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This is so petty that i feel pretty stupid that i’m as worked up over it as i am.  

My daughter, Kelly, has a tweezer habit that has become an ongoing issue between us.  She is a beautiful girl, with beautiful eyes, beautiful face.  The problem?  Her EYEBROWS...or what’s left of them.  For the past couple of years, these eyebrows have been disappearing right before my eyes.  I’ve actually grounded her from her eyebrows before and just this morning, i told her she isn’t permitted to pluck one single thing from her neck up till further notice.  I am so angry about it that i actually WOKE UP angry this morning after first witnessing the result of her latest attack on her eyebrows last night.  

These eyebrows are now about 1.5” long and MAYBE 4 hairs wide!!!!!!  I’ll bet she doesn’t have a TOTAL of 25 hairs over either eye.  When i told her that she looks ridiculous, she laughed at me.  I upped the ante and told her she looks like a freak of nature...she still laughed at me.  She had her arguments ready for she KNEW i was going to lose it when i saw those eyebrows.  She says:
“I’m unique!”
“I’m comfortable with how they look and that’s all that matters.”
“Oh, Mom...they‘re just eyebrows!”
“I like them...they‘re different!”

Why in the world would the good lord give me such a pretty girl and then let her destroy her face like this???  I know...now I‘M being ridiculous.  This has nothing to do with God.

I don’t even want to take her out in public.



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      Tuliplady wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • LOL!  I feel your pain Daphne!  I can so relate.  I have a twenty-six year old daughter who is drop dead gorgeous with a flawless complexion (people are always commenting on what beautiful skin she has).  Then you look at what’s left of her eyebrows.  frown  I just don’t understand why these girls do this to themselves.  I think she looks like she out to be wearing a polyester pantsuit from the 70’s with those eyebrows and bright blue eyeshadow.  

      I’ve only argued with her once about this, back when she was about 19.  Needless to say, nothing I said made a difference.  

      I guess we’ve just gotta let them do their own thing.  Goodness knows, my mom still hates my long hair after all these years.



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      Trudy S wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist but this sounds more like it is her way to have her own ‘power‘.  Its a mother/daughter thing.  Be glad she didn’t decide to stop eating or start cutting.  

      Eyebrows grow back.  She’ll get through this.  The bigger deal you make of it the more she will pluck.  She is trying to show you that she has control over something in her life - her body.



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      Feathermaye wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Even as obsessed as I am with my tweezers, my eyebrows are not really my target. I’m after those nasty little buggers that appear everywhere else!!

      I think nicely shaped brows are really what can make or break (figuratively, of course) a pretty face.

      I came back from the bank yesterday and told Scott that the teller who has no eyebrows and draws them on with the same pencil she uses to line her lips scares me a little bit! And it’s true!!

      Daph, I would like to tell you that it’s a phase she’s going through, and that the more you resist the harder she’s going to go at it. I’d like to tell you that she will come to terms with her brows and find a way for them to live in harmony on her face. I’d like to tell you all these things, but what do I know?? I raised a boy with a unibrow. LOL!!!

      Good luck!



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      UK Girl wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Honey listen to Trudys ......the more you moan and the more you bitch the more she will do it - its about control ...

      Pick your battles carefully .......be thankful she hasn’t done something worse - eyebrows can be sorted other things can’t.

      Think back to her age if your mum said something didn’t a little voice in your head say “what does she know“...
      This may not help you being mad but do you want to end 2008 angry over some tiny hairs ?



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      Inakika wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • OMG! Feather, I am cracking up at what you wrote about the tellers make-up! Please, forgive me Lord.....ohhhh..... Okay, my friend Jeanette wears her make-up like that! She DRAWS on the most horrible eyebrows, then she lines her lips in black. And when her lipstick disappears, her lips have this garish black outline. When she recently got married, I was horrified with the thought of her wearing that black lipliner on her wedding day. Luckily, her make up artist cousin was not having that and made her up beautifully! estatic



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      UK Girl wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • I just read this and this and remembered in our tiny village in Rochdale we had one doctors surgery and the receptionist was known universally as "Mrs.Eyebrows" she had these amazing arched hand drawn things .......she permanently  looked surprised ! The best bit was one was higher than the other ....

      Which obviously boded well when delivering news in doctors....?



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • I have to pencil mine in.  I cant even wax them because there is not much left.  I guess all those years of plucking have caused them to not grow anymore frown

      If I only knew then.......

      xoxo



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      Daphne wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Well, as the day progressed, things improved...sort of.

      Kelly has agreed that she will not leave the house without penciling in her eyebrows.  I told her i wouldn’t take her anywhere so she was left with little choice.  She conceded that the penciled in brows looks better than the tildes she presently has over her eyes.  I have taken all tweezers from my shop and locked them up, repeated to Kelly that she is under tight scrutiny and i’ll be counting her eyebrows daily if necessary.  She has assured me that she will not touch her eyebrows until i say she can.

      Regarding the “control” comments...believe me, i’ve considered that possibility.  I’m not a control freak and i don’t believe that Kelly feels that she’s lacking control in her life.  She gets amazing grades, has a very busy social life, and is one of the happiest-go-lucky kids i’ve ever known.  

      Thanks for your comments, everyone.  I had a few much-needed laughs.



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      Leeann wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • My grandma kept messing with her eyebrows just like your daughter, she told me she had to pencil
      them in because they never filled back in again! I had mine theaded for the first time a couple of weeks ago. I really like it because waxing burns my skin.



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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Okay, I have to agree (although all kids are different) that eyebrows or lack thereof are a minor thing comparatively speaking. On the serious side of things, I was obsessive about no hair color, no multiple piercings, etc. and my daughter ended up doing all of the above and far worse just to spite me. Honestly, there are times (even since she was two) that I thought she lived to spite me. Now I wonder if it would have been better or worse to have loosened the reins. I am doing things differently with my other kids, but none of them are quite as iron willed as she was/is so I can’t say for sure whether it would have made a difference. I can say I wish I could do it over though!



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      Coachmombabe wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Well, girls, our first born took the meth route. We went through hell and back with him and his friends. Our middle child, always pretty compliant, and our only girl, dyed her hair every color under the rainbow! She bought her clothes at the salvation army, often wearing old men’s golfing trousers and skulls on her shoes. She got an eyebrow ring at 16. But she never smoked, drank, or sneaked out at night.

      Guess which concessions I’d rather make? Pick your battles wisely. Our son is clean now, and our daughter is beautiful. It all comes out in the wash!



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      Coachmombabe wrote Dec 31, 2008
    • Uh, there’s another child. He’s a whole other story! Another post!



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