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Last night my husband and I had dinner with a good friend of ours that we met while living in Tampa, Florida.  I adore his wife, and we have kids around the same age who have always gotten along really well.  It was wonderful catching up with him, and getting to hear what is new in their world.  During our one of our conversations, he told us that his father will be moving in with them in the Spring instead of heading into assisted living housing.  He said that his father would really prefer to be with family, and I really respect my friends for being so unselfish and supporting him.  This made me start thinking about my parents, and my husband’s parents, and about some of the tough decisions that we will probably have to make one day.

Deciding on how to care for an aging parent must be really difficult.  Each family is different, and has different needs, so there can’t be one answer for everyone.  My grandmother really thrived in an assisted living program, as she was so social and enjoyed that aspect of it.  On the other hand, my grandfather seemed to go downhill quickly after being placed in one.  

Thankfully my parents are still young and very healthy.  Although I have been threatening them both with the “Sunshine Home” since I was a teenager, when this time comes for them, their happiness will be the most important thing to me.  I will gladly welcome them into my home, or help them in anyway they need.  There has never been a day in my life when I couldn’t count on my parents to be there for me if I needed them.  I hope they know they can always count on me for love and support too.

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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 7, 2012
    • My mom was a hard act to follow. She showed us how to manage cancer and a life cut short by it with grace and dignity. She showed us how to prepare financially and emotionally. She didnt want to be a burden on anyone but also didn’t want to live anywhere other than her home. It was all done on her terms because that’s what she prepared for.

      So I want to be the one to make choices for myself too so I am preparing too.

      Now my father in law may be another story. Story still untold......



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      Trishski wrote Mar 7, 2012
    • Wow, it sounds like your mom was an impressive person.  I hope to live my life this way too.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 7, 2012
    • Thanks, she was heart



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      Mia Folkmann wrote Mar 7, 2012
    • It is a difficult balance, but it is something we all have to think about. I feel like you do: My parents have always been there for me, so I will be there for them. Or rather, for my mother, because she is all I have left now.

      My mother is 76 and she is living with us. If we go to England, we only go for shorter periods - a couple of weeks or so. I think she likes the idea of having the house to herself from time to time, but she knows that she will have our company for longer periods in between. The best of two worlds maybe? I like to think that... happy



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