tuliplady wrote Jan 27, 2009
    • Good question Desi-lu.  My husband does have female friends at work.  In fact for awhile he worked in an office full of women. Several of those women are very nice looking.  There is one gal who tends to be a little flirty, but that doesn’t really bother me.  She’s not after my husband she’s just a flirt.  He also has some female friends from AA who are very protective of him, but he doesn’t hang out with them. (sometimes I wish he would)

      Now, if he was coming home from work late because he stopped off to see some woman friend, I might have issues.

      Friends of the opposite sex are fine for both parties as long as it does not take away from your marriage.



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      Jacquie6363 wrote Jan 27, 2009
    • Oh of course, he has women friends and I am fine about it.  I believe it is all about each individual knowing what is and what is not.  Society has put too many restrictions on what should and should not be.  If my husband was to become romantically involved with one his women friends, then I believe that he should be willing to bear the consequences. I will not put up with disrespect. He had a life before he met me and I had a life before I met him, why do I have to change who I am.  Most of this distrust comes about because most men are so insecure and then to judge their partners, by their own standards.



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      Unlockingdreams wrote Jan 28, 2009
    • I have several men friends.  If I am dating someone, they respect both of us and give us our space.  I really think you can tell if there is more to a relationship than just friendship.



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      Sandra Chaplin wrote Feb 7, 2009
    • Yana I concur with growing up only having guy friends, because me and the female couldn’t get along. The guys was more easy to talk to and didn’t keep a lot of issues going. They were the only one I hung around with, I had five brothers so the more the merrier!
      I made many enemies with the other females, but that didn’t bother me, It did affect my relationships when I introduce or told my significant other about them. So I think it depend who you are involve with and how much of your past and future they are willing to accept. I still have men friends, I’m single and whom ever accept me now, accept all of me, past, present, and future!



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