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The topic of conversation among my girlfriends this weekend was sex. Lets just say some of us still blush when this topic comes up. I'm always amazed how easy it is for some to talk about intimacy, and how it's completely impossible for others. I learned a thing or two this weekend, and thought I'd share them with you.

Men Have Headaches Too:

Let's face it, aligning libido high's amongst spouses is like finding a TV channel you mutually agree upon.

Nearly half of women over 40 experience a lowered libido, and half experience higher!  

Biologists are now talking about "andropause" or ADAM (Androgen Deficiency of the Aging Male)—a testosterone drop in men over 40 that lowers libido.  

So what's a girl supposed to do when her man isn't ready to roll?  Sniffle quietly and pine away like the old days when asking for some lovin' didn't require a verbal request?  Absolutely NOT.  

There are some more subtle clues that will help you and your man get in the groove.  

1. Seduce him with music- Barry White's voice will even get a dead man in the mood.  

2. Sexy lingerie, sex toys,candles from Cindy Lou,Chocolates from Cynthia, and before you know it, he's all over you.  

3. If 1 or 2 do not work, off to doctor for the blue pill he goes.  

If You Can't Fake It, Bake It:

You know those days when the hormones are out of whack (right along with your kids and your boss), and you are looking forward to a quiet evening at home, only to find out that your better half is waiting for you with a drink and a smile on his face with high hopes.  

Artificially getting in the mood still counts, regardless of whether or not the stimulation getting you there is sexual or cognitive. One of my girlfriends managed to convince her husband to bake with her by persuading him that the therapeutic way of cooking along with comfort of sharing the desert afterwards was way more sexual than any intercourse.

health I also found out about EdenFantasys.com  where you can learn from others, share your experiences and re-discover sex! They have a welcoming and warm community with an abundance of inspiring resources, forums, contributor reviews along with online adult shopping... and for those of us that are still blushing this may just be the next big thing! Got to love girlfriends.    

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      Janet Wooley wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • No, I am past the blushing stage in my life, On occasion I am shocked in a good way. I am comfortable in my skin and communication is far better now than it was when I was first married.



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      Carine Nadel wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • never was the blushing type!



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      Petula Wright wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • Not too much makes me blush, but I’ve noticed lately that I laugh when I’m nervous or embarrassed. It’s a good cover. :) I’ve become more forthright with my wants and needs in regards to intimate relationships.



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      Nybratd wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • Sex make me blush, absolutely not.  If it were up to me sex in public places, would be a requirement:)



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      Marya1961 wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • No, I don’t blush about sex..as soon as I rub up against hub and caress his back and have that look in my eye..he is already undressed and ready to go..lol..estatic



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      Centex40+ wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • I used to never blush - but now, because I’ve been celibate (essentially) for at least 10 yrs (sex 3x/yr does not count...) I’m not used to the idea of fooling around.  Why is it that when a man has a couple too many drinks he gets aroused, when he is less able to perform????



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      Nyterisa wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • No, don’t blush about sex.  I am to open minded.



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      Tuliplady wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • I don’t blush about sex, or much of anything else either.

      I’m like dewp, I don’t think sex three times a year even counts.



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      Cyndylou wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • After giving birth and having all modesty striped does one blush about anything?  No, I do not blush about sex! BUT I do enjoy making men blush! LOL!!!



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      Denise Richardson wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • happyNo talk of sex does not make me blush I love a good sexual conversation. I’m open to all aspects of the ideas of sex not saying that I would try everything but I think a good sexual relationship as well as good sex talk is good for the person’s well being.



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • Sex doesn’t make me blush. I’m open to a good sex conversation between friends and even family. I also enjoy some good toys between me and my partner and by myself when needed.estatic lets just say..I love my Magic Wand estatic



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      Ellen Linville wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • Sex used to make me blush (when I was 13!)  Not doing it at 13, just talking about it.  Now that I was just dumped last week the only thing I can do is talk about it. What is a girl to do?!!!



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      Mz. Queen wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • I still blush, but I make sure I get my point across when it comes to getting the big “O” one of three ways. And I make sure this information is shared and understood beforehand.



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      Titwillow64 wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • After giving birth to & breast feeding four children (and being married for more than two decades to a very open biology teacher!), I don’t blush often.  It seems only to appear when old boyfriends are making a conscious effort to embarrass me! ;)



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      Marilyn09 wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • I am a blusher. Not with my hubbie. But with friends. I just assume to listen to them while they tell their stories than for me to open up to anything.



