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Sometimes you have to wonder about what you're doing and why. The past month or so I've been trying to be wife, mom, grandma, freelance writer, daughter, aunt and a host of other titles-and I have to say, I've been pretty good at about maybe 2 of them. The rest I give myself poor to middling grades on.

Let's face it-there is only so much time and so much energy that we all have. Many people have more than others. That goes for patience levels as well. I've had a problem with the patience part. Not with the grandkids or even the kids, certainly not with my hubby. But I've been having a real problem with patience when it comes to me.

I want the energy of a 30 year old (I remember having a lot then. I was even still taking dance classes) and the physical health of one as well. I had a few "sciatica" events, but still could carry on with the kids, my part time job, cleaning the house, caring for the pets and all the rest of things.

I had to decide years ago whether to take care of the family or clean the house. We're in between housekeepers at present, but with a mountain of construction crews it seems like a trivial point at this particular time.

Which brings me to another point-I'm out of patience with the bathroom situation. One bathroom is done and gorgeous. The other is almost done-I can even see the finish line. We're down to the cabinet guy putting in the finishing touches, baseboards, mirrors and mirrored doors.
Trouble is-no one's been able to remember the size of the mirrors or the size of the glass insert for the tower.  

I've lost my sense of humor.
At least I've got my tub and I'm not afraid of using it. In fact, I've used it 3 times. I did lose my patience with my daughter on Thanksgiving Day. She decided to give the kids a bubble bath in it.

We left their home in Phoenix at 3 a.m., PST- we arrived home at almost noon. I was tired, in need of a shower and clean clothes. I knew it was a holiday, but just wanted to crawl into my own bed.
I held up though-all through dinner, a bath and even some catching up of a couple of shows on the DVR and then collapsed.
Next morning we had to have our tabby at the vet's for oral surgery, get my car in for new brakes and me to the hospital for test re-dos and some shopping. Hubby and I used the last of my birthday free dinner coupons and then we did some more catching up on shows on the DVR.

That's why this week's blog is late-I was too busy and pooped to think about what to say here.
Hope all of you had a great Thanksgiving and held up through your own Black Friday event.

As for us-my re-dos came out clear, our tabby is very loving but in pain and less 3 teeth and our kids are leaving the grandkids in our care while they go to a wedding.
They leave tomorrow for their new home and lives. Tomorrow we are officially making a second attempt at beginning our lives as empty nesters. And if the contractor knows what's good for him-he'll have that cabinet maker and the baseboard guy here on Tuesday.

And now, let's all hope for a wonderful and PEACEFUL holiday season.

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      Lazylola wrote Nov 28, 2009
    • Carine...that is more than enough, I’m exhausted for you. Get some rest and recharge those batteries.estatic



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      Carine Nadel wrote Nov 28, 2009
    • I’m hoping too, thanks lazylola.

      love the name, could stand to try that for a bit.



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      Mary Clark wrote Nov 28, 2009
    • Yes Carine...you need to regroup!!  I understand the bathroom thing...we just redid ours.  It was about a 2 month job.  I still have to design a light for over my vanity and get a mirror.  Everything else is done.  I know how you feel....



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      Carine Nadel wrote Nov 28, 2009
    • thanks Mary-I wish it was only 2 months!  We did 2 bathrooms and it started July 6th.
      sigh



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Nov 28, 2009
    • I dont get it?  Is it the design process that takes so long?  My bathroom was completely gutted from top to bottom.  New jacuzzi, custom shower doors and return, vanity, mirror, floor and wall tiles in less than 2 wks!!!  And new sheetrock and such.  

      xoxo



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      Carine Nadel wrote Nov 28, 2009
    • I’m thinking “why didn’t I put some sort of a clause in there about them owing me money if they didn’t finish in the promised 8 weeks.”

      I’d be earning some money at least...



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      Mary Clark wrote Nov 29, 2009
    • Doreen...the reason it took so long for us is that we did a lot of the work ourselves (and saved a ton of money)and contracted out with different people for the things we were not able to do.  We chose each contractor according to their reputation and expert ability.  I personally do not like the one contractor does everything.  I’ve seen too many corners cut in those situations.  So for us...we thought it was best to do what we could when we could (evenings and weekends)and pay for the best on all the rest.  We also had to wait on when our contractors were able to come out.  So...for us..there are a lot of factors.  But I’m glad we did it the way we did.  We learned a lot and I know exactly how my bathroom was created and what materials were used.  We roughly figured we saved about $10k and to me....it’s worth saving.

      **Oh and yes the design did take some time because I studied and searched how I wanted everything done...down to the custom built vanity and storage cabinets.



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      Encee wrote Nov 29, 2009
    • From what I read here - it sounds to me like mental and even emotional exhaustion is taking the wind out of your sails.  Are you physically healthy?  If yes, then it’s not “easy“, just simplier and making positive changes will lead to positive results - as opposed to “may lead” when it’s a physical challenge.  

      I know you can google self-help and find umpteen articles about what to do and how, but all I can say is that from where I sit - you need an outlet.  Something to sink your teeth into that you really like.  It doesn’t matter if it’s pottery or bird watching whatever speaks to you is what you should do.  

      We’ve been going through the construction process here, too, only it’s been the kitchen, breakfast room (which is large like a family room), almost all the flooring and new doors.  Oh, and a wood ceiling. (sigh)  It’s beautiful and I love it but going into the Holidays my  house is dusty and boxes are still everywhere as the shelves are not yet in the kitchen cabinets and so everything sits.  

      Believe me, I know from where you are speaking!  For me - my mid-life career change has been a blessing. Not only do  I enjoy what I am working with but what I need to research is what I love so it’s a double good-thing.  

      But I think all you need is some really good, quality me-time, and not just with a cup of coffee and a movie (although that’s fun too) but something that you can learn about, have a great time with, get you out of the house if that’s what you want, etc.  

      Enjoy the start of the Holiday Season!



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      Carine Nadel wrote Nov 29, 2009
    • we did tell them (wrong move now looking back) that we didn’t want them to rush through this and feel  time was move important that outcome and quality.  I just think they are taking me a bit too literally.
      also I am not “healthy“-I have RA, CRPS, degenerative discs in my neck, severe bursitis in my hips and shoulders and OA.
      My outlet is my writing and cooking and my family of course.



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      Mary Clark wrote Nov 29, 2009
    • Take care of yourself Carine.....I know of some of what you‘re going through.  My husband has had back surgery twice and a full knee replacement...and still needs to have disc replacement surgery to free him of the back pain he still has.  Dealing with the neck and back is gruesome and hard on everyone.  So I understand.  You do what makes you feel good and better...



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      Carine Nadel wrote Nov 29, 2009
    • hence the new and most wonderful of whirlpools.  I had the builder’s model-this time, I made sure and got myself a really great model.



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      Mary Clark wrote Nov 29, 2009
    • Good for you!!  I sure am enjoying mine!!



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      Carine Nadel wrote Nov 29, 2009
    • think I’ll definitely take another one tonight!!



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