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Have you ever wanted to do something or try something new but the only thing that stopped you was the criticism you knew you would get from someone in your life?  How many times has it stopped you from doing something?  How has it stopped you from finding your true self - all those things you love, all those things that could end up really defining the inner you?

I don’t know about any of you but this one thing, this one simple thing, has ruled my life since I was in high school. I was the kid in my family who was “the radical, the maverick“. In my family, that wasn’t a good thing. It was a judgment. It was a statement to everyone that “she isn’t like us and that’s not good“.  You hear this so much that you start to believe it’s true.  That’s when you start to lose the real you.

I’ve spent years not doing all those things that I loved and things I’ve wanted to try.  I’ve done things or written things I have never shown anyone because I didn’t want to hear the criticism.  I just wanted to hear something positive, not a judgment of the work or a judgment of who I am.

This year,I vow to live authentically. I vow to find and express the real me, whatever that is. I vow to get over the fear of what others think. And I’m going to do it... not sure how, probably just one small step at a time.  But I will.  By the end of the year, I plan to have a list. Not a list of “the things I want to do” but a list of “all the things I have done!”


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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Feb 3, 2009
    • Way to go, karmagirl! I’ll be interested to see your list.

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      Yana Berlin wrote Feb 3, 2009
    • If there is one rule that I live by is:

      “If she is afraid to fail, she will fail to succeed.”

      Failures are our stepping stones to success, the first step is acknowledgment.

      Let this be the year you achieve all that you always wanted.

      Doing what you love is the name of the game 

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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Feb 3, 2009
    • Welcome to the feeling of being Fabulously 40. It isn’t about a chronological age - it is about coming to the point in life where you determine to be who YOU are, not who others want or expect you to be!  

      Loved this post! We are here to cheer you on, and accept you for who you are.
      I agree with Yana - there are no failures. The only way to fail at something is to quit. You are just one step closer to the success you are looking for.

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      Jenz ~ wrote Feb 3, 2009
    • Excellent. estatic
      The ‘dress rehearsal years’ are passed & now you‘re ready for your own personal ‘Broadway show’ otherwise known as your life, as you would like it to be.  

      I like the saying, “Aim for the moon, if you miss you can always land on a star.”

      You’ll be fantastic. estatic Keep us posted!

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