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It is always heart wrenching to witness your child in pain, especially at the hands of another child. As mothers we often feel helpless, and unsure of how to rescue our child. There are many ways to ease your Child's anguish; here are a few to consider:  

Acknowledge the problem:  Don't ignore that a problem exist. Talk openly and lovingly with your child about what they are experiencing.  

Acknowledge their feelings:  Your child is experiencing a myriad of feelings, from saddens to shame to fear, don't mitigate their feelings by telling them to just get over it, or telling them it is nothing.  

Accentuate the positive  : reassure your child that they have wonderful qualities. Often in the midst of emotional turmoil it is hard to remember the positive.  

Be supportive: your child needs to know you will always be there for them. Don't just tell them show them as well.  

Be proactive:  you are your child's strongest advocate, Talk to school administrators, teachers, counselors and parents. Get outside help if necessary, don't just wait and hope the problem will go away.  

For more information tune into What Now? With Laurie Giles, www.toginet.com Tuesday April 13, at 4:00 EST 3:00 CST and 1:00 PST, nationally recognized bulling expert Dr.  Harriet Mosatche will discuss the bullying and give advice to parents.

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      Hbrose wrote Apr 12, 2010
    • Good advice. I have a friend who is going through this with her child and will pass this on to her.  

      Thank you for sharing!



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      Corine68 wrote Apr 12, 2010
    • Wow, I agree with your advise, but what do you do when not even the police will help?  When you have your child come to you for help and you go through all the right chanels and still, nothing.  Unfortunatly its a real ugly world out there.  Me and mine have had to survive through some real though stuff.  One thing, Love has kept us strong.



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      Monika Morris wrote Apr 12, 2010
    • I have been going through this with my 12 year old son.  It is heart breaking.  I think we have it resolved.



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      Corine68 wrote Apr 13, 2010
    • Why doesn’t someone put a restraining order on the kid? Maybe if the police (maybe) get involved the parents would take notice.



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      Corine68 wrote Apr 13, 2010
    • Whether right or wrong, I have always told my boys, DO NOT EVER START IT BUT YOU FINISH IT!!!  It’s about defending yourself!  Do not let people push you around!  This Latina has raised two boys alone and had to put up with a lot!  If the proper channels don’t work, teach your child some self defense.



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      3sa wrote Apr 13, 2010
    • Or you could just teach them this face!



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      KRIS JULIN wrote Apr 15, 2010
    • Originally my son was to go to a high school, which has low stats and was known for gang problems, this was the closest school he had to go to. So we decided to put him into Taekwondo classes, as he is very small for his age. I believed it was more important to have a secure and confident child, who if necessary could defend himself, but for other kids to know it was not a good idea to mess with him. Fortunately we got him into school of choice, the best school in our district, bullying is zero tolerated, he has won gold medals in taekwondo and is on the freshman baseball team.  He is very popular with all the kids, even though he is a passiphist (sp) Bringing a child up to be secure and confident with himself, I believe does help. My son was bullied at elementary, I had no idea. He got so fed up, after the last assult he chased the bully ( whom had been bullying other kids to the point of them leaving the school) and beat him with his flag belt. my son was suspended for the day as it is a weapon, I left the principle in no doubt what would happen if I find out it happens again. I also have zero tolerance, I threatened to sue and get the police involved to both the school and the parents of the bully.  The bully never went near my son again or bullied agan, in fact they became friends. Remember bullies are kids who have no self asteem and are insecure, schools need to deal with this immediately they are aware and parents need to be in control.



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