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I went to a professional conference.  They said I needed to get a Facebook account.  So I did.  I started getting "friends".  Then my children added me as friends.  This was good.  The best thing about Facebook is the pictures loved ones and friends can exchange.  The birth of a baby, an anniversary celebrated, a vacation earned.  

Shortly, my children's friends started adding me as friends.  I thought this a little odd.  I mean, why would they want their friends' parents looking at their updates?  I mean...isn't a little separation, a little unfamiliarity between generations a good thing?  I'm an open person.  Fine...they want me as a friend, they've got me as a friend.

I wish I wasn't their friend.

My big question is this:  WHY ARE ALL THESE YOUNG WOMEN PRETENDING TO BE PORN STARS?

   

Seriously!  I can't take this anymore.  I don't get it.  I don't want to get it.  This "wanna be a slut" starts in middle school and apparently continues well into the 20's.  You know what I'm talking about.  

And these girls have HUNDREDS of pictures of themselves and others in these degrading poses.  Picture after picture of girls at parties, girls drinking, girls looking at the camera with the "pursed up lips" (this is so not a good look), girls grabbing other girl's breasts, girls drinking out of beer bongs and...the V SIGN.

The V SIGN is everywhere.  Someone enlighten me about the V SIGN.  

I mean I'm no spring chicken, and I'm pretty sure I know what the V SIGN is, pretty sure, but WHY?  Is vulgar the new sexy?  Is crude and exhibitionist the new normal?  Is objectification the new feminism?

AND THE TONGUES.  What's with the tongues?  Everywhere the tongues.  And the smiles.  These girls are perpetually ecstatic.  Pictures of special note are the ones where the girls are lap dancing for adolescent pimply-faced boys.  Or they are bumping and grinding up against them.  

Leave the porn to the professionals.  You girls are way in over your heads.

I wonder about these girls and how they are going to feel about all these pictures that are now circulating the Internet for all eternity?  

How are they going to feel when they actually grow up and raise the bar of expectation for themselves?  When they realize that someday their daughter may ask them, "Mom, what were you doing in those pictures?  Gross Mom!"

It's all disturbing but especially disturbing are the pictures of the pre-16 year olds.  We're worried as we all should be with the economy and the drop of the stock market.  But what about the drop in expectations and core values?  Where are all the mothers who burned their bras in protest to the sexualization of women?

Are they not scratching their heads when they see their daughters burning their bras for the pure titillation value for young men?

Call me a prude if you must.  

Mothers and Fathers:  Deprogram your sons and daughters.  Stop buying your 10-year-old daughter a padded bra (yes, Limited Express sells them).  Stop letting them see every reality show that normalizes lewd behavior.  Tell them they have a brain that is going to serve them much more in the long run than their breasts.  

And take their frigging computers and cell phones away from them until they can behave like a lady.

A what?

Look it up in the dictionary.  I hope it's still there.

NOTE:  Parents and young men and women should be aware that it is standard protocol for employers to check out prospective employees by looking at their Facebook or MySpace accounts.  They find a way to get in.  Repuation Defender (reputation.com) is a business that is very effective in getting unwanted pictures and content off the Internet once and for all.  However, anything that is considered “public record” cannot be removed.

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      Tuliplady wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • “Where are all the mothers who burned their bras in protest to the sexualization of women?  

      Are they not scratching their heads when they see their daughters burning their bras for the pure titillation value for young men?”

      I’ve been wondering this too.  These teenage sluts are demolishing every single thing the women’s rights movement fought so hard to gain.



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      UK Girl wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • I agree with you ....its almost like they have no value on themselves.



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • Yes, it’s like the pendulum for women’s lib swung waaay too far the other direction.



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      Feathermaye wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • I have a close family member who is on Facebook; her barely-fifteen year old daughter has an account as well.

      I am repeatedly appalled by the racy profile photos of the daughter, and the fact that her mother is fully aware and allowing it.

      It’s one thing when our kids flaunt it all behind our backs... it’s something else altogether when it is being condoned. Which, in my opinion, is just as big of a problem.



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      Jenni0811 wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • ....one of the biggest reasons I pulled my FB account. seemed the biggest “activity” was sexually oriented....among strangers.....and I’m talking about adults here...



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • To be honest...I have a FB account but I’ve never seen such lewd pictures/behaviors on there..Maybe because I hardly ever get on there..I don’t know...But I really enjoyed reading this because I have young ladies and men that I’m raising and I like to be aware of what’s going on out there..Nothing can be worst than myspace though...I’ve heard some stories on there...



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      Deanna Moon wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • Just goes to show how our media has overexposed women so much, that the teenage girls try to live up to these exposures by being slutty, as attention and rebellion, and reaction to constant overstimulation from the media, and it’s negative influence on everyone, especially our youth.  Also the lack of discipline due to fear of too many people assessing, criticizing, and dictating to us about what is allowed and not allowed in child raising.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • I have myspace and facebook and honestly.....it all depends on what you put yourself out there for.  Its no different than getting spam mail in your internet mailbox.  You delete what you dont want.  You can always make your profile private!!  Most don’t.  

      xoxo



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • deanna is so right...we’ve all but gotten our hands tied when it comes to raising our children...we‘re basically told what we can and cannot do with/to our children...

