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Miracles happen.  I don’t know how else to explain this.

Friends, I was on the computer this morning, doing my morning thing and my phone rang.  It was an unfamiliar out of state number, but I answered anyway because I was curious.

A very unfamiliar hesitant voice asked who this was and I gave my name.  And that unfamiliar voice said, “This is your brother.”

I honestly thought someone was screwing with me or had the wrong number or something.  This voice said he was calling to tell me I’m going to be an aunt again.

Ok.  I’ve never had the opportunity to be an aunt to my neices and nephew.  Got to be the godparent to one and after that I was shut out of their family circle.  I have a neice who must be about nine or ten and I’ve never laid eyes on her.

For ten long years I have never heard one single word from my brother.  Never had a card, letter, email, or text.  He’s not showed up for my parents 40th anniversary, nor their 50th, nor Dad’s quadruple by-pass surgery.

And this morning a phone call out of the blue.  

He said Mom told him he should call me.  And I quote, “So I figured it was time I stop being a jackass and do that.  Talk to you later.  Bye.”

I don’t know how to process this.  I can hardly wrap my mind around the fact that he called.  I can’t even relate to the smooth sophisticated city sounding voice I heard over the phone.

I don’t know what to think.  Has the Tulip ban been lifted?  Is it worth trying to communicate again and establish a relationship with my neices and nephew, or am I just going to get kicked in the teeth again?

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      Mary Clark wrote Apr 7, 2012
    • Tulip...I will agree with you.  I wouldn’t know how to process that either.  But as I am an outsider this is what I THINK I would do.  REmind you....I’m no expert!!  LOL

      For me it would take more than that to get in my good graces.  To call you out of the blue...tell you he is your brother and you are going to be aunt again...and then say...it’s time to stop being a jackass and call you....ummmm so WHY?  WHY did he call?  Just because your mother said he should?  Not a good enough reason for me.  ( Of course basing on what little info that I know about y‘all).  And then to hang up???  Not sure why he took his self out of the family equation but it would have to be more than that to get back in my life.  That wasn’t an apology.  And if you’ve never been in his children’s lives...why all of a sudden does it matter now?  Those would be my questions.  

      But remember...you can’t control other people.  You can only control YOU...and YOUR reaction to others.  I think at this point I would just go on with my life as you were doing.  As far as I’m concern...what he did changed nothing.  Would that be the case??  

      That’s my two cents on what little bit I know...



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      Marya1961 wrote Apr 8, 2012
    • Mary said it all..but there would still be that voice inside me wondering how to proceed.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Apr 8, 2012
    • I concur with the girls on this. I thought it was strange and he just said “bye” and that was that. Did he ask you how you were? Did he just hang up afterward without allowing you to say anything?

      I hope he doesn’t just leave you hanging but instead makes another call and continues the conversation.heartbreakheart



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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 8, 2012
    • Wow! I wouldn’t know how to process either. So just stay in your faith and be open when he reaches out again.

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      Tuliplady wrote Apr 8, 2012
    • I’ve been thinking along the same lines as you all.  If he calls again, I’m open to talking to him, but this call changes nothing as far as I’m concerned.



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      Butterflyrose wrote Apr 8, 2012
    • Tulip,

      I like your outlook about being open to talk with your brother.  As you know, family is one of the most important relationships in our lives.  Internally, your brother may be realizing this too. Your mom may have just helped him to find his way back.  It’s a start!

      An act of kindness is a gift given
      Butterflyrose

      #enjoylifeheart



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      Mary Clark wrote Apr 8, 2012
    • I do agree Tulip should keep the doors open but the brother has to do his part as well.  It’s great he called....if he’s genuine about it but what i’m saying is he has to do more to make the relationship work.  Of course I do realize if it’s been years since he’s been around it make take years to reconnect BUT...I’ve seen this too many times where one barely comes forward and expects everyone else to do all the talking...make it alright...and they just go along for the ride.  Does that make sense?  

      I truly believe in forgiveness and making amends with people.  We are commanded to but the brother has to do more.  My suggestion:  keep the ball in his court.  Listen....let him do what needs to be done and said.  heart



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      Tuliplady wrote Apr 8, 2012
    • I guess I’m taking a wait and see attitude. I agree that the ball is still in his court!  He has a birthday coming up next month, I may go so far as to send a card.  If I get some communication saying thanks for thinking of me, then I’ll have a glimmer of hope that perhaps I might have a brother again some day.

      I’m very curious to know the WHY of it all.



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      Mary Clark wrote Apr 8, 2012
    • Exactly Tulip....I would want to know the WHY too?



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      Msj wrote Apr 10, 2012
    • Maybe just  a little maybe, he is not good at communication? I hope that is the case. I hope he calls again and you can talk and work toward a relationship.

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