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What are you afraid of?  Some of the most common are:  death, public speaking, heights, pain.  Other popular fears are:  snakes, spiders, closed-in spaces, flying.  Really, there can be fears of just about anything.
Some fears are simple to deal with. For example, if you don’t like flying, you can take a bus or train. If you fear snakes, you probably won’t hike a lot. Other fears may slap us in the face every day. If you, like me, live in an old house, there will be bugs (*shudder!*). (If there’s a high probability of killing the bug, I’ll go for it! If not, I’m not going to take a chance of it turning on me! How crazy is that?) We may fear something happening to our children while they‘re out playing.
As you can see, some fears are reasonable & some are not. While there may be a small chance of our fear playing out, most likely it will not. And yet we still fear! Why is that?
I remember growing up, I used to be terrified of shots/needles. I intellectually knew they were good for me; I knew the pain was only temporary; yet I was still irrationally afraid. Now, I’m Rh negative & my husband is Rh positive, so when I was pregnant, I had to be “pricked” with a Rhogam shot, as well as all the other shots you get when you‘re pregnant. By the end of my first pregnancy, I was no longer afraid of needles; in fact, I called myself “The Human Pincushion“! This is what they call “desensitization“—facing your fears over & over until you realize there really isn’t all that much to fear after all.
I’m not so sure if desensitization can be done on our own. Who in their right mind would continually go back to the thing that causes them to tremble? For me, I had to take care of my baby’s health so I had to get the shot. No brainer there. But what about someone who has the fear of confronting others? Or a fear of public speaking once they get a higher, more important job?
Perhaps if we got a braver friend to help us out; maybe you could help her with something you have no problem with if she helps you with yours! Fear is always a little less harsh when we don’t face it alone. Many rely on their faith as they face their fears as well.
What do you do to face your fears?  Or do you face them at all?




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      Mzd3 wrote Oct 29, 2011
    • I would have to say my fear is death, and death of a loved one. I lost 8 people in a years time, it was the worst time of my life, I was so depressed . SO, Im not really sure if I can face that fear.  

      But, as a child I was afraid of needles to, until I HAD to get a shot every week for about 6 weeks, then I was no ;onger afraid of them....desensitization works.



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      Marya1961 wrote Oct 31, 2011
    • I definitely rely on my faith to help me through my fear..God is the ONLY constant in my life, besides my own inner strength.



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