      Back in the day, people lived by the creed ‘spare the rod, spoil the child’ as written in the Bible, but now, putting your hand on your child in the form of discipline can get you time in prison and our children know this. They’ve been encouraged in school to call someone if their parents put their hands on them in a negative way...



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • So I started reading and was wondering......could it be any my daughters or their friends...... as I scrolled I felt myself tightening up..... Thank goodness it is no one I know.

      I haven’t experienced this problem on FB.  

      Now on yearbook.com I pulled my acct (my sister roped me into that one) because it’s a meat market.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • Im also on classmates.com but dont see much activity there.
      Im hoping for a union of some kind.

      xoxo



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • Hey Doreen

      I am on classmates too but when my class decided to do a reunion they utilized that but also FB. It seems that there was a better response with FB.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • ReallY???  I will have to check that out.  Thx Vikki estatic



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • Look under your high school or city.....

      Good Luck!



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • thx again ... I will  estaticestatic

      xoxo



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 24, 2009
    • For some reason those girls think that is sexy or attractive & it’s neither. In addition, a few of those chicks have NO biz wearing that stuff! No mirrors in the house? wth IS that? This type of behavior isn’t just on the internet- it’s in the clubs too. Seems many try to be as slutty as possible. I’ve not seen this on fb. Some on myspace but like was mentioned earlier, block, make your page private and don’t allow anyone onto your friends’ list unless u know them.
      Call the ‘fashion police’ on some of these girls after someone shows their Mamas what they’ve been doing. I’m far from a prude, believe me. But you won’t see my daughter doing that.
      People shouldn’t throw their self-value out the window for attention. That’s stupid.



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      D Shelli wrote Mar 25, 2009
    • The objectification of young girls starts in the media via cartoons, Disney and Nickelodeon shows, etc.  I happen to be sitting w/ my 11 yo son watching a cartoon yesterday afternoon a cute harmless cartoon...look closer.  The boy characters are busy building rocket ships, making discoveries etc while their older teenage sister is standing in her room talking to a picture of a boy she likes and preparing for what to wear to a costume party to impress him.  She has no purpose in the show but, to “chase” some boy and be really mean to her brothers.  That is transmitted to children (boys and girls) constantly through “harmless” T.V. shows over and over and over and then it escalates and translates into the real world.  It is subtle, constant and everywhere in the media.



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      Sunnyshar wrote Mar 25, 2009
    • I also agree completely with this blog. I have been asked by some friends if I am on facebook and I just don’t feel like being on there since I cancelled my myspace acct a long time ago because of the same sort of thing. I was constantly being asked to be friends with males who were just looking for “a good time“. And I didn’t have any provocative pictures, it got to the point where I had to specify exactly who I would like to meet etc. It just wasn’t worth the annoyance. Where are their morals? It is amazing to me that this has gotten so popular to show yourself as slutty. I guess some of these mothers could be acting the same way. I just don’t know but it has gotten out of control.  

      I also just wanted to add that the new Dove commercials and campaign have been really great. They are to empower women to be happy with who they are and how they look and to accomplish important roles in life. Good Job Dove!



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      Tuliplady wrote Mar 25, 2009
    • I was still thinking about this post this morning.

      I may be wrong, but it seems to me these girls are crying out for attention.  And, because they didn’t get the attention they needed at home in their younger years, it has escalated to this type of behavior.  Just a thought.

      I know you’d never see my daughters in pictures like that!  They know I’d make their life a living hell if they did stuff like that.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 25, 2009
    • My cousin is on Facebook and when I ask to add him, he said “Sorry, I can’t.  I did not even want my parents to be my friends.”  So I asked him at least to create another dummy account so he can at least tell us how he is doing to a smaller extent.  

      With Facebook, I am more hold back.  And for here, I am a little rowdy. tongue out



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      3sa wrote Mar 27, 2009
    • if I knew the internet was coming I would not have had children!



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      Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. wrote Mar 27, 2009
    • I wonder how many of you have heard of the 14 year old girl was posting nude pictures of herself on myspace and is now being charged as a child pornographer.  I don’t agree with these charges, but perhaps this will wake some parents up to being more involved and more aware of what their children are doing on the internet.



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Mar 27, 2009
    • My 15-year-old goddaughter got caught doing this and faced that same exact possibility. She managed to avoid this punishment, but the girl who actually distributed the pics got in some serious trouble.



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      Tamra wrote Oct 12, 2009
    • So well put!  My thoughts exactly.  To me, it’s also about discretion.  I am not naive to think young folks don’t have curiosities and act to resolve them, but to do so publicly is terribly harmful with potential long-term impact.  I would hope my young loved ones never behave this way, but I will never say never.  Even the best of kids can be swayed by their peers.  But if they practice discretion, the harmful effects could be minimized, especially in the long run.

      Thanks for speaking out about this!



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      Anonymous wrote Jan 26, 2011
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      Mary, I agree. One thing though. And I am terribly sorry for having a slight giggle at your misunderstanding of “the V Sign.” Do you mean, the peace sign? Because that’s what it is. Doesn’t mean anything vulgar. I’m surprised at the 40 and up age range not knowing the peace sign, with a surge in popularity during the hippy/peace movement in the 60’s. But I do agree girls are acting and looking more and more vulgar these days. smh.



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