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      Cori87 wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • I blush... but not about sex.  Not sure what that means ohhhh



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      Monika Morris wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • Not with friends....we laugh and giggle.



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      Melissa Smith wrote Jul 7, 2009
    • Nope not a blusher...
      in fact I’ve discovered in the last few years that my gal pals and I are way worse about discussing sex and all than men are.  Mostly men really do NOT talk about sex.  for the most part if you put a few of them together they are gonna talk sports, cars, work, or home improvements. (and this isn’t just when they think a woman is around.) They don’t seem to open, share, and bond over experiences like women do.

      Unless there is a football involved.

      Mel



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      La Shawn Henderson wrote Jul 8, 2009
    • No I’ve never had a problem talking about sex and I’ve even learned a few trick from talking to my girl friends.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 8, 2009
    • So not a blusher when it comes to sex.... try to pay me a compliment tho and it’s a different story!



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      Anne Lyken-Garner wrote Jul 8, 2009
    • My husband would certainly not take that baking bait. I’d have to be more devious than that.  

      Blue pill? Sometimes I swear he’s on that pill without my knowledge. Some people have all the energy! happy



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      Blondzrbest wrote Jul 8, 2009
    • I’m not a blusher either.  But perimenopause has put a huge dent in my libido.  I’m taking Yaz now for my severe PMDD so that has improved my mood drastically but the libido still sucks.



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      L J wrote Jul 8, 2009
    • i think that when i hit 40, my libido went up with the age bracket! i don't know why but all i can think of lately is sex,sex,sex!!!!
      my hubby is not into it anymore like i am, every since we got married and i said 'I DO! HE DON'T!'
      but i am all about playing,teasing,and coaxing him into what i wanna do sometimes!
      hey! a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do!



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      Deanna Whitten wrote Jul 9, 2009
    • I can talk about anything and no it doesnt make me blush. By the way, I sell sex toys also. Send me a message if your interested, I’ll send the link.  I have alot of readers and will shortly be opening a radio show on romance and sex.
      I may get hot at times but no blushing  LOL



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      Dalia Spurgeon wrote Jul 9, 2009
    • I have to say I am a blusher, even now at 42 sometimes a found my self in conversations with others that at times take me by surprise, I have know about my body early on since I develop at the age 10 and my mother had to explain that you cannot get pregnant by kissing or any of the 100s kinds of thing kids hear, I say that to say this I was a very happy quiet young lady not really looking for a man as If it was my salvation to cling to something to identify me so at age 20 when I meet a young man that look at me not only with lust but with love and saw the real me true many months of just talking and getting to know each other in a personal level, that’s what let me to believe that he will not only be my first sexual experience at age 20 but my husband then my experience with sex have been one of love, trust and unity for me is hard to hear people talk about sex and sex partner comparing them to old socks, laundry that can be discarted or to have the attitud that whatever they can do to start the fire even if is an artificial way of replacing intimacy with a little pill is not an attitud I posses for the simple reason that God is good and It has not been my experience and this is the honest true.   I am a married woman and there have been some seasons in my marriage that sex have been lacking but love never and patience have been one of the things that have allow us to always been able to re-connect and remain close, because at times it may be a medical condition, but other times it is that we are just human and get shaken emotionally or we let the circumstances of this life take us down.  So I am assure that unity, friendship, caring for your partner fillings and desires always result in the ultimate fulfillment we call Love.



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      Elastigirl wrote Jul 9, 2009
    • Let me tell you....the herbal remedies for sexual enhancement for women or men are GREAT!  I put together a “Romantic Enhancement” Basket for a benefit auction and it went for twice it’s value.  The guy who got it was 60 years old and married.  He told me later that he was amazed by it.



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      Elise M wrote Jul 19, 2009
    • Never shy about sex—do wish men would talk about it more often among themselves, other than bragging!  23 years together and the hubster still makes me hot, hot, hot!



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      Livingvictorious wrote Jul 29, 2009
    • Being around christian women, takes away from the deepest part of a hetrosexual friendship which I feel takes away from the REAL STRUGGLE OF THEIR REAL LIFE‘S DEEPER INNERMOST UNDISCLOSED HURTS!
      I am a christian and I believe our younger girls need to know the fun side of marriage and its perks!!



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      Najah Tamimi wrote Aug 4, 2009
    • Sex doesn’t make me blush.  It’s the lack of desire that doesworried



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