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Remember that deodorant commercial from the 80’s: "Never let them see you sweat"? Well, the year is 2008 and times have changed.

We spend half of our lives embarrassed, uncomfortable and worried about our fears and doubts. We hold back from being honest with our loved ones for fear of letting them down. We hold back from being ourselves with our girlfriends and boyfriends for fear of being rejected. And we hesitate to confide in or lean on a friend, thinking he or she can't handle the pressure.

With so many fears and worries, how can we possibly step up to the plate and embrace life? By letting people see us sweat.

If you want to succeed in life, you must have at least two people that you can trust implicitly. People you can share your deepest thoughts, feelings and secrets with. People you can turn to without hesitation when your worries and fears are getting the best of you.

Let's face it—human beings are social creatures. We were not meant to walk through life alone; it is meant to be shared with others. Living life to the fullest demands that we be strong enough to be weak. It requires opening up, reaching out to others and letting it all out. We can't be "superwoman" all the time, so we need to give ourselves a break and stop trying.

Greatness isn't measured by what we achieve. It's measured by what we overcome. We need other people in our lives who can pick us up when we are down, give us a push when we need one, and show us a different perspective on life. But those people can't help unless we reach out and ask for it.

Let this week be the week when we open the lines of communication. When we stop pretending that we can conquer the world all by ourselves and learn to delegate. Above all, let this be the week when we let down our guard and show those people we love and trust that we really do sweat.



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      Feathermaye wrote Sep 8, 2008
    • I wholeheartedly believe that we need just one or two trusted souls to use as our buffer against the sometimes-harsh realities of the lives we lead.

      I also believe that to stretch ourselves too thin, to ‘give away’ too much of ourselves in our efforts to share and be accepted, could work against us.

      I don’t mind lettin’ ‘em see me sweat; I mind when they start to take advantage of my willingness to do so.

      Thanks so much for this thoughtful post!



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      Meri Cain wrote Sep 8, 2008
    • Yana,
      I am a new member and have been looking around for the last 2 days.I just want to say......  

      What a great gift you have given to all of us.
      Thank you for this forum.

      -Meri



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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Sep 8, 2008
    • What an awesome post. It’s hard to realize we aren’t
      “superwomen” even though we‘re often called up to be!! It takes me quite awhile to build trust and be able to open up, but it’s getting easier. I realized that I can’t do it all...even though most of the time I have to!!

      The one thing I’ve learned over the past few years is that I don’t need to impress anyone. I’m doing the best job possible in my life and I’m no longer going to “Sweat” about having a bad day or not being exactly where I want in life. It all comes with time....



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      Perl wrote Sep 9, 2008
    • that’s great, Yana. Thanks for reminding us. I really love this site now.



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      Sharman G. Lawson wrote Sep 9, 2008
    • You are so right! Unfortunately, as we get older we lose most or all of our trusted friends. I’m almost to the place of discovering my husband and daughter are my most trusted and supportive team.



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      Meri Cain wrote Sep 9, 2008
    • Thank YOU Yana,

      I am thankful that I have an amazing husband that really does alot for me. I think I am a much happier person because of it. The older I get the easier the word “No” is to say when I need time for myself. The most important thing for me is to be ok with me first,so then I can be available for others.
      -Meri



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      Darkangel4 wrote Sep 11, 2008
    • I agree wholeheartedly. I don’t sweat the small stuff. I use to feel guilty if people came to my home and my house was messy. I started to think if they are my friends they will only help me if they aren’t’ then it doesn’t matter.
      As women we are constantly on the go trying to put out fires and trying to work on ourselves and figure out the man we married for life. I take it one day at a time and I don’t always have the answers but one thing I know I am so looking forward to seeing the movie the women that opens up tomorrow with some of my friends and a drink or two afterward.:)



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      Kmarie wrote Sep 13, 2008
    • It is so real, everyone comments. When I was young it was easy to trust, there was more time for friends, time to just hang out. when betrayal occured you just went to a new circle of friends and then tried to get over the hurt. then we all grow up. We begin to move away from each other, and on to new phases in life. We have less time to just hang out, and have more responsibilties and yet we all still need friends. Recently I have been blessed to reconnect with several people from my past that I ahve truly enjoyed being friends with through the internet. Also to connect with some new friends that I am looking forward to learning more about. Yet still I am very blessed to have a couple of really good friends in my everyday life. It is good to have friends to just talk too.



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      Leeann wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • I really enjoy your blog. I think that being around people that are warm hearted, is the best place to be. I am very close to my husband. I met him when I was 19. It is really nice to have close friends as well.



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      Jennadahhling wrote Sep 17, 2008
    • Real deep friendship.  It is such a rare jewel.  My next door neighbor calls and the first thing out of her mouth is“can I ask you a favor?”   I AM NOT KIDDING. I cringe when I look at my caller ID.

      My mom is in the final stages of terminal lung and brain cancer.  I asked her “how is it, Mom, that you have such an abundance of rare jewel friends?”  She remained unmarried after she divorced my dad when I was 12.  So, she has had 30 years of time to develop these friendships.  She is home and under hospice care, and everynight, one of her “jewels” is there.  Betty will be with her for 2 weeks, day and night, and helped her through the hurricane that just hit.

      I hope someday, I will have acquired a few “rare jewels“, for now I will keep being the friend that I would like to have.  ~jennadahhling



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